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I need some advices. My friend ended up in a worrying situation. The rest of the story in the comment.

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    She split up with her boyfriend last month. Because this man was self-centred, dominant and controlling.
    He has never praised her so that she won’t be conceited, he said.
    She had to hurry home from work.
    He considered every question, favour and critic as nagging.
    According to him all of her friends are trash and she is a woman without a purpose in life and just drifting through life while he hasn’t a career at all, he’s just training and playing video games all day.
    He’s going to marry her on the condition that she will give birth to a child.
    He got upset whenever my friend went out with her friends.
    He reminded her each time when they argued that she lives in HIS house.
    She was expected to do the chores all by herself.

    Then she got together with a guy she knows a while ago. But her ex-boyfriend begged her to discuss their relationship – he mentioned suicide – and my girlfriend gave in. I cautioned her not to talk about their problems and she had better break off contact with this abusive man for good. I told her that her vulnerability (she doesn’t value herself because of her messy childhood anf family life) makes her easy prey for this type of man.

    On top of that she revealed that she has a new boyfriend. This was the turning point in his behaviour.

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      He’s become delusional at once: he proposed her while having sex, wants couple tattoos, secretly wants to marry her abroad, wants to buy a house on credit, wants to find new friends for themselves, sends love quotes to her with the general message that even if this love is painful they are meant for each other. And he keeps on asking my friend why she’s not enthusiastic about these plans.
      He insists on seeing her telephone messages, he’s spying on her.
      He found her new boyfriend’s address, workplace and his car’s licence plate. He drops several hints to her that her new boyfriend might be hurt.

      Now her new boyfriend wants her to leave him alone because he doesn’t need this shit and accuses my friend of indecisiveness. Before that he even promised to wait for her as many as one year.

      My friend had been driven to the brink of a nervous breakdown and lives an unhealthy life (smoking, coffee, energy drink, skipping meals). She lives with her ex-boyfriend again and goes home in anguish every day being afraid of disagreeing with him. She has a nervous disposition anyway.

      We don’t know what to do.

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        Easier said than done, but I would break up with both.

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    Are you able to get your friend in contact with counsellors or services/ charities that help women in abusive relationships.
    They may be able to help her with a place of her own to live and get the right authorities involved to deal with this guy.

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Out of the blue grandpa is diagnosed with a series of mental issues. I think we are too obsessed with labels. We seem to catalogue and characterise every element of human nature and functioning. This in turn promotes a culture of over-analysis and paranoia. I don’t like this trend. For example, he’s not a workaholic. He’s just a person who happens to like working.
#CleanWithPassionForNow
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These days I’ve noticed that the dramas that suit my current mood are the ones I can be annoyed with such as Memories of the Alhambra or Clean With Passion For Now. I’m also binge watching Descendants of the Sun for additional suffering. I’ve not just been able to work up any enthusiasm for my favourite dramas/animes either. I’m on a downward spiral. I find myself with a negative attitude and an underlying sense of hopelessness.
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I\’m not convinced to continue Hotel Del Luna. I don\’t like IU\’s character. She smirked her way throughout the first episode to the point I began to get increasingly irritated by it. The music is annoying. The visuals are too flashy. And I find it disturbing that an immortal woman bought a young boy and waited for him to grow up and then starts ordering him around and threatening to kill him. How romantic!
I couldn\’t believe the actress to be a fearsome warrior who killed so many people.

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    i thought i was the only one.. ep 1 was boring.. but for me the hero, plot, pacing was an issue.. IU was actually the best part..

    but overall boring

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    Oh..interesting take. I just realized that is what it was in ep 1. She did buy the boy! And unpopular opinion, I didn’t like IU’s character nor YJG’s character. I kinda like hotel ahjusshi. But nice ahjusshi’s are bound to die in dramas like this.

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Oops! I’ve posted a gif twice by mistake. My 2nd favourite male character is:

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Let me show you my favourite male characters in dramas:

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The reserved, taciturn, confident, no-nonsense, steadfast men are my type.
Could you recommend me dramas involving a male character like them?

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    untamed 😛

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    which all dramas are these?

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    Maybe See-hee from Because This is My First Life. But he’s also vulnerable.
    Kim Moo-young from The Smile Has Left Your Eyes and his counterpart Ryo from A Hundred Million Stars from The Sky
    Hwang Shi-mok from Forest of Secret
    Chae Do-woo from Story of A Man

    But they’re all psychopath except Na See-hee 😅

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      I didn’t want to be the first person to say Se-hee so thank you.

      Nam Se-hee is the best male lead of all time.

      I think that’s my life mantra at this point somehow. I only say it so much because it’s true.

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        😄😄
        The first person came to my mind was Se-hee, he does fit the definition. I like him in the later episodes, but in the beginning not so much. I think reserved and steadfast guy is not my type.

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    Completely agree with you on Chugaku Sei Nikki….they were both incredible characters❤

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    My Ahjussi!

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I’m binge-watching MEMORIES OF THE ALHAMBRA.

We waited for Jin Woo to finally have a conversation with Emma and it turned out this way. She’s exactly the same like Hee Joo: she is just sitting prettily playing the guitar and tells him “I believe in you, take care of yourself and I’ll wait for you” ARGH! What was the writer thinking when creating this character?

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    You might have to start using the FF button every time PSH appears.

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    The writer admitted she wasn’t thinking when she wrote the character.

    I believe she was asked to add a female lead. Her previous drafts didn’t intend to have a romance.

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    Lol! I remember wanting to flip a table when this happened. That’s all you can say? All his effort to find you..and that’s all? 😆

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#Memories of the Alhambra
Well, does the writer herself mock her character? This woman is unbeliavable – she cries, nurses Jin Woo back to health, worries about him, and admonishes him for not taking care for himself – she’s acting like a mother not a romantic interest. On top of that Park Shin Hye plays this role in a very annoying way…crying prettily, opening your eyes big and your lips slightly.

I think Jin Woo shows her little affection so I don’t understand why she keeps chasing him.

It’s funny that Jin Woo looked at her in utter bewilderment. She doesn’t even know why she’s just crying. WTF

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