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This Week, My Wife Will Have an Affair: Episode 7

When Soo-yeon makes a difficult decision, Hyun-woo is left scrambling to hold on to his marriage, which forces him to take a hard look at his own faults in the process. In the meantime, Joon-young fixates on a new obsession and debates on whether to come clean with his friends and colleagues. Thank goodness these guys have Bo-young around to provide some cool logic, though her solutions may not be what they were hoping for.

 

 
EPISODE 7 RECAP

Hyun-woo heads home, intending to follow TUNAMAYO’s advice and have a conversation with his wife. Instead, he arrives to find an empty house and divorce papers waiting for him, with Soo-yeon’s wedding ring sitting on top. He immediately calls his mom and is relieved to hear that Joon-soo is with her. His mom tells him that Soo-yeon said she needed some time alone, revealing that her daughter-in-law had told her the truth. She advises him to think about Joon-soo, and whether he wants his son to live in a broken home.

After he hangs up with his mother, Hyun-woo gets a text from Soo-yeon saying that she was afraid if they met in person, then they would end up fighting again. She continues that she doesn’t want to hurt him anymore, and asks him to contact her when he has his feelings sorted out. Hyun-woo angrily rips up the divorce papers, yelling, “Why do I have to get a divorce? Why me? What is it that I did so wrong? What the hell did I do that was so wrong?!”

Yoon-ki has his newest target in a hotel room, but the woman isn’t feeling very amorous and fends off his advances. Looking out the window, she says the lights remind her of Okinawa, and sighs that if she were to go there, then her heart and body would unfreeze. Yoon-ki jumps up like a dog that just heard the sound of kibble: “Even your body? Let’s Go!” They make plans to go that weekend.

Yoon-ki returns home and whines to Ara about the “nighttime hiking trip” that a certain Judge Kim is making him go on this weekend. He keeps ranting about how he’s so upset since he and Ara had planned to be together this weekend, and he’s really disappointed. Ever that supportive (and suspicious) wife, Ara sends her grouching husband to go wash up… then proceeds to sniff/inspect his clothing, finding a long, female hair on his tie.

Joon-young is well and truly drunk after the team dinner that night and sits crying to himself while an exasperated Bo-young watches over him. Sobbing about Hyun-woo’s pitiful life, he wails at Bo-young that she has no idea how pathetic his own life really is. Bo-young just sighs, asking if this is revenge for him taking her home when she was drunk. Heh.

Looking like she wants to be anywhere but there, Bo-young dashes off for a moment and returns to put a hangover cure in his hand and two heat packs in his jacket. She asks her semiconscious colleage to understand that this is the best she can do.

She starts to walk off but then comes back a moment later, looking torn.

Hyun-woo decides to stay the night at Joon-young’s again, wandering in and ranting that Soo-yeon asked for a divorce… only to realize that Joon-young isn’t home.

Back on the street, Bo-young walks away from Joon-young after wrapping a cardboard fence around him and sticking a post-it note to his forehead with the message: “Please wake me up at 7:30 a.m. I have to go to work.” Well, I suppose she tried.

Having asked her boss for a day off, Soo-yeon waits at a train station, bag in hand. Meanwhile, Hyun-woo sits amidst a clutter of empty beer cans, reading the responses to his post. More than a little tipsy, Hyun-woo scoffs at all the compliments to TUNAMAYO’s advice and types out a reply, accusing TUNAMAYO of just wanting attention.

All his many fans see his post and eagerly tune in to read Hyun-woo’s story, which is a criticism of TUNAMAYO’s bad advice. Hyun-woo flops back down on the couch while the tide turns in the chat room, with everyone criticizing TUNAMAYO for butting in.

Morning dawns, and a hungover Hyun-woo answers a call from Joon-young, who yells that their show’s premiere episode managed to get eleven percent ratings (translation: pretty good). Hyun-woo groggily asks where Joon-young is, but when Joon-young answers that he’s at home, Hyun-woo points out that he’s at his home, leading Joon-young to ask, “…Then, where am I?”

Cut to: Joon-young waking up in his cardboard fort on the sidewalk, getting stared at by pedestrians. Rocketing up, he finds the post-it that Bo-young left and sees that a number of people have added their own notes. The replies range from unhelpfully telling him to go to work, to apologizing for taking a sip of his drink. Hah.

Joon-young meets Hyun-woo for a convenience store breakfast, all the while ranting at Bo-young for leaving him in the cold when he took such good care of her before. His tirade is cut short when Hyun-woo shares that Soo-yeon asked for a divorce.

