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Go Back Spouses: Episode 5

No matter how many times Ban-do and Jin-joo tell themselves they want to live separate lives, they just can’t stay away from each other. Something keeps pulling them back together, whether that be lingering emotions or the cunning hands of fate. But with so much turmoil in their relationship, it’ll take a lot more than fate to fix all the damage. Fortunately, a little jealousy goes a long way.

 
EPISODE 5: “The criteria for first love”

In 2017, Ban-do reads an article about Seo-young retiring from dance after getting injured and sighs that she should’ve been careful. Jin-joo walks in and he immediately shuts his laptop, which leads Jin-joo to think that he was watching porn.

He opens his laptop again to prove it’s not porn; he was just curious about how Seo-young was doing since she was his first love. He explains that a first love can feel like homework that was never finished, making Jin-joo scowl.

He smiles and says that she wouldn’t know the feeling since she married her first love. Jin-joo scoffs at that and says that she doesn’t have a first love. They start to argue over what “first love” really means, while Jin-joo narrates that the definition itself can be rather ambiguous.

Back in 1999, Jin-joo is shocked to find Ban-do and her mom outside the house. She forces her mom inside and then turns to Ban-do, looking furious. Ban-do weakly lies that he was just passing by, but Jin-joo tells him to stay away before going inside. After taking one last look at the crate of grapes he left for Mom, Ban-do turns away.

Inside, Jin-joo warns Mom to stay away from Ban-do. Mom doesn’t see why she should; the nice young man did help her out. Still, Jin-joo tells her to kick him if he ever tries to help again. She stalks off to her room, leaving Mom confused.

On campus, Bo-reum keeps Jae-woo back after cheerleading practice to give him some private lessons. He asks when he’ll be able to wear the uniform and lift her like her partner did earlier. Bo-reum gets a twinkle in her eye and tells him to stay where he is.

Jae-woo looks like a deer in highlights as Bo-reum comes running toward him, instructing him to catch her. He manages to catch her and lift her in the air, but he loses his balance and sends them falling to the ground. With their lips mere inches apart, Bo-reum takes the chance to give him a quick kiss. Jae-woo freaks out and shoves her aside so he can scurry away, and Bo-reum laughs at his shy reaction.

Jin-joo and her family watch a reality show about a man reconnecting with his first love. They talk about their own firsts, Mom saying she never had one. Jin-joo calls that unfair, glaring at Dad, but Mom merely says that first love is useless—it’s a person’s last love that counts. Jin-joo is still glaring at Dad as they get up to have dinner.

She flashes back (er, forward) to 2010, one year after Mom’s death. She and Ban-do were sharing a meal with Dad when he’d announced that he was getting remarried. Jin-joo thought he was joking at first, but Dad figured it was time they let go of Mom.

Jin-joo was horrified to hear this, saying that Mom’s loss was so new that she still felt as if Mom could come home any minute. She angrily asks Dad how he can let go so soon when she still feels this way. Dad was unable to respond, so Jin-joo had stormed out, Ban-do right behind her.

So now, there’s a lot of tension at dinner as Jin-joo snatches all of Dad’s food and lovingly gives it to Mom. Her parents later wonder about her behavior, Dad thinking he messed up because he read Jin-joo’s diary not too long ago.

Ban-do has drinks in a pojangmacha, his eyes filling with tears as he’s overwhelmed with memories of little Seo-jin. Meanwhile, Jin-joo is huddled in bed as she also cries over the absence of her son. She’s still crying when she wakes up the next morning, still in the past.

Mom comes in to wake her up and is surprised to see her crying. Mom asks if she’s been having bad dreams, like seeing Mom die. At that, Jin-joo hugs Mom tightly, and while Mom is still confused with her behavior, she hugs her back.

As her parents get ready to leave, Jin-joo comes out saying she wants to join them. They go to the hospital for Mom’s dialysis, and Jin-joo makes sure to talk to her doctor about taking any and all kinds of precautions.

The doctor tries to reassure her that Mom will live for a long time, but Jin-joo knows better. She leaves the office and walks over to Mom’s room, stopping at the door to watch Mom get her treatment. She sighs as she thinks about the doctor’s words.

Back in his office, the doctor tells a nurse that Mom’s children did a lot of research into her disease—her son even stopped by yesterday. To the doctor’s confusion, the nurse says that Mom doesn’t have a son.

Ban-do surprises his parents by getting up early and even drinking Mom’s health drink before leaving for school. His folks wonder why he’s been acting so different lately.

As Nam-gil gets his things from his car, he finds Jin-joo’s wallet in the backseat and smiles as he remembers the night she mistook his car for a taxi. Later, he’s watching his ROTC hoobaes run laps when the president of the university approaches him.

The president asks that Nam-gil talk to his father about him, saying he’ll do whatever Nam-gil needs. Nam-gil coldly asks if the president will hand over a diploma or a scholarship then.

The president makes up a quick excuse to leave and scurries off. Nam-gil yells at his hoobaes to concentrate on running, only to lose his cool and jump at the sight of a stray cat at his feet.

Nam-gil sees Jin-joo eating in the cafeteria by herself, so he joins her at her table and explains that the food’s no good if you eat alone. She casually says that she’s not alone, which is right when Bo-reum and Seol appear. Nam-gil hides his embarrassment by saying, “I was talking about me, not you.” Hee.

