Yielding seems such a word choice for something good. It’s good that you’re showing yourself grace and giving yourself time to heal. This is a lesson that I’m constantly learning. Right now I’ve not been to work in several days. I have a freaking broken bone in my back! Like…tf? But every part of me wants to run back.
Yield is the correct word not because I feel this compulsory need to work, but because I had to admit. I was not doing well, that I can’t manage on my own. It’s hard to admit that you need to stop because it’s something more than just “a little bit”.
I understand the feeling. Somehow, we are wired to think that we have to always be ready to work – like robots. We feel guilty and ashamed when we have to admit that we need some time off to care for our health.
To think that is our default mode sounds funny when typed. We are humans, and our health should be our priority.
They’re adorable!!!
I’ve actually been meaning to get the plushies of the drama characters of my Chinese bias, but just haven’t gotten around to doing it. Maybe I should look on Temu or AliExpress, etc. 🧐
Or have you watched 2 Days 1 Night? There is an episode when Kim Jong-min showed the other members his signature “self-hug” dance routine. It was so hilarious everyone was laughing their head off.
I have stopped watching the rerun of 2D1N for a while now, but I’ll let you know once I get back to it. I think I just saw it before I stopped watching it. It is in an episode that they are traveling to an island where there are only 2 people who live there. They bring gifts for them also, and they spent one night there doing various things.
KJM shows his signature dance during the boat trip to the island if I’m not mistaken.
I was recently posting on my IG some pictures of my latest reenactment even with the new costumes I got. After the first post an old friend sent me a message saying “You’re getting worse as you get older”. I just ignored it and let it pass. I’m sort of used to people not understanding my hobbies, whether it’s reenactment, kdramas or kpop.
Some days later on my second post I got another message and it said “Booooo, watch out your medication, you are crazy 😂😂😂😂”. And this time I just got tired of being judged, so I just told him in my best manners that he should think before talking and that the comment was not respectful.
What I got in response I didn’t expect. If a friend sent me a message saying they were offended by my comment first thing I’d do is apologise, because I had hurt that person. What did my friend do:
– Are you crazy?
– When did I laughed at you?
– I won’t apologise because I did nothing wrong.
– Are you in one of those days?
– You don’t know how to take a joke.
– I consider you my friend so I’m joking with you and you reply to me this way?
So I didn’t like his comment, said it, and I was the one to blame because I was too picky. So I just insisted: I’m not mad at you, it’s ok we don’t agree, but how do you think I feel when I tell you your comment offends me and you basically call me a hysterical woman and blame for not finding it funny? A joke is a joke only when two people laugh. I am not laughing.
Only then he said he apologised. I don’t believe he really understands what he did to offend me, but at least he won’t repeat it again.
So standing for yourself, telling others that you don’t like what they’ve told you or how they’ve behaved is one step into loving yourself. You are not being picky or selfish. You’re just putting yourself in the first place. That’s love.
Oh, I did, but we are somehow work related. I will have to interact with him, but I cut him off my SNS. I don’t need this kind of relations and I’m too old to be a grown up man teacher.
You know, one of the problems is he’s in his 50s acting as if he were 17.
It sounds like communication online is a problem in this circumstance. I wonder if he had rung to check in and discussed it maybe he might have got why it was not funny sooner.
He called, I didn’t pick up because I knew before hand she would invalidate my feelings, as he did with his texts. I really didn’t want to talk to someone who would turn to silly jokes (probably very sexist) to try and “calm me down”, even if I wasn’t angry at all, just telling him that I was not happy with his comments.
Well done for choosing your battles, there is always a time to let go and then there are the times we need to pursue the point to the bitter end. 💪🏾hwaiting
You are braver than me. A friend did this to me once. To express my discontentment, I posted a link to an article saying “how not to undermine your friends” or something like that 😅. And she immediately felt guilty and asked me what was the occasion to post the article. I made up some story, but I knew she knew. We never talked about it explicitly because she’s an old friend and I’m a rotten person without the guts to tell it to her face. But the closer the person, the more it hurts. You can laugh on me, but you can’t be making unkind comments when you call yourself a “friend”. You did good by standing up for yourself 👍❤
This lesson you only learn with time and after failing many times, at least in my case. So it will come the day when you will be able to do it if it happens again, which I hope it’s not the case for you. I always say that you can say anything to anyone with good words, even not nice things, but learning to say “I don’t like what you said” is one of the first things we should learn to love ourselves.
I’ve had a not-so-good week, so I just didn’t have my mind on the fact that it’s already February.
Fortunately even if the week didn’t star well as I had some minor health issues, but it’s Friday and I’m feeling much better.
Every February I want to make my posts about love revolve around a theme and I think this year they will be about loving yourself, because only when you learn that you are the most important person in your life and the one you must fight to make happy, you will be able to share your happiness with others.
Loving yourself is not being selfish. Putting yourself in the first place is not being selfish. Learning to say “No” and “Goodbye, let’s not meet again” doesn’t make you a mean person. Even if you said “Yes” and “Hello” every single time before.
Discovering the amazing person you can be by trying to explore and learn from others, listening, sharing and being listened to will make you brighter.
I’m not saying it will be an easy path.
As Oscar Wilde said before: “To love yourself is the beginning of a lifetime romance”.
January seemed like it lasted forever, but it wasn’t until I read “Love, February” that I realized that February is in fact here and how crazy that’s its been a year since the last Love, February.
I hope you feel better soon! I’m in a love yourself mood, so your first entry is hitting me in the feels. Wishing you a speedy recovery!
Same for me!! January felt like such a drag, and even though I knew February had finally arrived— I KNOW, because my mum’s birthday is Feb. 1st— it didn’t register to me that it is also “Love, February” season 🫣🤯
I wonder if the leads of Between him and her will actually talk to each other. I wonder if I can endure another episode of “I’m so heartbroken and you don’t understand me”.
Sorry I have no idea why the predictive text changed my reply to gibberish. It should say Moved its broadcast day so it will be in the crowded weekend slot.
I have been busy during the first weeks of January. Many of you know that besides being a drama lover and 2PM Fanclub President I am also a time traveller. So after Christmas I travelled in time and space to Malta were I attended a lovely winter event, meaning the days before I left I spent lots of time sewing finishing my outfits.
Hope this Guadiana River can be more present now. And just to prove that I was not joking about time traveling, here you have some proof.
There is a specific type of brooch, called “lover’s brooch” that is a painting of the eye of your lover. I have already asked a friend to do it for me!!! 😂😂
@attiton it’s not a hidden compartment!! You wear it at sight. I have to chose among my 6 babes. It was a tough decision. But also they agreed, as they know I have a favourite.
The hat and the reticule, which can’t be seen in this picture, was hand made by a friend who has a small business for this crafts. The look was really a good one, I was very satisfied with it!!!
Am I the only one who has River where the Moon rises vibes with Love Song for Illusion: a princes disguised as a killer, a benefactor that is not, an evil king, just thinking out loud…
I haven’t seen River Where the Moon Rises, but it also sounds like the past-life part of Moon in the Day, right down to the cheesy costumes. So it’s a Frankenstein’s monster of reused fantasy-sageuk body parts?
Oh, yes, we should add Moon in the day in the maxmix. It is always the damsel whose life is ruined that survives in the hiding and then falls in love with the enemy. Add also a bit of Bloody Heart
There is a river in Spain called Guadiana. River Guadiana is a bit special because after it springs in a place called Laguna de Ruidera, it disappears (because it goes underground) and it springs again in a place called Los Ojos del Guadiana (The Eyes of the Guadiana). Is this a Geography lesson, beanies? No, but just me explaining that there is a common saying in Spain that I use a lot, when something is missing for a while but then it pops out (being a person, an item, whatever), we say: “it appears and disappears like the Guadiana”.
During this 2023 that is about to end, I was much like River Guadiana, appearing and disappearing for weeks in DB. Many things have happened, most of them good, but I was busy, and I’m VERY lazy, so most of the times I just lurked and never participated.