All ready to be flustered on his hyung’s behalf, Joon-young’s righteous fury gets interrupted when the pair overhear two customers discussing TOYCRANE’s latest post, gossiping that he’s about to get dumped by the woman who divorced him.

Hyun-woo and Joon-young quickly duck down, and Joon-young reads over Hyun-woo’s post, awed that he’s become a celebrity overnight. Joon-young asks if he’s really getting a divorce, but Hyun-woo snarls back that he’ll never get a divorce: “I’ll keep her by my side until I’ve sucked all the happiness out of her!” Yup, that’s healthy.

Soo-yeon arrives at her father’s house in the countryside. He greets her warmly, but there seems to be a polite tension between them. Soo-yeon’s dad makes her some food while Soo-yeon goes back to her childhood room, looking at all her old photos.

Hyun-woo and Joon-young arrive at work, and the whole team is abuzz to see the positive response that their program is receiving. Hyun-woo encourages everyone to keep working hard, but Joon-young is busy eerily glaring at Bo-young.

Back in the country, Soo-yeon’s dad brings a tray of food to his daughter’s room, but finds her sound asleep on the floor.

Getting ready for his Okinawa getaway, Yoon-ki goes to a tanning salon. He gets called away soon after by one of his many girlfriends. The two meet in a car, with Yoon-ki bemoaning how all the location shooting has led him to getting a tan in winter. Puh.

His girlfriend whines that he’s been ignoring her lately and asks him to go on a trip with her, but when he agrees that of course they should go, she grins and chirps that they should go this weekend. Since this clashes with Yoon-ki’s Okinawa plans, he distracts the young thing with a make-out session, covering her protests with rather forceful kisses.

Hyun-woo comes across Joon-young crying over his phone. Hyun-woo disbelievingly asks if he’s crying on his behalf (again), but it turns out that this time, Joon-young’s sobbing over the thoughtful and well-meaning comment that TUANMAYO posted in response to Hyun-woo’s criticism.

Joon-young is in awe of the magnanimous response to Hyun-woo’s tirade and starts berating his hyung for his harsh words, but Hyun-woo is more concerned to hear that TUNAMAYO responded to his new posts.

Back at his desk, Hyun-woo reads TUNAMAYO’s response: “You must be devastated. Wouldn’t the reason that you’re so angry be that you still love your wife? No matter what choice you make, please choose the one that leaves you with the least regret.” Hyun-woo remains unmoved by the touching words, interpreting it as a refusal on TUNAMAYO’s part to admit she was wrong in front of the other netizens.

In contrast, Joon-young has tipped over into worship mode, praising the glory of TUNAMAYO. (Oy.) Ignoring his converted hoobae, Hyun-woo angrily writes back that he followed TUNAMAYO’s suggestion, and now his wife is asking for a divorce.

At his post, all of Hyun-woo’s fans tune in, reading as Hyun-woo continues writing that he tried to be understanding of his wife and do all the things TUNAMAYO suggested, but now she’s asking for a divorce anyway.

Yoon-ki stops by the team’s office, and the sight of his browned complexion causes Hyun-woo and Joon-young to ask if he got hit by lightning. Yoon-ki’s airily explains today’s tanning trend, but Bo-young interrupts to tell them that their new husband for the show is here to be interviewed.

The team’s new spouse proves to be no weakling, angrily saying that his wife had an affair and is now asking him for a divorce. Hyun-woo and Joon-young exchange glances over the parallels as the man continues to yell that he’ll never give his wife the divorce.

Yoon-ki steps in to point out that as the cheating spouse, the man’s wife has no grounds to ask for a divorce. However, the man admits that, actually, he cheated on his wife three years prior. (Pot, meet kettle.)

After the interview, Joon-young can’t understand it: They both cheated on each other, so why won’t they just divorce? Bo-young says that it’s because a divorce means everything is over, and the man clearly still loves his wife.

At Joon-young’s disbelieving look, Bo-young points out, “Seeing how he’s still getting that angry, he must still love her.” Her words jolt Joon-young with how similar they sound to TUNAMAYO’s advice.

Soo-yeon is awakened from her deep sleep and heads out to her father, smiling to hear him playing the harmonica. Soo-yeon asks if he isn’t lonely living out here by himself, but he assures her that he’s fine before asking after his grandson.

The father-daughter moment is interrupted when Hyun-woo calls his father-in-law. Fishing to see if his wife is there, Hyun-woo keeps the conversation light, but Soo-yeon’s dad doesn’t reveal that she’s with him.