Taken aback by their sunbae’s presence, Bo-reum asks if Nam-gil is troubled by Jin-joo. She tries to say that Jin-joo’s never gotten a confession from a man before, and Jin-joo insists that it wasn’t a confession. Nam-gil agrees that it wasn’t a confession. But then he adds, “It’s wooing.” Jin-joo’s eyes grow wide, as do her friends’.

Nam-gil gets up and tells Jin-joo to follow him, which she hesitantly does. Her friends smile as they watch them go, Seol looking especially happy. She asks Bo-reum if Nam-gil would still like Jin-joo if she were divorced and had a kid, which Bo-reum takes as a rhetorical question.

Jin-joo and Nam-gil venture outside, and Jin-joo asks why he claims to be wooing her when he said he didn’t want to be friendly. Nam-gil coolly states that it’s Jin-joo who’s seducing him with all her recent behavior.

Jin-joo says that those were just accidents, then stops as she remembers that Nam-gil hurt his ankle in the library. She falls into ajumma mode as she tells him to take care of himself before it gets any worse, and Nam-gil calls her out on it, saying that’s what he means.

He thinks that she should take responsibility for his injury, but she sees no reason to when he looks perfectly fine. So Nam-gil lies that it’s still very painful to walk and then fake-limps away. Pwahaha.

Ban-do sneaks up on Seo-young as she listens to music and surprises her by grabbing an earbud. He finds it interesting that she listens to hip-hop instead of classical music, and she replies that hip-hop has a fun beat to it. She thinks it would fun to dance to it, but she doesn’t know how. Ban-do suggests she dance to it with ballet, but she finds the combination strange.

In the dorms, Ban-do hangs out with Jae-woo (who’s still giddy from that kiss) and Dok-jae (who’s covering his hair with a bandana after the humiliating gate incident). Ban-do learns that Jae-woo and Bo-reum kissed, and he thinks to himself that his buddy is just setting himself up for heartbreak again.

Dok-jae mentions that all they did was a quick peck and says that that doesn’t mean they’re dating. Besides, Bo-reum is known to have a lot of skinship with guys. Jae-woo deflates to hear that.

At cheerleading practice, Jae-woo tries to tell himself that Dok-jae was wrong. But when Bo-reum arrives, all she does is give him a good punch on the arm and walk away. He watches her practice the lift with her partner until he just turns away and leaves altogether.

Jin-joo catches up with Nam-gil when he’s approached by a girl who offers him cookies she baked. He tells her to eat them herself and walks away. Jin-joo follows, sarcastically offering a candy bar and saying that she picked it from the trash can, pointing out the difference between giving something idly and giving something with a lot of thought and care put into it. If a girl baked something for him, he should just take it.

He replies that there’s such a thing as “give and take,” and he’s not about to accept something from someone he doesn’t have feelings for. She argues that the girl probably didn’t offer him cookies expecting something in return; she just wanted to give him something because she likes him. And those feelings are innocent, like a parent giving their child something.

Nam-gil says that parents expect things from their kids too, and Jin-joo sighs at the odd turn this conversation took. She give ups, just as Nam-gil grabs the candy bar from her. He tells her to meet her tonight and then goes on his way, making sure to limp in front of her again.

Nam-gil heads over to the pool, where Dok-jae is stuck volunteering as punishment. Ban-do is keeping Dok-jae company, but Dok-jae puts him to work and asks him to leave towels in the locker room.

As Nam-gil changes into his swimwear, he overhears douchey Hyun-suk talking to his friend about cheating on girlfriend Ye-rim with Jin-joo. He’ll be keeping Ye-rim since she’s guaranteed to make him rich, but Jin-joo looks poor and is thus only worth fooling around with. Nam-gil’s expression turns dark, as does Ban-do’s around the corner.

Nam-gil follows Hyun-suk to the pool, but before he can do anything, Ban-do zooms past him and kicks Hyun-suk into the water. Hyun-suk struggles to the surface, and Ban-do puts on a face of innocence and says, “I’m sorry. I thought you were my friend.” He turns and walks away, and Nam-gil catches his smile turn into a scowl.

A few of Seo-young’s friends bail out of a movie night, so she stays in the studio for a little more practice. As she changes the music, she remembers Ban-do’s suggestion and decides to play one of her hip-hop CDs. The CD starts and Seo-young matches her elegant moves to the upbeat sound of the music. She gets really into it, only to freeze when she realizes Ban-do is standing by the door.

She shyly says that she was just trying it out for fun, but Ban-do tells her that she should do something fun for a living, something she can love. It’s not easy to have something you enjoy also be the work you have to do, but he advises looking for it anyway. If you only focus on what you have to do, when the time comes that you can’t do it anymore, you’re left with nothing. But if you pursue something you enjoy, you still have your enjoyment. “There’s nothing in the world that lasts forever,” he concludes. With that, he asks what they should do now.

Jin-joo meets with Nam-gil as planned and tries to hand over the jacket she’d taken from him, but instead of accepting it, he tells her to follow him to the hospital. Jin-joo gasps that he must really be hurt, but as Nam-gil fake-limps away, he sneaks in a smile.

Ban-do and Seo-young take a crowded bus on their way to see the movie Seo-young had meant to see with her friends. Seo-young keeps falling into Ban-do as the bus brakes too harshly, so Ban-do takes her hand and places it on his arm to steady her.

Seo-young seems to blush at this move, but it’s hard for me to take seriously when Ban-do is just admiring his arm and thinking, “Ah, your blood vessels are alive, Choi Ban-do! As expected, you’re a man!” Lol, this guy.