Even so DB and Beanies are the riverbed I love to come back always.
So Happy 2024 to all Beanies all over the world. May the new year be filled with joy, love, happiness, calmness, chatting and lots of health. Please take care, put yourselves in the center and make yourselves the most important person in your life, because nobody else has the power to make you happy.
I love being a Beanie. Thank you all for this wonderful community.
Well, part of them are not mine but George’s Michael. The song “Heal the pain” has this wonderful sentence; be good to yourself cause nobody else has the power to make you happy.
I love that saying about found things. Yes you got to travel to see your special person several times in 2023 so let’s hope that busyness can also be joyful in 2024 too.
Looking forward to your comments as and when you can.
Happy New Year Eazal! Learnt something new today with this new phrase you’ve taught us – glad to see you active on the site & looking forward to reading your commentary this year (but also equally it’s of course okay to disappear a bit and lurk like the Guadiana too when you feel like it!) ✨
Last week I couldn’t post all days so I wanted to catch up this week, and this afternoon was the day I planned to write my entries and read all yours. Yes, I had a plan, but life had other.
I woke up this morning to the news of Lee Sung Kyun suicide (yes, I’ll say it openly) and I am still in shock.
Like in a bad drama, I feel the whole case against him was built to divert attention from the real problem (corruption, abuse, power), and focusing on popular figures like G-Dragon, LSK, YAI diverts the attention from the real problem. Using drugs is not a good thing for sure, but it’s far worse trafficking with them. Let the public talk on how famous people commit crimes, because after all nothing is better that a makjang in which we see rich people suffering and fighting each other. Yes, but this is not a bad drama. This was real life. And one of those lives is gone forever.
Like in a bad drama, the man couldn’t face the fact that he would never recover what he had lost in a couple of months. He knew there was no way back. Because it didn’t matter if he was cleared or not. Public will always hate him and point at him, and not trust him anymore. That same public that doesn’t understand that drug addiction is a disease, not a crime and if someone is ill, they need help not being exposed as criminals.
In a country in which you can drink yourself to death, in which you must prove yourself by drinking, that can\’t refuse to have a drink if a superior, or an older person asks you to drink, it’s just ironic how the mention of drugs can unite the society into saying: drugs are bad because you hurt the body you were given. We all know alcohol is not a drug and Korean livers and brains are not affected by it. Yes, Sheldon, this is sarcasm.
It’s the same country in which if you’ve used drugs you can consider your career over (I don’t think we’ll ever see again YIA in a lead role), but if you’ve committed sexual assault… don’t worry… we have a drama for you.
And this all, which you already know, which is not new, but even so is devastating, makes me wonder what should I do? Can I go on supporting an industry that consents this? Where is the support for LSK or YAI? If this amazing actors are going through hell, what happens to all those rookies, in the hands of all kind of agencies, who go through PS procedures to look prettier, who yield to men and women in all kind of ways to pursue their dream? Is anyone protecting them? Shouldn’t I be that person? If I encourage the industry with all this behaviors, knowing they exist, am I an accomplice?
Should I stop watching dramas? Should I quit on Kpop?
I’m not naive. I know entertainment industry all over the world is not a bed of roses, but when you actually know how bad it is, you need to do something. For instance it’s ages I don’t listen to Michael Jackson music because as great and amazing as his music was, he was a monster.
That is a question I seriously hope is on the minds of the people who cause these tragic situations and have the power to change things for the better
Empathy, compassion, understanding, and educating are ways we can respond. Everytime something like this happens, it feels like it should be the last, but it’s always the same. A person is judged harshly, there is no thought about how there is a real person behind that famous name, and they are backed into a corner. We’re a small community here, but if even just one person stumbles across DB today and sees the caring reactions on the fanwall and changes their way of thinking, maybe that will add up to something
I wish we had a series of posts that allow us to send messages to Kdrama actors and actresses encouraging and natural response to whatever scandals they are facing. I think DB can also hire a translator or have someone volunteer to translate the comments under the posts to Korean so there might be a higher chance of them coming across and UNDERSTAND these messages. There is a language barrier there, as I’m sure very few, if any, K actors and actresses understand English fully or at the functional level. SK is not the whole world, and the world is kinder and view things more naturally and realistically then what is normally perceived in a restricted, repressed, and conservative SK society.
I wish there was a way to make Beanies’ posts as seen and as heard as k-netizen posts. To make a stir. Or at least the slightest ripple. To someday hopefully result in a wave.
Until that happens, what we CAN do here and now for each other is hold tightly to kindness, compassion, care, love, and sympathy in how we treat each other on here ♥️
Maybe write out a summary of all your entries into a single post—maybe 2 posts at most because squishing it all into a single post may be too much, for yourself and others (such a big block of text 🙃)—which you can then copy and paste onto your Fan Wall/the Beanie Section (cuz of word limit), and that way, you can express and share your entries but it won’t run the risk of spamming the Fan Wall via multiple posts in such a sensitive time related to all things Kdramas, and those who don’t read your post now, but want to come back to it later, can scroll past and come back to it later? Just a suggestion.
It’s definitely a sensitive time and space we are in, but that shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself, especially when it can be done in a way in which you can control the mood (being mindful & sensitive, etc.), as I feel like the inability to express and a lack of an outlet to express is one of the factors that contributes to sad and tragic moments like the one we are all seeing unfold—or which already has unfolded— in the last X amount of hours.
I’m not sure if I made sense? I hope you are well, Eazal ♥️
I don’t know if I am ok with all what is happening, but I’m trying my best to hold on to the bright side I find in kdramas and in this beautiful community, but also I am very self aware that I, in fact, have a contribution to the industry and I have my share in social responsibility.
It’s a hard time, and not only because of this. I also have lost a dear friend in the most unexpected, unfair and absurd way recently. Makes me think about the things I should do better in life.
Bebe, your words are always a good medicine. When I think about compassion and being gentle to oneself believe me, you come to mind so many times. Thanks for being the way you are.
I wish want to do something too. The news hit me yesterday morning. It’s been a day since then. His family is holding the funeral already. And out there, life goes on. I don’t know what I should do so that I am less of an “accomplice” in this situation. I can give up watching Kdramas if it can help.
These lines keep popping up in my mind
“Somewhere far beyond the office walls, Harry could hear the sound of voices, students heading down to the Great Hall for an early breakfast, perhaps. It seemed impossible that there could be people in the world who still desired food, who laughed, who neither knew nor cared that Sirius Black was gone forever. Sirius seems a million miles away already; even now part of Harry still believed that if he had only pulled back that veil, he would have found Sirius looking back at him, greeting him, perhaps, with his laugh like a bark…”
(HP&TOoTP).
When @ndlessjoie warned me not to expose myself to K entertainment media yesterday nor DB until I’m ready because there is some terribly sad news, I immediately thought of YAI.
I guess I instinctively knew what kind of news to expect, and that does not bode well for SK.
I’m angry. Really angry at what seems to have happened (still haven’t read the news thoroughly for fear that I can’t manage my heart and emotions). I can say 100 bad words cussing SK society and its toxic culture and internet culture out, but I don’t know if that will lead to any change.
So this is all I’m gonna say for now:
– I used to be proud of SK as an Asian country that is stepping on to the world’s stage, but being a first-world country means, actually means, people would want to live IN your country because people there live a GOOD life. I love how competitive you all are, but your culture is toxic and unnatural on so many fronts, I’m not sure how long you can keep this up. And no, I’m not proud anymore. This is the first time I’m happy living in a place that is not as judgmental as in the SK society, where appearance and clean record mean everything. Appearance is superficial, a d clean record means the person is probably obedient, lucky, and never really did anything in life (You can’t fail when you don’t do anything because you’re bound to fail sometimes when you do something. That’s how we learn).
I guess this type of society is great at making those strange and shocking shows we see lately. You have enough source materials. What we see on the TV has their source materials irl then! What a disappointment. What a shame.
Unnatural things crumble. Do something about it, or wait for that day.