Yoon-ki is having some trouble keeping up with all his mistresses. Exhausted from his girlfriend, he tries to beg off on a date with the flower arrangement teacher, but the woman says they can just meet over the weekend. Unwilling to compromise his Okinawa trip, Yoon-ki gives in, and the two retire for hanky-panky.

Struggling to stay awake, Yoon-ki goes bathing suit shopping with the client he’s trying to seduce, who seems to like the idea of seeing him in an itty bitty speedo.

The film team discusses whether to use the two cheating spouses as this week’s topic, but Joon-young can’t stop staring at Bo-young, convinced she’s TUNAMAYO. After fumbling through the meeting, he asks Bo-young if she’s a member of the stocks chat room (where Hyun-woo posted). When she affirms it, he tentatively inquires if her username is a food.

Bo-young nods, asking if he knows her ID, and Joon-young looks like his world is imploding. After Bo-young leaves, Joon-young stares after her, whimpering that his precious TUNAMAYO can’t possibly be her.

Oh boy. In preparation for his new speedo, Yoon-ki goes to get a Brazilian wax. He’s happy to see that his attendant is a pretty woman, but she’s soon replaced by a burly man who unmercifully yanks the wax strips from Yoon-ki’s not-so-happy place (eeouch!).

At the team office, Joon-young grins/glares at Bo-young, believing he’s caught on to her TUNAMAYO identity. The grinning glare is so creepy that she confronts him over it, and Joon-young just goes off, calling her a hypocrite and demanding back his “days’ worth of touched feelings.” Bo-young just sighs to see Joon-young reach yet another level of crazy.

On a roll, Joon-young “outs” Bo-young as TUNAMAYO, whisper-yelling at her, “You knew that Hyun-woo is TOYCRANE and posted comments while pretending to be someone else, didn’t you?” He grins again, asking how long she’s known, but Bo-young snarks back, “What would I know? I just found out that [Hyun-woo] is TOYCRANE from you.”

Joon-young still doesn’t believe her, so she walks off, shaking her head at his antics and calling him a mental patient. Yeesh, the laugh he gives to her retreating form is alarmingly insane.

Hyun-woo and Joon-young share some couch time, both pouting over their prospective problems. Joon-young is still convinced that Bo-young is TUNAMAYO and sends an angry post about her, determined to make her respond to him.

Meanwhile, Soo-yeon turns her phone back on and calls Hyun-woo, who leaps up to answer it.

Hyun-woo immediately starts a mini-rant on the phone, asking how she could just take off and leave divorce papers behind. He reminds her about Joon-soo, and yells that he hasn’t done anything wrong to be punished with a divorce.

Soo-yeon asks him what he wants to do then, but Hyun-woo can only answer that he doesn’t know. He says he can no longer tell what’s right or wrong, but he doesn’t want Soo-yeon to decide on her own either. Aww, his words are angry, but more than anything, he sounds scared that his wife won’t come back.

Out of the blue, Soo-yeon asks her husband, “You’ve never cheated on me?” Hyun-woo stands shocked, unable to answer as Soo-yeon tells him to forget she asked before hanging up.

Hyun-woo wanders back to the couch in a daze and asks Joon-young, “Have I ever had an affair?” He tells him about Soo-yeon’s question, and how he got tongue-tied and couldn’t answer.

Because he couldn’t answer her right away, Hyun-woo starts second-guessing himself, telling Joon-young in a puzzled voice that surely, if he’d had an affair, he should remember… right?

Yoon-ki waddles to dinner with Ara, lying that his limping is due to pulling a muscle and not from have the hair yanked from little Yoon-ki. Ara drops the hint that her father was planning to come for dinner this weekend and was very disappointed to have to cancel, which has Yoon-ki hastily telling her to reschedule. He promises that he can come home in time for dinner with his father-in-law.

Ara starts to call her father to ask him to make Judge Kim cancel the “hiking trip” anyways, so Yoon-ki wincingly scoops her up and carries her to the bedroom, distracting her the best way he knows how. Later, as Ara is sleeping, Yoon-ki lies awake with a nosebleed from exhaustion. As a string of texts from his many mistresses beep onto his phone, Yoon-ki whimpers, “Because of Okinawa, I’m burnt to ashes.”

Still at her father’s house, Soo-yeon starts to read a book, but stops when she sees that Hyun-woo had written a note on the back page: “Don’t just look at books, come look at the stars with me.”

The sweet message from her husband reminds her of when the two were young. They’d been out looking at the stars, and the young couple had promised each other that, no matter how busy they get in the future with work and family, they’d make time to come look at the stars together.

Back in the present, Soo-yeon tears up at the memory.