Ban-do loses a bit of his confidence when they arrive at the theater. He takes a moment before heading inside, thinking there’s no way he’ll bump into “them.” He’s still on edge as he buys popcorn and nearly jumps out of his skin when a concession worker turns to him: Jin-joo’s dad.

Ban-do quickly tells Seo-young he needs to use the bathroom and runs off. He gives himself a little pep talk, saying he shouldn’t feel guilty when he’s not actually cheating. He tells himself to walk out confidently… and then he eases his way out by peeking around the corner, ha.

He sees Seo-young waiting for him at a table, but he’s more surprised to see Jin-joo sitting at the next table with the sunbae from the pool (Nam-gil). He remembers when he and Jin-joo had argued about first loves in 2017, when Jin-joo had insisted she had been a popular boy’s first love.

At her table, Jin-joo asks Nam-gil what they’re doing here, and Nam-gil answers that he’ll feel better when he sees a movie. Jin-joo stares at him incredulously, saying she knew he was faking.

When Ban-do joins Seo-young, he and Jin-joo lock eyes, neither of them happy to see each other. But looking at Nam-gil, Jin-joo raises her voice and decides to bring up the day he asked her out. She side-eyes Ban-do and smirks to see that he’s listening.

Ban-do turns his attention back to Seo-young, who warns him that the movie they’re about to see has been known to make people cry (1999’s blockbuster spy thriller Swiri). Ban-do says there’s no way he would cry for a movie like that and Jin-joo lets out very unsubtle “HA.”

We flash to the real 1999 when Ban-do had cried seeing Swiri with Jin-joo, to 2004 when he had cried seeing it with his dad, and to 2017 when he had cried seeing it with Seo-jin.

The two couples see the movie, and as expected, almost everyone ends up in tears. Nam-gil sneaks looks over at Jin-joo, surprised that she doesn’t shed a single tear, remembering how hard she’d cried in his car and on the bus.

Behind them, Ban-do sits with Seo-young, and this time, he isn’t crying. He’s too busy looking at Jin-joo to concentrate on the movie.

The cheerleading club shares snacks, and Bo-reum asks the others if guys like it when a girl kisses them first, which gets an enthusiastic yes. But when she asks how they feel when the girl asks the guy to date first, they feel that’s too forward and that girls should give the guy the chance to make his move. Bo-reum deflates to hear this, just as Jae-woo joins the group.

Then the talk turns to first loves, and when they get to Jae-woo, Bo-reum smiles, anticipating his answer. But her smile drops to hear him say that his first love was a girl in kindergarten.

Bo-reum snaps that that isn’t first love; it’s unrequited love. Jae-woo hangs his head as Bo-reum continues that a first love is the first person you date, not the first person you like. “If you aren’t in a relationship, it’s nothing. It’s unrequited love!” she concludes, glaring at Jae-woo.

In the men’s room, Jae-woo grumbles that Bo-reum shouldn’t have kissed him if she didn’t want to date, while in the women’s room, Bo-reum sighs that she’s getting sick of waiting for Jae-woo to ask her out.

They run into each other by the stairwell, and Bo-reum warns him that if he takes one more step, they’re over. He almost does, but he turns to face her. He says that a kiss may mean nothing to her, but it meant a lot to him since she’s his first love. She retorts that his first love was in kindergarten, and he firmly states that Bo-reum is definitely his first love.

She demands to know what he’s going to do about it then. “I want to go out with you,” he finally says. “I want to go out with you, not have an unrequited love.” Bo-reum stares at him for a moment and then bursts into laughter. She says that he definitely just asked her out and then jumps up and down, still laughing. Ha, Jae-woo’s puzzled look kills me.

After the movie, both couples run into Jin-joo’s father. Ban-do immediately bows his head and almost calls him “Father-in-law” (must be a reflex), and then quickly says he’s just passing by before hightailing it out of there. Dad turns to the remaining couple, and his eyes harden to see his daughter with a boy.

Jin-joo matter-of-factly states that Nam-gil is just a sunbae she knows. She introduces Nam-gil to her father and he eagerly greets him. Dad ignores him and asks if Jin-joo wants to catch a ride with him, but she coldly refuses. When Dad reluctantly leaves, Jin-joo tells Nam-gil they should go their separate ways. But Nam-gil calls her back, and he takes out her wallet with a smile.

As Ban-do and Seo-young walk back, Seo-young notices people crowding around a hip-hop group dancing on the street and she excitedly joins the crowd to watch. When the group asks if anyone is willing to participate, Ban-do volunteers Seo-young and gives her a push into the circle.

Seo-young looks back at Ban-do in fear, and he just claps along with the crowd and cheers her on. The music starts back up and Seo-young tries what she did earlier, and soon, the dancers are following her lead. Once they finish the routine, Seo-young has the biggest smile on her face, which Ban-do is glad to see.

Seo-young is still ecstatic as they leave, and she notes that it must have been fate for her and Ban-do to go to the theater together. She slips her hand into Ban-do’s, surprising him. They smile at each other and hold hands the rest of the way.

After relocating to a bar, Nam-gil tells Jin-joo that he found her wallet at school. She’s pretty sure she left it in a taxi and feels even more suspicious since there aren’t any identification cards inside. He wonders why she doesn’t just show gratitude, so she softens a bit and thanks him.

Nam-gil rests his chin and his hand and stares at Jin-joo, making her uncomfortable. She tries to change the subject by saying she’ll pay for food and asks what he likes. “You,” he says point-blank. “I think I like you.” (Omo!) He smiles at her, though she’s too shocked to answer.

