To all the Beanies starting their fast today, Ramadan Mubarak!
My wish for you is that you are all smarter than I am and do not ignore your pre-dawn alarms.
To all my lovely Beanfriends: I wish you a healthy and happy month. Thank you all for being an awesome, inspiring, and supportive community who never fail to cheer me up and teach me new things.
Thanks! I was lucky I had a heavy dinner, so I’m fine so far, only about five and a half hours left. I just miss water. I forgot how icky your mouth starts to taste around lunch.
I feel you – I had an intense April (moving and too many important deadlines at work) and, while Ramadan is not stressful, per se, it does come with a new set of priorities to integrate into an already hectic life. What would have been my chance to rest up and prepare for the next big wave of work is a little more difficult. I’m not complaining because I love this time, but it does mean having to reconfigure my life in odd ways sometimes.
I hope things get better for you, and get a chance to relax a bit.
I get what you mean. It can be challenging when you already have so much going on. I hope you’re settling OK into the new place.
My mental health has taken a nose dive just when I need to make an important decision about my career. And it took my ability to enjoy things with it. Dramas, tv, books, podcasts, even food. I’m not Muslim, but my best friend suggested sharing pictures of our food at iftar time to try to get me to eat. She’s awesome. I hope it works.
Thanks, yeah – I just cleaned a lot of stuff up last night, but I haven’t really got much furniture yet – just a mattress and a few boxes of things that need to be put together.
I’ve been there with mental health holding me back, especially before big decisions. It’s hard to enjoy things fully or at all when your brain is lying to you. Right before I applied for my current position (which I love) I was going through things that was making it hard for me to move my life forward and allowing my anxiety to take over. I was lucky and was able to get the help I needed but it was still hard, so I understand what you’re going through. I don’t know exactly what you’re going through and I can’t tell you what the best solution is for you, but I hope that you find what you need to get through this rough patch. Because for me the best thing is to remember that every rough patch is just that – a patch. It’ll pass eventually, and sometimes just surviving it is all we need to do. Sending you all the good vibes.
Thanks. It really helps to know that other people have been through similar things and made it out the other side. And sometimes it really is just about surviving that period of time when your brain decides to be a jerk.
There’s a Latin phrase “dom vivo, spero” which roughly translates to “So long as I live, I hope”. It’s kind of my mantra. It helped get me through the worst times – I just need to live through this to get to the next thing. And even though I still get bad anxiety sometimes I still remember that most things are fixable and those that aren’t were probably not meant to be. Like right now – I just had a deposition which drained the life out of me, and I don’t really have any life to spare, but I know in the end it’ll be all right. I’ll live, I’ll hope, I’ll survive this and the next thing that the universe throws at me.
Hopefully this passes soon for you. Even if you can’t enjoy things much right now, remember that they’ll be better again one day.
“So long as I live, I hope.” I like that – a much needed reminder of the impermanence of situations, not matter how awful they may be. Another thing I keep in mind is that I have – and you too – survived 100% of all my bad days so far, and that’s a pretty good track record. Thank you for your messages,@snarkyjellyfish, truly.
You’re welcome. Happy to help in any small way I can. The most important thing I’ve found is to always remember that I’m not alone in the way I feel. Honestly, knowing that has been the biggest factor in moving past my anxieties. And the Beanies are the actual best. I don’t know if you saw my other post, but I was just feeling so low yesterday and I feel so much better after getting it out of my system here. Today’s a new day, and tomorrow will be another one. We just need to make sure to get there alive.
SnarkyJellyfish
May 6, 2019 at 11:06 AM
To all the Beanies starting their fast today, Ramadan Mubarak!
My wish for you is that you are all smarter than I am and do not ignore your pre-dawn alarms.
To all my lovely Beanfriends: I wish you a healthy and happy month. Thank you all for being an awesome, inspiring, and supportive community who never fail to cheer me up and teach me new things.
mugyuljoie is preciousss
May 6, 2019 at 11:27 AM
Ramadan Mubarak!
mugyuljoie is preciousss
May 6, 2019 at 11:28 AM
(I hope this is acceptable for a non Muslim to say.)
SnarkyJellyfish
May 6, 2019 at 11:38 AM
Thank you!