The next morning, Joon-young waits for Bo-young with his late night post to TUNAMAYO up on his computer screen. Beckoning Bo-young over, he sighs at the mean things that people will say to each other online, but then gapes when Bo-young immediately writes a response to the mystery post, “I agree with this refreshing comment. Honestly, TUNAMAYO should mind [their] own business.”

Suddenly protective of his beloved TUNAMAYO, Joon-young pouts that they’re just trying to help, not be nosy. Bo-young is unapologetic as she states that the person had no right to butt into other people’s lives. She flounces off with Joon-young yelling after her, “What do you know about TUNAMAYO!?”

Hyun-woo scrolls through his phone as he tries to find out who he cheated with while Joon-young pouts that Bo-young isn’t TUNAMAYO after all. Hyun-woo distractedly says he thought she was TUNAMAYO too, but reveals that her ID is actually PUDDING.

Much relieved now, Joon-young helps Hyun-woo brainstorm over who he may have cheated with, but they come up empty. Joon-young decides that their only option is to ask Yoon-ki, claiming that their friend always remembers not only his own women, but other men’s women.

Unfortunately, the guru of infidelity is a bit of a mess. Joon-young and Hyun-woo even ask the exhausted man if he needs to go to the hospital, but Yoon-ki just groans cryptically that they don’t understand how tiring Okinawa is.

Hyun-woo shares Soo-yeon’s question, and Yoon-ki shoots out a number of establishments that Hyun-woo may have gone to that could be considered cheating (massage parlors, kissing rooms, etc.), but Hyun-woo hasn’t even heard of half those places, so that’s out.

Yoon-ki goes for a different tactic, telling Hyun-woo to picture all the girls he’s met in his life that he found attractive. Hyun-woo starts listing a few (and Yoon-ki and Joon-young immediately start judging him for each one), but then insists that nothing happened with those women.

At a loss, Joon-young suggests that if there wasn’t a woman, was it a man? Heh, Hyun-woo joins the ranks of people calling Joon-young crazy this week.

The time’s come for Soo-yeon to head back home. Her father puts a few dollars in her pocket and tells her to bring Joon-soo out to visit soon. There’s no hug goodbye, but as Soo-yeon’s taxi pulls away, her father follows the car down the driveway, and Soo-yeon can’t hold back her tears.

Joon-young sends a private message to TUNAMAYO that night, telling about how his wife left him and how he’s been living a lie ever since. TUNAMAYO responds by encouraging him to tell his friends, even if some leave his for it: “Don’t be afraid. It might be a good chance to find out who’s most precious to you.”

Yoon-ki finally leaves the office for Okinawa, but he runs into Ara on the way out. Knowing that he didn’t have any hiking gear, she brought some for him. With no choice but to accept it, Yoon-ki shows up at the airport looking like a pack mule on the way to Everest.

Still looking for answers, Joon-young and Hyun-woo ask Bo-young if, to her knowledge, Hyun-woo has ever had an affair. Stumping both of them, she asks what kind of affair they mean. Joon-young argues that an affair is an affair, but Bo-young fires back that there are many different kinds, and even just having your heart flutter can be an form of one.

When Hyun-woo scoffs that every man has had an affair then, Bo-young points out that men don’t show interest in women they don’t want to sleep with, so something as simple as a dinner date could be the basis of an affair.

Hyun-woo reads back through the online posts. Everyone seems to be firmly on his side, saying he did nothing wrong, but Bo-young’s words replay in his head. He calls Soo-yeon’s dad again, and this time the man readily says that Soo-yeon is on her way home now. Hyun-woo breathes a giant sigh of relief.

Soo-yeon picks Joon-soo up, and the little boy asks if his mom is coming home now. The pair are joined by Hyun-woo, who answers that of course she should come home.

Bo-young and Joon-young share a drink and discuss whether Hyun-woo should get divorced. Bo-young can tell that Hyun-woo has great love for his wife and that he bases every decision he makes off of that, but she says that his problem is that he can’t find the right way to tell Soo-yeon how he feels.

Joon-young asks if she got her own divorce for the same reason, and Bo-young states (in her regular blasé fashion) that her husband cheated, so she left him. Joon-young barely has time to choke down this news before Bo-young hits him with her own question, “You don’t have a wife, do you?” Joon-young sits stunned as Bo-young guesses that the story he told about his wife leaving him was true.

Over in Okinawa, Yoon-ki’s conquest is successful, and he and the woman fall into bed together, both blissfully unaware of the typhoon making its way to the island’s coast.

Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon finally sit down to talk, and Hyun-woo apologizes if he ever hurt her by cheating in any way. He admits that he has thought about having an affair before, and if she considered that cheating, then he’s sorry for hurting her.