He walks her all the way home, where they part ways for the day. He’s still got that smile on his face until someone reaches out and grabs his arm.

Dad takes Nam-gil to a pojangmacha for (more) drinks, and Nam-gil seems like a total bundle of nerves. When Nam-gil tries to poor him a drink, Dad snatches the bottle and pours for himself before he starts his interrogation. He asks Nam-gil what his major is, what year he is, and what his parents do.

Nam-gil answers every question, ending it on his father being the director of the university. Dad breaks his bad cop façade and does a spit take. Nam-gil asks that Dad keep that a secret from Jin-joo and Dad agrees. Dad wants to confirm whether or not Nam-gil likes Jin-joo, and Nam-gil shyly answers that he does. A lot.

It’s pouring rain the next day, and Ban-do finds Seo-young by the bus stop without an umbrella. He gives her a smile and suggests they share his. Elsewhere, Nam-gil gives some food to the cat he encountered before. He tells the kitty to eat up and stop crying. “Like someone I know.”

Nam-gil then spots Jin-joo struggling to keep her umbrella open, and he hurries over to cover her. She’s a bit flustered to see him, but she accepts the gesture and walks with him towards campus. She thinks to herself that he could possibly be a player and her thoughts seem confirmed when he asks that she move closer to him.

But he just wants her to move in so he shoulder doesn’t get as wet. Jin-joo shakes her thoughts and moves in… Then her face changes as she sees another couple huddled under one umbrella coming their way. As Ban-do and Seo-young pass Jin-joo and Nam-gil, our ex-couple keep their eyes on each other.

Epilogue: What really happened in 1999.

Dad gives Ban-do the exact same interrogation he’d given Nam-gil. And Nam-gil is eager to answer every question with Jin-joo. When asked what he wants to do after graduation, he answers with whatever would provide for Jin-joo, and when asked what he likes, he again answers with Jin-joo. Awwwww.

Frustrated, Dad asks if Ban-do has any dreams of his own, and Ban-do says that he does have a dream—he wants to live happily with Jin-joo and their future children. He continues that he’ll work hard to pass Dad’s test, and Dad chides him for smiling.

Ban-do tries calling him “Father,” and then stutters out “Father-in-law” and “Ajusshi,” to see what he’s comfortable with, but Dad just sighs. When Dad’s not looking, Ban-do sneaks another smile.

 
COMMENTS

Nam-gil and Seo-young are really stepping up their game as second leads. They both feel like well-rounded characters at this point—they’re sweet, they’re interesting, and they seem to have found a new kind of comfort with Jin-joo and Ban-do. For Nam-gil, Jin-joo takes away some of the stress from his family, and for Seo-young, Ban-do takes away some of the stress from her dancing. I like these people, and I know they like Jin-joo and Ban-do, so I start feeling bad for them when our main couple shows obvious signs of still being in love. It’s funny because if our couple weren’t actually involved, I could see them being in dramas with their respective second leads. Both couples fit pretty well together, and that makes me wonder what Jin-joo and Ban-do’s lives would be like had they not met on that group date.

But come on, when Ban-do is pushing jerkfaces into pools because they badmouthed Jin-joo, how can I not root for them to work out their relationship? No matter how much I like the second leads, I want this couple to power through their problems. It all seems rooted back to the mom’s death—whatever happened there truly damaged the marriage. But they’d been together for a pretty long time, even after Mom died, so obviously, they didn’t want to give up, right? That shows a lot of promise. In some of these flashbacks (in the present timeline), they can be harsh and at times, totally out of line, but in flashbacks like this episode’s, you can see that there’s almost a lightness to their fighting. They’re not as cute and sweet towards each like they used to be, but the playfulness is still there.

I was happy (and quite heartbroken) when we finally got some clarification about Jin-joo’s resentment towards her dad. I’m glad Dad didn’t do anything like cheat, but in Jin-joo’s eyes, he might as well have. Her own father telling her to let go must’ve felt like the world’s biggest betrayal when in reality, he was probably just trying to cope with Mom’s death in his own way.

Jin-joo had been repressing a lot of anger and sadness during her marriage with Ban-do, and I can see this incident with her dad being one of the main sources. She still carries all of this hate towards Dad, and in some ways, this hate found its way to Ban-do as well. I think she felt a very similar betrayal when she got the misunderstanding that Ban-do was having an affair. I was hurting for her before, but now that we’re aware of the reasoning behind her anger, it makes me hurt for her more, if that’s possible.

There’s still the missing piece as to what Ban-do was so sorry for when Mom died, and honestly, I’m not sure if I can take any more of that heartache. But from what we’ve seen, I think Ban-do and Jin-joo weren’t just given a second chance at love, but also a second chance at acceptance. I don’t know if Jin-joo will ever forgive her dad, but I hope she can find some way to understand him. If she can do this, there’s no doubt she’ll be able to understand Ban-do too. After all, it wasn’t just Jin-joo that lost a mother—Dad lost a wife and Ban-do lost a mother-in-law. Instead of isolating herself in her grief, she could really do herself some good by keeping those with similar grief close by.

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To be honest, why people push so hard for the OTP and second leads. Second leads are first loves, we all been there. You dont usually married the first person you fall in love with. Time change, people change, things happen. They are in their twenty, its normal for them just fall in love. The person you love in high school will be different from the person you love in college, and different from when you start working, and working for years. Your standard, your mind is different by age. Its ok for them to fall in love with second leads, if they are right for each other they will find a way back to each other. If not, its ok too. The problem with their relationship is they stop caring, stop communicating.