I’m talking about K entertainment in particular, though I always think there are so many misconceptions and unnatural expectations in the most absurdly way about many natural things in SK such as divorce, how each person should act, how seniority works, how to live.
And may you rest in peace, dear soul. Tbh, I still can’t believe the name I saw might refer to the one I think. I can’t send strength to their family because I don’t have that kind of strength at the moment. I feel angry, and sad, for everything that led to this (and to many others before this).
I consume K-ent with a guarded heart and even so, I’m devastated by LSK’s death. I skip any K-drama with a known sexual assaulter in the cast and try not to become attached to any actor or idol. I’m tired of waking up to the news of another suicide. The day that SK starts to take this problem seriously and look for a kind and humane solution can’t come soon enough.
It has not been a good year for villains, not for me, certainly, so I almost thought about skipping this one, but then I remembered… I have one!!
I liked Payback. It was probably not the best drama but it was really fun to watch, and it has Lee Sun Kyun.
The drama also have two very bad and cartoonish villains that you love to watch being defeated every time: Myung In Joo (Kim Hong Fa)being the man that can buy everything and his son in law, Hwang Ki Seok (Park Soon), the man who would do anything to cover up the mess. Both were good villains, buying everything and everyone with money and out of fear, and that is why it was so rewarding to see them suffer, haha.
I really liked this drama. If you want to watch a funny and entertaining revenge drama, go for this one!
I have very few rules when watching dramas or movies. I can watch almost anything, no matter the genre, but I always avoid the Arthurian cycle (don’t ask) and zombies, because zombies are scary. Even the ones who are supposed to be funny. No. Zombies are scary. A Lot.
So because of this it was impossible that I even dared to watch Happiness (2021), no matter if HyungSik is the cutest (sorry, Taec, that is a F A C T), and how much I love Han HyoJoo. There was no way this beanie watched a scary drama with zombies on it. No, no, no. 🥺
But one of my friends kept insisting, and then it was her 16 years old daughter that wanted me to watch because it was her absolute favorite drama, and no matter how much I didn’t want to get into scary zombies… well… I finally pressed play. Not gonna lie, it was a hard watch, but also, I really enjoyed it because the OTP is pure gold, and of course HyungSik is the epitome of cutesy. Also, as my friend said and she was absolutely right, the drama is full of people you love to hate. And gosh, that is so, so true!
I’m rewatching Happiness right now! I loved it so much when I watched it and I had nothing on my plate, so I just pressed play on this one again and enjoying it the second time around. So good!
What is a guilty pleasure to begin either? I would define it as not of those dramas you know it’s bad, ridiculous, and probably a waste of time as when you finish it you will probably erase from your mind, and yet… yes, you are watching.
This category belongs entirely to Moon in the day. As I said on the www thread, no acting, directing or writing was involved in this drama, and yet I enjoyed it to the fullest. Would I recommend to watch? No way!!! But what can I say? I had so much fun watching I can’t say those 14 hours have been wasted.
That’s a great definition, and as you know I agree 100% with everything you’ve said about Moon. I refuse to feel guilt about any legal form of pleasure, so for me it was more detached wonder at my own enjoyment of this lukewarm mess. I never even considered dropping it.
Not even for a minute!! I didn’t enjoy a mess this much since I married an antifan, although in that drama there was as tiny bit of acting involving and the OTP relationship was healthier than the one in Moon. That is not saying a lot, I know, but…
Parenting is not what Dramas do the best, we are always shown terrible parents who think their children are just a way for them to shine rather than their own individual persons. From all the mums in Crash Course on Romance that fight each other to make their kids number one, to all the woman who think that just because they have given birth a child they owe them the world (Call it love, Doona!), to the mother that won’t allow a son to be the donor for his wife because his body will be hurt and that can’t be pretending to have the most strict Confucian values (Doctor Cha) to the awful parents in Perfect Marriage Revenge, and I’m not talking only about the obvious and terrible step mum, but those two fathers who created monsters and didn’t get any punishment for that.
But even with all these examples, to me the worst parent was Choi RoHee’s dad in The kidnapping day, who was the monster who killed his wife and experimented on her daughter and treated her just like a guinea pig. It was heartbreaking and a horrible metaphor about how many kids get this treatment from their parents.
The Kidnapping Day felt like a giant “what not to do” guide to future parents (Don’t inject viruses into your kid’s brain, don’t send your HIV-positive adopted daughter back to the orphanage, don’t leave your daughter with cancer alone in the hospital for weeks, don’t murder or attempt to murder your kid’s other family members . . . the list could go on).
Even is Season 2 was not as good as Season 1, I will have to stick with my distracting foxes as the best bromance. Even if time travel has rules, this second opportunity Yeon had with Rang felt like a treasure and I embraced it. Add to that HongJoo and MooYoung and it was perfect. Also the sidekicks of all of them trying to be the best sidekicks was hilarious: ShinJoo, JaeYoo and MiYeon. So funny!
Best womance
It surely was YoungYoo and SoonAe in My perfect stranger. The lovely crush the daughter got on her mum as she learned that once she was a young girl with her own dreams, rather than the quiet mum she knew all along, her fierce defense of her was so sweet to watch. Best thing in the drama.
I have learned my mistakes. I might have got a bean of shame or a guilty bean this year, but I’ve learned I can drop a drama if I’m not interested anymore, or never was to begin with. Dropping a drama has nothing to do with it being good or bad, but on how it makes you feel. Right now I live in the “only adding” zone, so when something does not add anything, I just leave it aside.
I dropped so many dramas after one or two episodes, I won’t even mention them. Yes, I learned to drop them, but I never said anything about not learning to press play, even if I knew it wouldn’t suit me, so I will just list the dramas I dropped after episode 3:
– Connect (ep. 3). Weird. I wish I knew what I was watching. If anyone does, please tell. Not even HaeIn got me hooked.
– The Heavenly idol (ep. 8). Between The Evil One and The Evil Two, I was wondering how this mess could get anywhere. I always like a drama that can show something about the Kpop industry and how strings are pulled, but this didn’t make any sense. I really loved leads, and some plots, but I just rolled my eyes at Evil One and Evil Two.
– The good bad mother (ep. 7). LDH and JSY would be more than enough to get me into ANY drama, and I could even have watched it all if I knew that evil woman would never get a redemption arch, but given how fond dramas are of filial piety, I just couldn’t go on after she thew the poor guy into the river in winter. The sole thought of her resting in peace and not burning in hell for eternity made me sick, even if this was just a drama.
– Doctor Romantic 3 (ep. 8). I’m so sorry Kim Sabu, but I only endured all those 8 episodes trying so hard to like it, then I realized there was no need. I didn’t care at all, so better stop watching.
– King the land (ep. 10). I’m sorry babe, but I didn’t even find it funny. I wonder where the writing was, and Junho alone couldn’t hold the drama for me. It’s a pity because I think Sarang was a very interesting FL in dreamland, I really liked her and would have liked her even better if she was actually played by someone who could act. As for the side characters, I liked evil sister at first, only to find her boring with her repetitive behavior. Even so, I’m happy people enjoyed. It’s not that I didn’t, just that I didn’t care at all about anything that happened… that’s even worse, isn\’t it?
– The killing vote (ep. 4). Or The devil judge revisited. I already had watched that one, no need to repeat.
– Destined with you (ep. 3). I don’t know if this is a drop or me just being lazy. I never pressed on episode four. I think my issue was RoWon trying to act seriously. Like Taec, he should stick to fluffy and funny.
– Behind your touch (ep. 5). Two of my favorite leads and the whole butt touching with a serial murder. No thanks.
– Moving (ep. 8). I really didn’t care about the adult characters, and I didn’t quite like the violence, felt all over the place. I may finish it one day, but I seriously doubt it.
I only start shows that I feel Id love to try at that moment. I’m a mood watcher.
I learnt that if it’s the right choice, itll click with me within seconds or, in any case, before the first ep ends. There have been some rare instances of dropping shows midway, though, but these are rare (dishonorable mentions: The Real (ep 10) and Crash Course (ep 10?).