It’s totally fine for you to say it too. It’s no different that me saying “merry christmas” even though I don’t celebrate.
moana
May 6, 2019 at 12:05 PM
Ramadan Mubarak! My best friend’s phone, the traitor, chose to install updates during sehri time so she missed her alarm.
Thank you for the kind wishes. It’s been a rough couple of weeks for me so I really appreciate the sentiment.
SnarkyJellyfish
May 6, 2019 at 12:18 PM
Thanks! I was lucky I had a heavy dinner, so I’m fine so far, only about five and a half hours left. I just miss water. I forgot how icky your mouth starts to taste around lunch.
I feel you – I had an intense April (moving and too many important deadlines at work) and, while Ramadan is not stressful, per se, it does come with a new set of priorities to integrate into an already hectic life. What would have been my chance to rest up and prepare for the next big wave of work is a little more difficult. I’m not complaining because I love this time, but it does mean having to reconfigure my life in odd ways sometimes.
I hope things get better for you, and get a chance to relax a bit.
moana
May 6, 2019 at 1:09 PM
I get what you mean. It can be challenging when you already have so much going on. I hope you’re settling OK into the new place.
My mental health has taken a nose dive just when I need to make an important decision about my career. And it took my ability to enjoy things with it. Dramas, tv, books, podcasts, even food. I’m not Muslim, but my best friend suggested sharing pictures of our food at iftar time to try to get me to eat. She’s awesome. I hope it works.
SnarkyJellyfish
May 6, 2019 at 4:26 PM
Thanks, yeah – I just cleaned a lot of stuff up last night, but I haven’t really got much furniture yet – just a mattress and a few boxes of things that need to be put together.
I’ve been there with mental health holding me back, especially before big decisions. It’s hard to enjoy things fully or at all when your brain is lying to you. Right before I applied for my current position (which I love) I was going through things that was making it hard for me to move my life forward and allowing my anxiety to take over. I was lucky and was able to get the help I needed but it was still hard, so I understand what you’re going through. I don’t know exactly what you’re going through and I can’t tell you what the best solution is for you, but I hope that you find what you need to get through this rough patch. Because for me the best thing is to remember that every rough patch is just that – a patch. It’ll pass eventually, and sometimes just surviving it is all we need to do. Sending you all the good vibes.
moana
May 7, 2019 at 11:00 AM
Thanks. It really helps to know that other people have been through similar things and made it out the other side. And sometimes it really is just about surviving that period of time when your brain decides to be a jerk.
SnarkyJellyfish
May 7, 2019 at 12:15 PM
There’s a Latin phrase “dom vivo, spero” which roughly translates to “So long as I live, I hope”. It’s kind of my mantra. It helped get me through the worst times – I just need to live through this to get to the next thing. And even though I still get bad anxiety sometimes I still remember that most things are fixable and those that aren’t were probably not meant to be. Like right now – I just had a deposition which drained the life out of me, and I don’t really have any life to spare, but I know in the end it’ll be all right. I’ll live, I’ll hope, I’ll survive this and the next thing that the universe throws at me.
Hopefully this passes soon for you. Even if you can’t enjoy things much right now, remember that they’ll be better again one day.
moana
May 8, 2019 at 12:19 PM
“So long as I live, I hope.” I like that – a much needed reminder of the impermanence of situations, not matter how awful they may be. Another thing I keep in mind is that I have – and you too – survived 100% of all my bad days so far, and that’s a pretty good track record. Thank you for your messages,@snarkyjellyfish, truly.
SnarkyJellyfish
May 8, 2019 at 12:46 PM
You’re welcome. Happy to help in any small way I can. The most important thing I’ve found is to always remember that I’m not alone in the way I feel. Honestly, knowing that has been the biggest factor in moving past my anxieties. And the Beanies are the actual best. I don’t know if you saw my other post, but I was just feeling so low yesterday and I feel so much better after getting it out of my system here. Today’s a new day, and tomorrow will be another one. We just need to make sure to get there alive.
Ayan
May 6, 2019 at 7:45 PM
Ramadan Mubarak!!!! I hope your fast is going well and your prayers are answered this holy month!