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I think this whole second chance is for them to find what they really want in life before finding a way back to each other, they missed a lot of things when they got married young, with marriage came responsibilities and then they started to slowly get buried and lose themselves in that, they didn't get to experience anything away from each other and maybe that's way they're so resentful towards each other!

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I am actually rooting for them to end up with the second leads. And why not? People divorce and remarry - this is absolutely the same. I kinda like Nam-Gil over Ban-do. In real life people like to say that they won’t change a thing if they could Ho back in time - I’d like to see different in a drama!!!

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The thing is what they have with second leads are not love. The second leads love them but they dont. In their mind they are 30s, whats happening is fiction/drama to them. So far, there hasnt been a moment that the OTP feel for the second leads, yes their heart racing because of flirting, but its not fall in love. Marriage is practical but love is one important element of it. They can go on date for second lead for long time but I dont see OTP fall for them because the second leads are kids, if they back to present those moments might never had happen.

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Completely agree. Jin Joo doesn't see Nam Gil as a man, but a kid. Ban Do for me is less clear, but when he was telling Seo Young to do what she likes, I got the feeling that he was treating her like a younger sibling. The only way a relationship with the second leads would work is if they went back to the present and met them there. (I'm soo curious to see Nam Gil in the present time). If they go back, is it back to the normal present or a changed future present?

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While Go Back Spouses is rather predictable and tropey, I am totally enjoying the show! I think it may be because Jang Nara and Son Ho Joon are really enjoyable actors, and despite the plot execution (even with time travelling) not being super "new", watching the show doesn't feel like a chore because of it's easy pace, and the show not turning idiotic despite being rather predictable is a good sign, no?

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I love that it's so shameless about its tropes/cliches! In a previous episode when Nam-gil caught Jin-joo when she was falling they went full out the music and the close-up shots...I had a lot of second-hand embarrassment, but it was a fun scene haha

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Haha. In this episode it was bando's arm in the bus. When he started praising his veins, i just laughed out loud. It was a similar scene in reply 1998, but the feel was so different. Hahaha

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so true, miss jung-hwan!

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Thank you for the recap, SailorJumun!

I really want to know why Jin-joo is so mad at Ban-do when it comes to her mother, what did he do to her? I think maybe when she was sick and in the hospital he didn't go to visit her, I just don't want anything big or unforgivable because he seems like he really cares about her, that grape-box left at the door just broke my heart!

I'm enjoying the separate romances a lot in this drama, Jin-joo with Nam-gil and Ban-do with Seo-young, and seeing how different they are from what they've been (or haven't been) in the past. I don't think what Ban-do feels for Seo-young now is the same as what he felt in the past, that excitement and flutters of first love are all gone now, those feelings aren't there anymore, like they said in this episode, it's just the memory of first love that remains beautiful, and I don't think Ban-do actually wants to pursue Seo-young like that, it all seems to me like he wants to help her out, take the stress from her and let her have a little fun!

I said this in almost every beanie post about Ban-doo calling him a jerk (LOL) but I'll say it again here, I'm rooting for our couple to get back together, I know they will because they have Seo-jinie but I don't want them to get back together just for him! They seem to have a lot of regrets, things they didn't do and couldn't do because they got married young, seeing the epilogue from 1999 and how when asked about his dream Ban-do said it's Jin-joo (which Awww) means he never actually thought about anything else but her, he set his life around her and later realized that it's not enough in life, I think they're given a second chance because both of them need to find themselves first before finding a way back to each other, so they could actually understand and appreciate each other!

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Thank you for the recap @sailorjumun

First, so that's why jin joo was mad at her dad, I thought he did something really bad to his family. I still find him trying to guess why his kid is mad at him to be very funny.

Second, you said something pulls back our leads together, but till now I feel like they are just crossing paths & instead something is pulling them to the second leads lol. I know things will start turning in the coming episodes.

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I love Jin-joo's dad! I know she feels betrayed because she feels like he let go of her mother easy but to her, her dad's been nothing but so loving and caring! He's drunken habits are so funny yet cute and he's interviews with her boyfriend(s) are so adorable!

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I am having a bad case of SLS, any doctor recommendation for the cure? As long as it is not skeevy douchey Dr Park Hyun-Suk, I am fine.

Currently I find it hard to root for the OTP because they have so much resentment with each other and them being mean and putting each other down just can be so unbearable at times. And the worst part is they didn't do it consciously as it had become a habit. Sometimes, I feel it is best to close the chapter and move on....And Nam Gil bringing his A-game, I mean how can one resist? How can one stop one's heart from fluttering and swooning? But at the end of the day, it is Jin Joo's choice.... I just need a great doc to cure me of my (and Nam Gil's) broken heart when the time comes

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I agree. The show is telling us that they have some love still, but I am more sold on the idea that they are bad for each other. It is possible for two people in love to not be a good married couple. My belief is that not only do they have a second chance at youth to resolve resentment, but they need to resolve the trigger to their divorce. If they do return to the future, seojin still being their son, they won't be so angry at each other, move on, and maybe have a stab at another lasting love, if any. Like NamGil. First love and lasting love twist?

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I feel the same! Tbh I was trying really hard to root for otp because I don't want to get my heart broken later on, but this week's episodes had Nam-gil smiling throughout and now there's no turning back for me.
I think it's ok to have SLS, because they've only really begun setting up things to bring the lead couple together this week, and I figure I'll let the drama convince me that they should be together, rather than trying to convince myself

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They return to the present and Jin Joo meets Nam Gil again. He asks her, "Who's this?" and she says, "My child," Nam Gil says, "Oh, you're married?" She answers, "I'm divorced." Nam Gil smiles widely, and she smiles back. The End.