True it’s a pity not to be able to discuss with Beans, but I prioritize my mental well-being. Shows that don’t click with me now may click with me in the future when the timing is right.
“I didn’t care at all about anything that happened”.
I think this is a very good reason to drop a drama. That’s why I dropped True Beauty two times (last time in the middle of episode 7), but I still want to finish that drama… someday.
Eazal
February 14, 2024 at 12:55 AM
Happy heavenly birthday, mum.
Love,
February
mmmmm
February 14, 2024 at 3:03 AM
♥️
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 14, 2024 at 12:18 PM
🤗 ❤
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 10:00 AM
I yielded.
I took a sick leave.
Just one week for now.
Showing some compassion and love for myself.
Time to heal.
Love,
February
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 7, 2024 at 10:37 AM
Good for you self care is essential. Hope you feel better soon❤️
mmmmm
February 7, 2024 at 1:09 PM
Have plenty of rest and TLC that you and your body need!
isa: I'm not a serial killer I'm just really passionate about things
February 7, 2024 at 2:43 PM
Yielding seems such a word choice for something good. It’s good that you’re showing yourself grace and giving yourself time to heal. This is a lesson that I’m constantly learning. Right now I’ve not been to work in several days. I have a freaking broken bone in my back! Like…tf? But every part of me wants to run back.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 7, 2024 at 2:47 PM
Oh gosh, I hope you are pain free and make a full recovery soon.
Eazal
February 8, 2024 at 3:58 AM
Yield is the correct word not because I feel this compulsory need to work, but because I had to admit. I was not doing well, that I can’t manage on my own. It’s hard to admit that you need to stop because it’s something more than just “a little bit”.
mmmmm
February 8, 2024 at 7:17 AM
I understand the feeling. Somehow, we are wired to think that we have to always be ready to work – like robots. We feel guilty and ashamed when we have to admit that we need some time off to care for our health.
To think that is our default mode sounds funny when typed. We are humans, and our health should be our priority.
isa: I'm not a serial killer I'm just really passionate about things
February 8, 2024 at 11:46 AM
I didn’t mean it negatively. It feels like there should be a more gentle word for deciding to take care of yourself.
Qingdao: likes scented candles
February 8, 2024 at 11:05 AM
Convalescence from the stress of life is often necessary…appear and disappear as needed. Let the healing begin!
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 14, 2024 at 2:14 PM
Glad you decided to prioritize yourself. It is important to acknowledge that we need to rest and heal and just pause to take a breath.
Stay blessed. ❤
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 9:58 AM
In today’s A day at the gym we have Jun.K and Hwang Changung.
@kurama I will keep you updated!
Kurama
February 7, 2024 at 11:03 AM
Keep me updated about what? 🤔
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 11:22 AM
Oh, no!!! Not you 🤪🤪🤪🤪😜
It was @parkchuna
How did I confuse you two?
🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
Kurama
February 7, 2024 at 11:41 AM
Because you see my name everywhere thanks to @seeker ? 😅😂
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 12:17 PM
Now I need to know what’s between you and Rowoon 🤔
Kurama
February 7, 2024 at 12:29 PM
https://www.dramabeans.com/2024/02/team-dramabeans-what-were-watching-february-3-2024/#comment-4163594
Kurama
February 7, 2024 at 12:32 PM
It’s where we found her :p
https://www.dramabeans.com/2022/01/team-dramabeans-what-were-watching-297/#comment-4163579
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 7, 2024 at 7:32 PM
@Kurama ❤ the rescue queen!!
parkchuna ❤️🍉
February 11, 2024 at 2:08 AM
Aww thank you E! Happy to report i have this in my collection. I was planning to post an update but i got sidetracked by Sweet Chae in a j-drama.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 14, 2024 at 12:48 PM
Very understandable… to get sidetracked. 😊
Eazal
February 6, 2024 at 9:20 AM
Do you really think there is such a thing as too many dolls?
Really?
Fangirl struggles….
😂😂😂😂😂
Bebe | Nessa❣️
February 6, 2024 at 9:25 AM
They’re adorable!!!
I’ve actually been meaning to get the plushies of the drama characters of my Chinese bias, but just haven’t gotten around to doing it. Maybe I should look on Temu or AliExpress, etc. 🧐
Eazal
February 6, 2024 at 9:46 AM
These are a mix of official merch and fan made dolls. I really find them sooooo cute!!
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 8, 2024 at 1:32 PM
ALL are perfect.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 6, 2024 at 9:49 AM
I love the full collection they must take over your room
Eazal
February 6, 2024 at 10:11 AM
I have them split: dolls on one shelf and ZooPM on the bed. There was a moment there so many a drastic decision has to be made! 😂
mmmmm
February 6, 2024 at 9:55 AM
Is there something as having too many plushies? I haven’t heard of that!
P.S. There is one plushie I absolutely adore. She is my power charger – I always hug her whenever I feel down or upset. She’s like my treasure.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 6, 2024 at 9:58 AM
So good to have an instant mood changer ❤️
mmmmm
February 6, 2024 at 10:01 AM
Yes. Always at hand.
Or have you watched 2 Days 1 Night? There is an episode when Kim Jong-min showed the other members his signature “self-hug” dance routine. It was so hilarious everyone was laughing their head off.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 6, 2024 at 10:05 AM
No I have not watched that programme but that sounds really funny I will see if they have a clip on YT.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 6, 2024 at 10:07 AM
Do you know the episode number?
mmmmm
February 6, 2024 at 10:24 AM
I have stopped watching the rerun of 2D1N for a while now, but I’ll let you know once I get back to it. I think I just saw it before I stopped watching it. It is in an episode that they are traveling to an island where there are only 2 people who live there. They bring gifts for them also, and they spent one night there doing various things.
KJM shows his signature dance during the boat trip to the island if I’m not mistaken.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 6, 2024 at 10:49 AM
@mmmmm no rush, if your memory is as bad as mine you will need to make a note of who to send the info to and save the bookmark to the post.
Dorotka
February 6, 2024 at 10:12 AM
As my twin daughters would tell you: there is NEVER enough of plushies. We have them EVERYWHERE… and they are now saving for a new one. 😅
Your collection is super cute. 😊
mmmmm
February 6, 2024 at 10:24 AM
Pls say hi to your twin daughters from me!
mugyuljoie is preciousss
February 7, 2024 at 2:30 AM
Junho looks well represented. 😉❤️
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 9:49 AM
Junho and Penpen should be the most represented and they are, but just because I refrain from buying more Wooyoung dolls and Piyoungs 😂😂😂😂
Those twins are going to be the end of me 🫠
mmmmm
February 7, 2024 at 9:51 AM
Where is he in all those plushies? *pretends not to see*
Eazal
February 7, 2024 at 10:12 AM
Oh, M… I can send you one by one the pictures of Junho dolls and plushies… you know I can!
mmmmm
February 7, 2024 at 1:08 PM
That’s what I’m afraid of! 🤣
Cecee
February 7, 2024 at 3:55 AM
Someone needs a bigger bed
mmmmm
February 7, 2024 at 9:51 AM
🤣
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 8, 2024 at 1:35 PM
The plushies need a biggest bed … rest can sleep on the floor. 😜
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 8, 2024 at 1:31 PM
No, never, not … there is never a to much of much-ness.
Eazal
February 5, 2024 at 11:40 AM
You are too old to have so many dolls and plushies.
Really? I guess so, but… it makes me happy!! ☺️☺️☺️☺️
Love is in the simplest things.
Love,
February
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 5, 2024 at 11:41 AM
Excellent selection❤️
Eazal
February 5, 2024 at 2:04 PM
Tomorrow I will share the whole collection! It somehow got out of hands 😅😅😅
Bebe | Nessa❣️
February 5, 2024 at 2:40 PM
Embrace it ♥️ The inner fangirl, I mean. There’s no shame, girl!
kiara
February 5, 2024 at 11:50 AM
I love plushies.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 5, 2024 at 12:09 PM
You have a wonderful collection. ❤ 🥳 Like Enid Baytown promised I like to think the all come “alive” at midnight to party. 😊
Midnight
February 5, 2024 at 1:33 PM
If they do come “alive” at midnight Eazal will be the happiest Hottest on earth!
Eazal
February 5, 2024 at 2:03 PM
Oh, yes, please!!! All of them!!! 😅😅😅
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 5, 2024 at 5:57 PM
🎊 💕
owl 🦉 🫰
February 5, 2024 at 7:13 PM
Keep adding to your collection ❤️
korfan
February 6, 2024 at 4:18 PM
Cute!
Eazal
February 4, 2024 at 10:18 AM
Sometimes taking a step back is the bravest thing to do.
I’m not as well as I thought I was.
I will take care of me.
Love,
February
mmmmm
February 4, 2024 at 10:53 AM
That’s a brave decision to make, and not an easy one. I know you’ll choose right.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 4, 2024 at 10:56 AM
You are 💪🏽than you know. Take care of yourself. ❤
Bebe | Nessa❣️
February 4, 2024 at 5:13 PM
This 💯
Fighting, Eazal!! ♥️
bbstl 🧹
February 4, 2024 at 12:03 PM
Yes, you are wise to know when to take a step back. Also, February is hard.
Eazal
February 3, 2024 at 12:43 PM
Sometimes you have to stand for yourself.
I was recently posting on my IG some pictures of my latest reenactment even with the new costumes I got. After the first post an old friend sent me a message saying “You’re getting worse as you get older”. I just ignored it and let it pass. I’m sort of used to people not understanding my hobbies, whether it’s reenactment, kdramas or kpop.
Some days later on my second post I got another message and it said “Booooo, watch out your medication, you are crazy 😂😂😂😂”. And this time I just got tired of being judged, so I just told him in my best manners that he should think before talking and that the comment was not respectful.
What I got in response I didn’t expect. If a friend sent me a message saying they were offended by my comment first thing I’d do is apologise, because I had hurt that person. What did my friend do:
– Are you crazy?
– When did I laughed at you?
– I won’t apologise because I did nothing wrong.
– Are you in one of those days?
– You don’t know how to take a joke.
– I consider you my friend so I’m joking with you and you reply to me this way?
So I didn’t like his comment, said it, and I was the one to blame because I was too picky. So I just insisted: I’m not mad at you, it’s ok we don’t agree, but how do you think I feel when I tell you your comment offends me and you basically call me a hysterical woman and blame for not finding it funny? A joke is a joke only when two people laugh. I am not laughing.
Only then he said he apologised. I don’t believe he really understands what he did to offend me, but at least he won’t repeat it again.
So standing for yourself, telling others that you don’t like what they’ve told you or how they’ve behaved is one step into loving yourself. You are not being picky or selfish. You’re just putting yourself in the first place. That’s love.
Love,
February
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 3, 2024 at 1:05 PM
Thank you for sharing what is in no way, shape or form “friendly” interaction. I’m sorry you had to endure it but good on you to call out the BS.
The JK is the worst non-apology. My response is exactly that – it is only a joke when the other person is also laughing.
The lesson to stand up for ourselves is one which needs repeating.
nerdy
February 3, 2024 at 4:29 PM
If you don’t mind me asking, why don’t you just cut off the contact with him?
Eazal
February 4, 2024 at 12:12 AM
Oh, I did, but we are somehow work related. I will have to interact with him, but I cut him off my SNS. I don’t need this kind of relations and I’m too old to be a grown up man teacher.
You know, one of the problems is he’s in his 50s acting as if he were 17.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 4, 2024 at 12:17 AM
It sounds like communication online is a problem in this circumstance. I wonder if he had rung to check in and discussed it maybe he might have got why it was not funny sooner.
Eazal
February 4, 2024 at 8:10 AM
He called, I didn’t pick up because I knew before hand she would invalidate my feelings, as he did with his texts. I really didn’t want to talk to someone who would turn to silly jokes (probably very sexist) to try and “calm me down”, even if I wasn’t angry at all, just telling him that I was not happy with his comments.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 4, 2024 at 8:23 AM
Gosh not impressive at all😒
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 4, 2024 at 12:21 AM
Well done for choosing your battles, there is always a time to let go and then there are the times we need to pursue the point to the bitter end. 💪🏾hwaiting
Anne18
February 4, 2024 at 3:04 AM
You are braver than me. A friend did this to me once. To express my discontentment, I posted a link to an article saying “how not to undermine your friends” or something like that 😅. And she immediately felt guilty and asked me what was the occasion to post the article. I made up some story, but I knew she knew. We never talked about it explicitly because she’s an old friend and I’m a rotten person without the guts to tell it to her face. But the closer the person, the more it hurts. You can laugh on me, but you can’t be making unkind comments when you call yourself a “friend”. You did good by standing up for yourself 👍❤
Eazal
February 4, 2024 at 8:14 AM
This lesson you only learn with time and after failing many times, at least in my case. So it will come the day when you will be able to do it if it happens again, which I hope it’s not the case for you. I always say that you can say anything to anyone with good words, even not nice things, but learning to say “I don’t like what you said” is one of the first things we should learn to love ourselves.
Anne18
February 4, 2024 at 5:24 PM
So true! I hope I learn to protect my feelings soon too 🙂
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 7, 2024 at 10:57 AM
❤ 🫰
Eazal
February 2, 2024 at 12:22 PM
I’ve had a not-so-good week, so I just didn’t have my mind on the fact that it’s already February.
Fortunately even if the week didn’t star well as I had some minor health issues, but it’s Friday and I’m feeling much better.
Every February I want to make my posts about love revolve around a theme and I think this year they will be about loving yourself, because only when you learn that you are the most important person in your life and the one you must fight to make happy, you will be able to share your happiness with others.
Loving yourself is not being selfish. Putting yourself in the first place is not being selfish. Learning to say “No” and “Goodbye, let’s not meet again” doesn’t make you a mean person. Even if you said “Yes” and “Hello” every single time before.
Discovering the amazing person you can be by trying to explore and learn from others, listening, sharing and being listened to will make you brighter.
I’m not saying it will be an easy path.
As Oscar Wilde said before: “To love yourself is the beginning of a lifetime romance”.
Love,
February
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 2, 2024 at 12:26 PM
Sorry to hear things have been tough, hoping you are moving towards full recovery.
Thanks for the reminder it’s love February. I don’t know if anyone else remembered or if they did I missed it.
Eazal
February 2, 2024 at 1:04 PM
Surely Cocoa is busy, but it’s a tradition I just live to keep, so anyone can join.
mugyuljoie is preciousss
February 2, 2024 at 9:39 PM
I hope she makes an appearance.
Jellybn
February 2, 2024 at 1:24 PM
January seemed like it lasted forever, but it wasn’t until I read “Love, February” that I realized that February is in fact here and how crazy that’s its been a year since the last Love, February.
I hope you feel better soon! I’m in a love yourself mood, so your first entry is hitting me in the feels. Wishing you a speedy recovery!
Eazal
February 2, 2024 at 1:45 PM
As I said, feeling much better today, and I hope the weekend will help me even more.
Thanks so much!!
Bebe | Nessa❣️
February 2, 2024 at 5:48 PM
Same for me!! January felt like such a drag, and even though I knew February had finally arrived— I KNOW, because my mum’s birthday is Feb. 1st— it didn’t register to me that it is also “Love, February” season 🫣🤯
korfan
February 2, 2024 at 7:54 PM
Glad to know you’re feeling much better. 🙂
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
February 3, 2024 at 12:14 PM
Thank you for a wonderful post and a timely reminder on self-love.
Hope you are feeling better and your health niggles have waved goodbye. 👋
Eazal
January 22, 2024 at 1:17 PM
I wonder if the leads of Between him and her will actually talk to each other. I wonder if I can endure another episode of “I’m so heartbroken and you don’t understand me”.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
January 22, 2024 at 2:58 PM
Did you ,see it’s moved its broadcast day so wil in thebcrowded 2?