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Totally agree!
It's like playing a game. You played a really bad game and losing scores. Then you get another chance to reset and play it again, will you play the same game, with the same characters?
Granted, they both may play it differently the second-time around, but the old problems are still there.

Reset means start fresh, giving the second chance of doing things differently, learning from the mistakes and move on. Being with each other is not starting fresh. There's no way to avoid the history of their future, the fights, the mean words they said to each other. Sigh.

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This show is quickly becoming my guilty pleasure. I’ve never seen the actor who plays Nam Gil before, but I feel like the love struck character who follows him around and pretended to drown in the pool. That being said, the two second leads have a very “Mary Sue” quality to them, which may be intentional. Each is so perfect and predictable - even with their flaws and vulnerabilities - this is probably testament to their relative youth in contrast with the main leads.

On a side note, I’m glad to see Jin Joo have some fun - I know we’re supposed to see a complex relationship between her and Ban Do, with each bearing responsibility for their relationship’s demise, but he seems especially cruel.

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He is the drummer of the group Crude Play in the drama ThE LIAR AND HIS LOVER with Lee Hyun Woo and Joy :D

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yes, i agree with this drama being a guilty pleasure. nam gil is so pretty to look at!

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Nam gil just couldn't be more swoony, can he? I'm sure if some things in the past changes, the future would alter too right? While I am rooting for Nam gil but at the same time, I hope the leads would resolve their problems too. There are clearly more issue that they should address with each other, and see how they can grow from it even though it might not mean getting back with each other.

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The second leads are so sweer. I dont want to see their pain when the otp gets together.
Although the reason I dont have sls is because we are seeing the start of their relationships, the puppy love stage- who's to say that 14 year down the line, NamGil won't be the selfesteem crushing workaholic and seoyoung wnt be the bitter depressed wife.
But pls Show, don't hurt them too much?

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this! I know people have been pushing for the second leads, but they have a major advantage of being novel to our leads, thus the romance looks more promising and appealing. Who's to say that 18 years down the road, Seo-young, having injured herself, wouldn't get depressed and frustrated with Ban-do, and Nam-gil, with his own family emotional baggage, wouldn't be a burden to Jin-joo? Our little flashbacks to the "real" 1999 showed that Jin-joo and Ban-do had a really sweet relationship back then too. Hopefully in the last half of the show we'll see them find themselves (Ban-do can find a career he likes, besides his dream of having a family, and Jin-joo can re-gain her confidence and hopefully has her own life outside of marriage too) and find their way back together.

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Preach!

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Thank you for the recap!

I do look forward to when the OTP will will work it out. I just hope it will be done well, because both 2nd leads are written so well. Actually, the only person I don't like now is Ban Do. I'm still not sold on his feelings for Jin Joo just because he pushed Dr Jerk-Park to the pool.

To me, BanDo is acting just like Dr Jerk-Park: keeping men away from one girl, but enjoying his time with another girl. And he's not jealous of Nam gil.... (well, maybe not for now)... he just thinks it's weird another guy would ever like Jin Joo.

Of course, in as much as I have SLS, (#SunbaeSpicyPork4LIFE) I believe BanDo will eventually overcome this... I just hope that story will be SUPER SUPER SUPER AWESOME because Jin Joo deserves nothing less.

Actually they BOTH deserve an awesome reconciliation. Please, Drama gods!

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My heart cooled down a bit at Ban-do when he cried thinking about Seo Jin, but the next day, he went straight back to his first love. Oh God. 🙄 I need Ban-do to act properly for me to root for the OTP because as of now, I don’t see the reason why Ban-do and JinJoo should be together other than Seo Jin. True, the epilogues about them are sweet and to see how in love Ban-do was when he met Jin Joo’s dad, but that’s in the past. The current Ban-do in 1999 is kinda annoying and always degrading Jin Joo.

Anyway, I’m having major SLS and with Ban-do’s attitude and Nam Gil’s confession, I don’t know how will I cure from this SLS. Help‼️

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🚑 Help is on the way..... 😁

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It's pretty clear that Ban Do and Jin Joo still have feelings for one another, even though right now there is so much misunderstanding, miscommunication and hurt between them that it comes out as bitterness and hate. But I appreciate things like Ban Do kicking Hyun Suk into the pool and how he visited the doctor about Jin Joo's mom. (Honestly, I find the latter to be the swooniest of Ban Do's mostly jerky actions so far). But I'm still waiting for swoony Ban Do to appear. There is a swoony Ban Do, right??

Other details I loved about this ep:
1. Jin Joo's heartbreaking convo with her dad
2. Nam Gil and the stray cat
3. Ban Do encouraging Seo Young about dancing
4. Nam Gil and the "wooing"
5. Basically all Nam Gil scenes (sorry not sorry)

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I'm liking your post for the 'all Namgil scenes'. To me, it wasn't clear if Ban Do kicked Dr. Park for Jin Joo. It was implied, but half of me thinks it was because of his own issues with the doctor.

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I think it was for jinjoo. He already hates dr park. When he heard dr park was toying around with jinjoo, he just took action. And bando already told jinjoo from the get go to steer away from dr park saying dr park is up to no good. So yeah, imo the kick was for mainly for jinjoo, if dr park did not speak about jinjoo, bando wouldnt have kicked him 😆

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Yeah, he's shown listening to their conversation in the locker room and fuming before he goes out and kicks him. I don't think he would have gone that far if it weren't for her.

I actually don't think he would have done much more than the soda can prank if Dr Park weren't after her. Honestly, I kind of want him and Nam-gil to team up against this guy.

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oooh, would LOVE to see them team up!

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nam-gil is head over heels in love with jin-joo.
I feel sad for him each time I see him smiling at her cos I know he's gonna be so devastated and heartbroken when the OTP end up together :-(

The OTP still have feelings for each other seeing how jealous they are when they see the other with the second leads.

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Can anyone ship Nam gil to my house? I need him badly! He is A.D.O.R.A.B.L.E!

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I think this has been a long time since any Kdrama character made my heart flutter. Maybe I have a thing for models. Lee Soo Hyuk in suits always give me flutters. Always.

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Check out the actor's Instagram and one photo seems to hint at a scene future / present (?) nam gil driving past a blurred vision of a happy couple playing with a kid...
This sounds ocd but nam gil is just so swoony!

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I think that was the future (2017). If that's the case, in the future, he remembered Jin Joo? Aaaww... But being called smelly by some girl in uni days must be memorable.

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When he was staring at her in the restaurant and she asked what he liked, and he said, "You"......... whew.

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i knew he was going to say 'you' to that question. It was so obvious. Loved that scene.

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When i watch the epilogues of this drama, it always make my heart wrench. It just feels so sad to see a couple who were really in love, with so much innocence and sweetness at one time , had become so much loveless and so much bitterness resides in their hearts about each other.

There is 99% chance that the lead couple would be together at the end, but i wish when they end up together again, i hope they reconcile well, and correct their mistakes and flaws, and let go of all those bitterness in their hearts, and start afresh. They need to relive what they were in the past, be together with so much love between them.

If there is even 1% chance for the second lead, specially Nam-gil, to end up with Jin Joo, then i would still be happy. Sometimes, it is not necessary for the same couple to get back together again. They can end up with different partners and have a different outlook in their lives again.

All i wish is that the end game should be with the person they feel really happy about being together with.

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Agreed. Love your perspective.

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i was initially drawn to it because of jang nara and son ho joon but now it's like they are living out my daydream for me. i've said to friends on more than one occasion about reliving my youth but retaining all the knowledge gained from having already lived it. yes, i would like to revisit a first love and see if it's more than just unrequited...hehehe....i like watching my daydream unfold before me...

some may disagree but I've liked that this drama does not go into too much detail about the rules of this time travel. the focus has been mostly about them in the present past and just living it with a single future factor at stake, their son. in other dramas, i can get too wrapped up in the rules and whether they make sense that i forget to enjoy the drama. i've been able to just sit back and enjoy these two individuals go about their lives as if normal without overthinking each move.

also, i am enjoying the second leads very much, so much that i kind of hate the long glances the leads give each other. i feel like ban do and jinjoo are supposed to be otp but i'm really fighting for namgil to win over here. he's so smitten with her...and i'm so smitten with him.

the flashbacks keep showing us that their relationship started out just like how it began with the second leads--new, exciting, and lovey-dovey. the problem was not with how jinjoo and ban-do began their relationship but more with how they didn't sustain it; they forgot that they still needed to continue trying. potentially, if they go with second leads, it can eventually lead to the same end...hmm....

excuse the rambling...I've been lurking long enough...i had a whole bunch to say...

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hi anglvue!

i hope the time-travel solution of the show would be as simple as them wishing to be together again. liked how the movie BIG returned Tom Hanks character back to his family. although he is living well as an adult, he only has his GF (plus his bestfriend who wants his old buddy back) as family. in jin-joo & ban-do case that would be seo-jin in their future:)

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yes! something simple like that would be great!! (although i'm currently smitten with the second lead...it will break my heart...)

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Thanks for the recap @SailorJumun!

Out of all the shows currently airing, this one is what I look forward the most, I find it so amazing that they build a story between those very used lines by a married couple arguing "If I can turn back time I will choose that guy/girl back then, bet I'll have a better life... etc etc etc" ever-since I was young I always hear that and never did I imagined that there will be a show about it that's what I think the main reason why I'm so invested in this drama. Not that I can relate to it since I'm still living my early twenties and not yet married but it's inspiring me to lead a life with no regrets. Treasure every moment and do your best to make the things you want happen before it's too late. Can't help but to express my love for this show!

Okay... I turned into a teacher there telling stories about myself rather than teaching the lesson for the day.

At this point can't help but to mention, Nam Gil-oppa! HAHA! Well, I believe (I know) that our main OTP will get back together because, yeah, do I still need to explain it? It's their story, a journey to a lost love or should I say sparks (cause I can see they still love each other) along the way and finding the 'you' you lost when you chose to be somebody's other half. Back to Sunbae, he might be a typical troubled-chaebol first time to love turned head over heels with all his swoony acts to a girl but how to resist his charm? I honestly don't know.

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Well said about treasuring every moment and making things you want happen! Life isn't always easy and not everyone is lucky to get a second chance, mistakes are bound to happen and regrets will follow but what matters is you do things for you, for making yourself happy, so later when you look back at life you won't be disappointed with yourself!

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so agree with this, thumbs up!!!

the only life worth living is without regrets. often than not we make decisions that will not only benefit us but also affect the people we love the most. more often than not, people will question our choices and although i still get defensive about it sometimes, i try not to let it bother me. coz at the end of the day you only get one life to live and those repercussions are the variables i consider the most, would my conscience allow me to live this way? if i don't do this now, would i regret it later on?

you only get few moments in life to make those decisions, i mean the big ones. so choose wisely...