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
January 23, 2024 at 10:26 AM
Sorry I have no idea why the predictive text changed my reply to gibberish. It should say Moved its broadcast day so it will be in the crowded weekend slot.
Eazal
January 21, 2024 at 12:51 AM
I have been busy during the first weeks of January. Many of you know that besides being a drama lover and 2PM Fanclub President I am also a time traveller. So after Christmas I travelled in time and space to Malta were I attended a lovely winter event, meaning the days before I left I spent lots of time sewing finishing my outfits.
Hope this Guadiana River can be more present now. And just to prove that I was not joking about time traveling, here you have some proof.
mmmmm
January 21, 2024 at 1:53 AM
You look absolutely gorgeous (even from your side) 🙂
Midnight
January 21, 2024 at 2:14 AM
Brilliant!
Midnight
January 21, 2024 at 2:31 AM
I’m imagining a brooch on your lapel with a hidden photo of Junho inside.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
January 21, 2024 at 3:38 AM
I love this idea… and want to steal it. 👌🤣
Eazal
January 21, 2024 at 6:17 AM
There is a specific type of brooch, called “lover’s brooch” that is a painting of the eye of your lover. I have already asked a friend to do it for me!!! 😂😂
Midnight
January 21, 2024 at 6:35 AM
🤣🤣🤣 Am I a shaman or what!!?
Seon-ha
January 21, 2024 at 7:44 AM
Is it Junho’s eye tho?? I bet not!??
Midnight
January 21, 2024 at 8:02 AM
@attiton It could have a hidden compartment tho 😌
Seon-ha
January 21, 2024 at 8:06 AM
Nah, I meant it’s gonna be Chansung’s eye 👁️.
But you make a fine point, it’s really gonna need six separate hidden compartments, isn’t it?
Midnight
January 21, 2024 at 8:18 AM
@attiton Yes! Six compartments is the wisest way to go!
Eazal
January 21, 2024 at 11:01 AM
@attiton it’s not a hidden compartment!! You wear it at sight. I have to chose among my 6 babes. It was a tough decision. But also they agreed, as they know I have a favourite.
Wooyoung complained a little, though 😆😆😆
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
January 21, 2024 at 3:38 AM
Picture perfect … and I love the hat!!
Eazal
January 21, 2024 at 6:18 AM
The hat and the reticule, which can’t be seen in this picture, was hand made by a friend who has a small business for this crafts. The look was really a good one, I was very satisfied with it!!!
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
January 21, 2024 at 6:58 AM
😊👏
Eazal
January 5, 2024 at 7:30 AM
Am I the only one who has River where the Moon rises vibes with Love Song for Illusion: a princes disguised as a killer, a benefactor that is not, an evil king, just thinking out loud…
Elinor lives in the realm of the Impossible
January 5, 2024 at 8:46 AM
I haven’t seen River Where the Moon Rises, but it also sounds like the past-life part of Moon in the Day, right down to the cheesy costumes. So it’s a Frankenstein’s monster of reused fantasy-sageuk body parts?
Eazal
January 5, 2024 at 8:51 AM
Oh, yes, we should add Moon in the day in the maxmix. It is always the damsel whose life is ruined that survives in the hiding and then falls in love with the enemy. Add also a bit of Bloody Heart
Eazal
December 31, 2023 at 9:50 AM
There is a river in Spain called Guadiana. River Guadiana is a bit special because after it springs in a place called Laguna de Ruidera, it disappears (because it goes underground) and it springs again in a place called Los Ojos del Guadiana (The Eyes of the Guadiana). Is this a Geography lesson, beanies? No, but just me explaining that there is a common saying in Spain that I use a lot, when something is missing for a while but then it pops out (being a person, an item, whatever), we say: “it appears and disappears like the Guadiana”.
During this 2023 that is about to end, I was much like River Guadiana, appearing and disappearing for weeks in DB. Many things have happened, most of them good, but I was busy, and I’m VERY lazy, so most of the times I just lurked and never participated.
Even so DB and Beanies are the riverbed I love to come back always.
So Happy 2024 to all Beanies all over the world. May the new year be filled with joy, love, happiness, calmness, chatting and lots of health. Please take care, put yourselves in the center and make yourselves the most important person in your life, because nobody else has the power to make you happy.
I love being a Beanie. Thank you all for this wonderful community.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
December 31, 2023 at 10:09 AM
Thank you for your kind words and best-est advice ever. Indeed these are words to live by. 🥰 💕
Eazal
December 31, 2023 at 10:39 AM
Well, part of them are not mine but George’s Michael. The song “Heal the pain” has this wonderful sentence; be good to yourself cause nobody else has the power to make you happy.
🌸 Cera (@Seeker) 🌸
December 31, 2023 at 10:10 AM
Happy New Year! 🎉 🎶 🎊
mmmmm
December 31, 2023 at 10:37 AM
Happy New Year, Eaz. ♥️
From M.
Isa is always time travelling
December 31, 2023 at 11:35 AM
I have always liked that saying 😊
I hope 2024 brings you more leisure time to spare here with us.
¡Feliz año nuevo! 🍇🥳
Eazal
December 31, 2023 at 12:07 PM
Feliz Año, Isa!!!
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
December 31, 2023 at 12:38 PM
I love that saying about found things. Yes you got to travel to see your special person several times in 2023 so let’s hope that busyness can also be joyful in 2024 too.
Looking forward to your comments as and when you can.
Healer’s
December 31, 2023 at 5:35 PM
Happy new year to you 🥂 I love being a beanie too!!
korfan
December 31, 2023 at 6:26 PM
Happy New Year!
lapislazulii
January 1, 2024 at 3:50 AM
Happy New Year Eazal! Learnt something new today with this new phrase you’ve taught us – glad to see you active on the site & looking forward to reading your commentary this year (but also equally it’s of course okay to disappear a bit and lurk like the Guadiana too when you feel like it!) ✨
Eazal
December 27, 2023 at 10:14 AM
#2023RoundUp
What should I do?
Last week I couldn’t post all days so I wanted to catch up this week, and this afternoon was the day I planned to write my entries and read all yours. Yes, I had a plan, but life had other.
I woke up this morning to the news of Lee Sung Kyun suicide (yes, I’ll say it openly) and I am still in shock.
Like in a bad drama, I feel the whole case against him was built to divert attention from the real problem (corruption, abuse, power), and focusing on popular figures like G-Dragon, LSK, YAI diverts the attention from the real problem. Using drugs is not a good thing for sure, but it’s far worse trafficking with them. Let the public talk on how famous people commit crimes, because after all nothing is better that a makjang in which we see rich people suffering and fighting each other. Yes, but this is not a bad drama. This was real life. And one of those lives is gone forever.
Like in a bad drama, the man couldn’t face the fact that he would never recover what he had lost in a couple of months. He knew there was no way back. Because it didn’t matter if he was cleared or not. Public will always hate him and point at him, and not trust him anymore. That same public that doesn’t understand that drug addiction is a disease, not a crime and if someone is ill, they need help not being exposed as criminals.
In a country in which you can drink yourself to death, in which you must prove yourself by drinking, that can\’t refuse to have a drink if a superior, or an older person asks you to drink, it’s just ironic how the mention of drugs can unite the society into saying: drugs are bad because you hurt the body you were given. We all know alcohol is not a drug and Korean livers and brains are not affected by it. Yes, Sheldon, this is sarcasm.
It’s the same country in which if you’ve used drugs you can consider your career over (I don’t think we’ll ever see again YIA in a lead role), but if you’ve committed sexual assault… don’t worry… we have a drama for you.
And this all, which you already know, which is not new, but even so is devastating, makes me wonder what should I do? Can I go on supporting an industry that consents this? Where is the support for LSK or YAI? If this amazing actors are going through hell, what happens to all those rookies, in the hands of all kind of agencies, who go through PS procedures to look prettier, who yield to men and women in all kind of ways to pursue their dream? Is anyone protecting them? Shouldn’t I be that person? If I encourage the industry with all this behaviors, knowing they exist, am I an accomplice?