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Excuse me, but is anyone know what song that bando singing at the beginning of this episode when he curious about his first love?

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i believe it is kim yeon woo's "is it still beautiful."

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its the first time iam loving the second leads who portray in depth characters, and how they can have their own story lines with the leads, but that depth factor also makes them relatible to real life, as we do find amazing people in our life ,cross paths with them, even if we aren't meant to be with them, they affect us as individual, and we also affect them, and that makes them have a valuable space in ourselves.

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I really like this drama, but i have so many conflicting emotions haha. Jin-joo has so much chemistry with Nam-gil and their scenes makes my heart flutter so much! I can't explain what it is, but it's off the charts! They are both glowing in their scenes, especially Jin-joo! For me, it kind of overshadows the otp a lot haha and i'm not sure it was the writer's purpose or if it was a coincidence because of the actors. Maybe that's why i'm having a hard time to cheer for the first lead. I usually always hope for those couples to rediscover their love. I think i just really dislike Ban-do's words when he's speaking to Jin-joo. Jin-joo is harsh too at times, but i feel it's more a reaction to what Ban-do says. He doesn't really believe in her, belittles her and i know in korean dramas that is love in disguise sometimes, but it's not healthy. How nice it would be for a change to let the heroine end up with a nice guy that accepts her wholeheartly. I'm kind of tired of jerk leads haha. San Maru from The Package is also a good example. Maybe things are changing a bit :) I think Jin-joo deserves to be appreciated, to be adored. Her friends see it, Nam-gil sees it. Only Ban-do that can't see it. But there are some episodes left, who knows what will happen? I will be on Jin-joo's side whoever she picks :) If she really loves Ban-do, then it's her choice. And considering her baby, i can understand.

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I have not watched the drama but it probably was the aim of a writer, how is Ban Do's chemistry with his first love?

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Just throwing my opinion. I think bando 'saw' jinjoo's qualities in 1999 (the past). Its just now after being together for 18 years, all the beautiful things he saw about jinjoo is replaced with new images of their life together. The same goes for jinjoo. Imo, Bando and jinjoo are on a journey to re-see and appreciacte each other's qualities because currently they are viewing each other through jade-coloured glasses.

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Basically in the end of this drama they will end together, only she will be a working mom and he probably more successful in life

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Actually I'm in her side with the marriage. He buys earring for his bosses wife and doesn't remember it's her anniversary. He never bothers to explain that he was late to the hospital be suing his job. He just fumes and cries on his win as if from her vantage point she has no reason to be upset when he's at a club with a woman while she's at the hospital with their son.

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I adore this drama. I'm most excited fo GBS new episode each week. And i noticed on dramabeans the average user rating for GBS is🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟 (5.0!). Get the love GBS! And thanks @sailorjumun for the recap 😀

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i am liking Nam gil for Jin Joo and dont care for Ban Do.

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I loved this episode. I love how they touched on first loves and how everyone doesn't see the word the same. I also love how it shows that men put first loves up on this pedestal, but women are more practical and don't give it this lofty meaning.

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yup, the writing of this episode is good just coz we're given the views of the characters and their own perspective. the secondary characters of bo-reum & jae-woo (who's clearly experiencing their 1st love as well) is a nice parallel to what jin-joo & ban-doo is experiencing w/ the 2nd leads.

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Thanks SailorJumun! for the recaps:)

how can you not fall for nam-gil, he is a total delight! the way he looks at jin-joo just slays:) living vicariously thru that scene, that's all:)

the past is slowly unraveling for both, and it's leading them to different paths but their recent future is coloring both their judgement. i like how ban-do is still protective of jin-joo. maybe these little bits would make him fall for her again? coz i don't think he really likes seo-young that much, i think it's more of nostalgia and him working up the courage to ask her out. he's clearly helping seek a more fulfilling career. but it's very telling that he doesn't know what to do with his life, i mean career-wise... so i guess that's what he needs to work on this re-do.

jin-joo clearly needs a boost of confidence and nam-gil is doing the right moves:) this drama is not doing anything new, but i like it!!!

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It's very hard for me to root for the OTP because they are constantly at each other's throats. I dislike the squabbling and the endless bickering and snide comments. It's just tiring watching them, listening to them fight, alone, or in public.

Contrast their relationship and the amount of noise generated from their endless yelling and shouting with the quietness and the peacefulness of Jin joo's mum and dad. Now here's a couple to root for...until the scene where her dad announced his intention to remarry within less than a year of her mum's passing. This realization, that her dad moved on so fast, has put a damper on every one of their scenes together for me. Because I thought, as Jin Joo thought, that if he had loved her mother so much, he would have mourned her loss for a long time. Was I wrong.

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I have a pet theory though that Seol (Jin-joo's friend who vanished in the future) is the reason they went back in time. Either she is there to bring them together, or she made some wish that if they ever broke up, she would get her chance to go after Ban-do.

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Thanks for the recap!!! Though I'm not currently watching it, I feel like I understand the characters.
N.B. First timer here!!!

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The SLS is high in this show. Nam Gil is so swoony especially compared to Ban-do who didn't even believe that someone confessed to his wife. I hope Jin-Joo rediscover herself through this time travel, learn to love herself and hopefully end up with someone who deserves her. And right now, I don't feel like Ban-do does.

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hip-hop CDs, WHAT SONG???

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