Should I stop watching dramas? Should I quit on Kpop?
I’m not naive. I know entertainment industry all over the world is not a bed of roses, but when you actually know how bad it is, you need to do something. For instance it’s ages I don’t listen to Michael Jackson music because as great and amazing as his music was, he was a monster.
So here I am. Ottoke? What can I do?
Cori
December 27, 2023 at 10:56 AM
That is a question I seriously hope is on the minds of the people who cause these tragic situations and have the power to change things for the better
Empathy, compassion, understanding, and educating are ways we can respond. Everytime something like this happens, it feels like it should be the last, but it’s always the same. A person is judged harshly, there is no thought about how there is a real person behind that famous name, and they are backed into a corner. We’re a small community here, but if even just one person stumbles across DB today and sees the caring reactions on the fanwall and changes their way of thinking, maybe that will add up to something
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 8:35 PM
I wish we had a series of posts that allow us to send messages to Kdrama actors and actresses encouraging and natural response to whatever scandals they are facing. I think DB can also hire a translator or have someone volunteer to translate the comments under the posts to Korean so there might be a higher chance of them coming across and UNDERSTAND these messages. There is a language barrier there, as I’m sure very few, if any, K actors and actresses understand English fully or at the functional level. SK is not the whole world, and the world is kinder and view things more naturally and realistically then what is normally perceived in a restricted, repressed, and conservative SK society.
Cori
December 28, 2023 at 2:21 PM
That would be amazing! The pressure anyone can face from society is so much to bear, but one kind word or gesture can tip the scale
Midnight
December 27, 2023 at 11:29 AM
I wish there was a way to make Beanies’ posts as seen and as heard as k-netizen posts. To make a stir. Or at least the slightest ripple. To someday hopefully result in a wave.
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 11:54 AM
Until that happens, what we CAN do here and now for each other is hold tightly to kindness, compassion, care, love, and sympathy in how we treat each other on here ♥️
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 12:05 PM
Maybe write out a summary of all your entries into a single post—maybe 2 posts at most because squishing it all into a single post may be too much, for yourself and others (such a big block of text 🙃)—which you can then copy and paste onto your Fan Wall/the Beanie Section (cuz of word limit), and that way, you can express and share your entries but it won’t run the risk of spamming the Fan Wall via multiple posts in such a sensitive time related to all things Kdramas, and those who don’t read your post now, but want to come back to it later, can scroll past and come back to it later? Just a suggestion.
It’s definitely a sensitive time and space we are in, but that shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself, especially when it can be done in a way in which you can control the mood (being mindful & sensitive, etc.), as I feel like the inability to express and a lack of an outlet to express is one of the factors that contributes to sad and tragic moments like the one we are all seeing unfold—or which already has unfolded— in the last X amount of hours.
I’m not sure if I made sense? I hope you are well, Eazal ♥️
Eazal
December 27, 2023 at 12:31 PM
I don’t know if I am ok with all what is happening, but I’m trying my best to hold on to the bright side I find in kdramas and in this beautiful community, but also I am very self aware that I, in fact, have a contribution to the industry and I have my share in social responsibility.
It’s a hard time, and not only because of this. I also have lost a dear friend in the most unexpected, unfair and absurd way recently. Makes me think about the things I should do better in life.
Bebe, your words are always a good medicine. When I think about compassion and being gentle to oneself believe me, you come to mind so many times. Thanks for being the way you are.
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 12:32 PM
You’ve no idea what YOUR words do for me and how much they mean to me! ♥️
Healer’s
December 27, 2023 at 5:52 PM
I
wishwant to do something too. The news hit me yesterday morning. It’s been a day since then. His family is holding the funeral already. And out there, life goes on. I don’t know what I should do so that I am less of an “accomplice” in this situation. I can give up watching Kdramas if it can help.These lines keep popping up in my mind
“Somewhere far beyond the office walls, Harry could hear the sound of voices, students heading down to the Great Hall for an early breakfast, perhaps. It seemed impossible that there could be people in the world who still desired food, who laughed, who neither knew nor cared that Sirius Black was gone forever. Sirius seems a million miles away already; even now part of Harry still believed that if he had only pulled back that veil, he would have found Sirius looking back at him, greeting him, perhaps, with his laugh like a bark…”
(HP&TOoTP).
May LSK’s family have the strength to bear it.
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 7:25 PM
When @ndlessjoie warned me not to expose myself to K entertainment media yesterday nor DB until I’m ready because there is some terribly sad news, I immediately thought of YAI.
I guess I instinctively knew what kind of news to expect, and that does not bode well for SK.
I’m angry. Really angry at what seems to have happened (still haven’t read the news thoroughly for fear that I can’t manage my heart and emotions). I can say 100 bad words cussing SK society and its toxic culture and internet culture out, but I don’t know if that will lead to any change.
So this is all I’m gonna say for now:
– I used to be proud of SK as an Asian country that is stepping on to the world’s stage, but being a first-world country means, actually means, people would want to live IN your country because people there live a GOOD life. I love how competitive you all are, but your culture is toxic and unnatural on so many fronts, I’m not sure how long you can keep this up. And no, I’m not proud anymore. This is the first time I’m happy living in a place that is not as judgmental as in the SK society, where appearance and clean record mean everything. Appearance is superficial, a d clean record means the person is probably obedient, lucky, and never really did anything in life (You can’t fail when you don’t do anything because you’re bound to fail sometimes when you do something. That’s how we learn).
I guess this type of society is great at making those strange and shocking shows we see lately. You have enough source materials. What we see on the TV has their source materials irl then! What a disappointment. What a shame.
Unnatural things crumble. Do something about it, or wait for that day.
I’m talking about K entertainment in particular, though I always think there are so many misconceptions and unnatural expectations in the most absurdly way about many natural things in SK such as divorce, how each person should act, how seniority works, how to live.
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 7:37 PM
And may you rest in peace, dear soul. Tbh, I still can’t believe the name I saw might refer to the one I think. I can’t send strength to their family because I don’t have that kind of strength at the moment. I feel angry, and sad, for everything that led to this (and to many others before this).
mugyuljoie is preciousss
December 29, 2023 at 12:02 AM
I consume K-ent with a guarded heart and even so, I’m devastated by LSK’s death. I skip any K-drama with a known sexual assaulter in the cast and try not to become attached to any actor or idol. I’m tired of waking up to the news of another suicide. The day that SK starts to take this problem seriously and look for a kind and humane solution can’t come soon enough.
Eazal
December 19, 2023 at 10:25 AM
#2023RoundUp
Best used trope.
Every single one in Perfect marriage revenge:
Contract relationship ✅
Sweet and Candy heroine ✅
Chaebol war ✅
Evil step mother ✅
Birth secret ✅
Truck of doom ✅
Revenge ✅
Evil in law ✅
Childhood trauma ✅
Evil sibling ✅
PPL (protein coffee ✅, massage armchair ✅) ✅ ✅
Eazal
December 18, 2023 at 10:57 AM
#2023RoundUp
Favourite villain.
It has not been a good year for villains, not for me, certainly, so I almost thought about skipping this one, but then I remembered… I have one!!
I liked Payback. It was probably not the best drama but it was really fun to watch, and it has Lee Sun Kyun.
The drama also have two very bad and cartoonish villains that you love to watch being defeated every time: Myung In Joo (Kim Hong Fa)being the man that can buy everything and his son in law, Hwang Ki Seok (Park Soon), the man who would do anything to cover up the mess. Both were good villains, buying everything and everyone with money and out of fear, and that is why it was so rewarding to see them suffer, haha.
I really liked this drama. If you want to watch a funny and entertaining revenge drama, go for this one!
tabong will tell DuDu couple that she loves them🍉
December 18, 2023 at 11:28 AM
This show was so fun.
Midnight
December 18, 2023 at 7:15 PM
The best part was that they couldn’t stay loyal to each other.
Eazal
December 18, 2023 at 10:46 AM
#2023RoundUp
Oldie (non 2023) I loved the most.
I have very few rules when watching dramas or movies. I can watch almost anything, no matter the genre, but I always avoid the Arthurian cycle (don’t ask) and zombies, because zombies are scary. Even the ones who are supposed to be funny. No. Zombies are scary. A Lot.
So because of this it was impossible that I even dared to watch Happiness (2021), no matter if HyungSik is the cutest (sorry, Taec, that is a F A C T), and how much I love Han HyoJoo. There was no way this beanie watched a scary drama with zombies on it. No, no, no. 🥺
But one of my friends kept insisting, and then it was her 16 years old daughter that wanted me to watch because it was her absolute favorite drama, and no matter how much I didn’t want to get into scary zombies… well… I finally pressed play. Not gonna lie, it was a hard watch, but also, I really enjoyed it because the OTP is pure gold, and of course HyungSik is the epitome of cutesy. Also, as my friend said and she was absolutely right, the drama is full of people you love to hate. And gosh, that is so, so true!
Jellybn
December 18, 2023 at 9:00 PM
I’m rewatching Happiness right now! I loved it so much when I watched it and I had nothing on my plate, so I just pressed play on this one again and enjoying it the second time around. So good!
Eazal
December 17, 2023 at 2:37 AM
#2023RoundUp
My guilty pleasure.
What is a guilty pleasure to begin either? I would define it as not of those dramas you know it’s bad, ridiculous, and probably a waste of time as when you finish it you will probably erase from your mind, and yet… yes, you are watching.
This category belongs entirely to Moon in the day. As I said on the www thread, no acting, directing or writing was involved in this drama, and yet I enjoyed it to the fullest. Would I recommend to watch? No way!!! But what can I say? I had so much fun watching I can’t say those 14 hours have been wasted.
Elinor lives in the realm of the Impossible
December 17, 2023 at 8:02 AM
That’s a great definition, and as you know I agree 100% with everything you’ve said about Moon. I refuse to feel guilt about any legal form of pleasure, so for me it was more detached wonder at my own enjoyment of this lukewarm mess. I never even considered dropping it.
Eazal
December 17, 2023 at 10:41 AM
Not even for a minute!! I didn’t enjoy a mess this much since I married an antifan, although in that drama there was as tiny bit of acting involving and the OTP relationship was healthier than the one in Moon. That is not saying a lot, I know, but…
Eazal
December 17, 2023 at 2:31 AM
#2023RoundUp
Special Kimchi slap edition: worst parent.
Parenting is not what Dramas do the best, we are always shown terrible parents who think their children are just a way for them to shine rather than their own individual persons. From all the mums in Crash Course on Romance that fight each other to make their kids number one, to all the woman who think that just because they have given birth a child they owe them the world (Call it love, Doona!), to the mother that won’t allow a son to be the donor for his wife because his body will be hurt and that can’t be pretending to have the most strict Confucian values (Doctor Cha) to the awful parents in Perfect Marriage Revenge, and I’m not talking only about the obvious and terrible step mum, but those two fathers who created monsters and didn’t get any punishment for that.
But even with all these examples, to me the worst parent was Choi RoHee’s dad in The kidnapping day, who was the monster who killed his wife and experimented on her daughter and treated her just like a guinea pig. It was heartbreaking and a horrible metaphor about how many kids get this treatment from their parents.
Midnight
December 17, 2023 at 2:58 AM
RoHee’s dad takes the cake (one filled with needles) for worst father of the year 😑
wonhwa
December 17, 2023 at 6:32 AM
The Kidnapping Day felt like a giant “what not to do” guide to future parents (Don’t inject viruses into your kid’s brain, don’t send your HIV-positive adopted daughter back to the orphanage, don’t leave your daughter with cancer alone in the hospital for weeks, don’t murder or attempt to murder your kid’s other family members . . . the list could go on).
Eazal
December 17, 2023 at 2:21 AM
#2023RoundUp
Best bromance.
Even is Season 2 was not as good as Season 1, I will have to stick with my distracting foxes as the best bromance. Even if time travel has rules, this second opportunity Yeon had with Rang felt like a treasure and I embraced it. Add to that HongJoo and MooYoung and it was perfect. Also the sidekicks of all of them trying to be the best sidekicks was hilarious: ShinJoo, JaeYoo and MiYeon. So funny!
Best womance
It surely was YoungYoo and SoonAe in My perfect stranger. The lovely crush the daughter got on her mum as she learned that once she was a young girl with her own dreams, rather than the quiet mum she knew all along, her fierce defense of her was so sweet to watch. Best thing in the drama.
Eazal
December 17, 2023 at 2:09 AM
#2023RoundUp
A lesson about drops.
I have learned my mistakes. I might have got a bean of shame or a guilty bean this year, but I’ve learned I can drop a drama if I’m not interested anymore, or never was to begin with. Dropping a drama has nothing to do with it being good or bad, but on how it makes you feel. Right now I live in the “only adding” zone, so when something does not add anything, I just leave it aside.
I dropped so many dramas after one or two episodes, I won’t even mention them. Yes, I learned to drop them, but I never said anything about not learning to press play, even if I knew it wouldn’t suit me, so I will just list the dramas I dropped after episode 3:
– Connect (ep. 3). Weird. I wish I knew what I was watching. If anyone does, please tell. Not even HaeIn got me hooked.
– The Heavenly idol (ep. 8). Between The Evil One and The Evil Two, I was wondering how this mess could get anywhere. I always like a drama that can show something about the Kpop industry and how strings are pulled, but this didn’t make any sense. I really loved leads, and some plots, but I just rolled my eyes at Evil One and Evil Two.
– The good bad mother (ep. 7). LDH and JSY would be more than enough to get me into ANY drama, and I could even have watched it all if I knew that evil woman would never get a redemption arch, but given how fond dramas are of filial piety, I just couldn’t go on after she thew the poor guy into the river in winter. The sole thought of her resting in peace and not burning in hell for eternity made me sick, even if this was just a drama.
– Doctor Romantic 3 (ep. 8). I’m so sorry Kim Sabu, but I only endured all those 8 episodes trying so hard to like it, then I realized there was no need. I didn’t care at all, so better stop watching.
– King the land (ep. 10). I’m sorry babe, but I didn’t even find it funny. I wonder where the writing was, and Junho alone couldn’t hold the drama for me. It’s a pity because I think Sarang was a very interesting FL in dreamland, I really liked her and would have liked her even better if she was actually played by someone who could act. As for the side characters, I liked evil sister at first, only to find her boring with her repetitive behavior. Even so, I’m happy people enjoyed. It’s not that I didn’t, just that I didn’t care at all about anything that happened… that’s even worse, isn\’t it?
– The killing vote (ep. 4). Or The devil judge revisited. I already had watched that one, no need to repeat.
– Destined with you (ep. 3). I don’t know if this is a drop or me just being lazy. I never pressed on episode four. I think my issue was RoWon trying to act seriously. Like Taec, he should stick to fluffy and funny.
– Behind your touch (ep. 5). Two of my favorite leads and the whole butt touching with a serial murder. No thanks.
– Moving (ep. 8). I really didn’t care about the adult characters, and I didn’t quite like the violence, felt all over the place. I may finish it one day, but I seriously doubt it.
mmmmm
December 17, 2023 at 2:27 AM
I only start shows that I feel Id love to try at that moment. I’m a mood watcher.
I learnt that if it’s the right choice, itll click with me within seconds or, in any case, before the first ep ends. There have been some rare instances of dropping shows midway, though, but these are rare (dishonorable mentions: The Real (ep 10) and Crash Course (ep 10?).
True it’s a pity not to be able to discuss with Beans, but I prioritize my mental well-being. Shows that don’t click with me now may click with me in the future when the timing is right.
Isa is always time travelling
December 17, 2023 at 4:08 AM
“I didn’t care at all about anything that happened”.
I think this is a very good reason to drop a drama. That’s why I dropped True Beauty two times (last time in the middle of episode 7), but I still want to finish that drama… someday.