Soo-yeon doesn’t respond, so Hyun-woo pushes a bit, asking if she cheated for revenge. When she still doesn’t answer, Hyun-woo nearly begs her to tell him the reason, since he’s going crazy wondering what it is.

Soo-yeon slowly answers, “It just… It just happened.” Hyun-woo is understandably frustrated, saying that he thought they were doing well — so how could “it” have just happened?

Soo-yeon answers that she thought they were doing well too, but she never realized how thin she was stretching herself. We see flashes of her daily life as she describes how she went out of her way to smile and be relaxed even when she was exhausted. She adds that she was always running around to pick up Joon-soo and take care of their home while also having a career. She says that she thought that everyone lived like that, so it didn’t matter if she wasn’t particularly happy or unhappy.

It wasn’t until she met Sun-woo and he started noticing how overworked she was that things started to change, she claims. That a stranger could see what she couldn’t made her look at her life differently. He asked her what she wanted to do, and she realized she hadn’t thought about just herself in a long time.

Soo-yeon finishes, saying that she knows it isn’t an excuse. She apologizes again, and annoyed, Hyun-woo asks if she had an affair because he didn’t notice how tired she was. He says that that’s how it is for everyone, pointing out that he hasn’t had an easy life either, but he still makes an effort to help with Joon-soo and the house.

Soo-yeon tries to say that isn’t what she meant, but ends up just apologizing again, saying that she should have told him she was having a hard time. Still, she cries that she can’t face him anymore, and that it’s all too difficult. Taking a breath, she finally tells a stunned Hyun-woo, “Let’s just stop.”

The next day, Typhoon Hera crashes into Okinawa, and Yoon-ki’s new conquest snuggles happily into her morose lover. Realizing that there’s no way to fly back home in this storm, Yoon-ki breaks the fourth wall to whimper a weak “Dammit,” as the soundtrack plays, “This isn’t right, this isn’t right, this isn’t how life is supposed to go…”

 
COMMENTS

It’s sad to see that while Hyun-woo is fighting to hold on to his marriage and understand his wife, Soo-yeon just wants to end it. They’re both reflecting the different sides of a relationship that Bo-young and TUNAMAYO described: a spouse who gets angry still has love for their partner, while someone who calmly accepts the end no longer has any feelings for the other person. Hyun-woo may be hurt and furious with Soo-yeon, but he obviously still loves his wife and doesn’t want to lose her. He’s trying so hard to find a way to get past this that he’s even doubting his own faithfulness, desperately looking for a flaw in himself that could justify his wife’s infidelity. Soo-yeon’s decision to ask for a divorce seems to have shocked him out of his vindictive streak from last week, and now, in spite of her transgression, he’s attempting to work it out and hold onto his family.

In contrast, Soo-yeon is just done with the whole thing. There is no fire or passion to any of her actions, but rather a bleak acceptance that her marriage is over. After however many years of spreading herself too thin added to the stress of the affair coming out in the open, it appears that she would rather end everything and stop the pain rather than fight for whatever might be left. Even when she thought back on their early years together, there was no happiness at the memory — there was just a final sadness, as though it was already over.

I really don’t see the point of Yoon-ki anymore, especially since I’m now so disgusted by his philandering that the only comic relief he provides is when he’s physically injured. I know that he does give a view from the cheating side of the spectrum, but his views on adultery don’t exactly warrant the crazy amount of screen time he’s been getting, especially since his story line isn’t actually going anywhere. If Ara were any closer to discovering the truth or having an affair of her own, then I’d be somewhat invested in their plot line. But at this point, I’m more interested in finding out the identity of TUNAMAYO than watching Yoon-ki get a nosebleed from too much extramarital coitus.

In spite of that small complaint, I’m still loving how this show continues to give a real look at a husband who not only discovered his wife’s affair, but now has to face where their marriage and relationship goes from there. We all grow up hearing that if someone cheats on you, you leave them — no exceptions. But really, there is no template to follow in this situation: You do what is best for you and your partner or family. Sometimes, like TUNAMAYO said, the best you can do is pick the choice that leaves you with the fewest regrets. It may be painful and morally questionable, but life often is.

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The basic point is that he was uneducated on the complexity of working a job and doing housework/child rearing. They were unaware of her problem and when she discovered it, she lied to his face and pretended everything was ok (even when he started to suspect it was not, and he asked whether she was doing ok and she wanted to spend some time to reconnect, she lied that she was fine and had to work, and went to spend time with his lover). Lack of communication and awareness was certainly *A* problem. Not *THE* problem.

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The affair, her reaching out to her lover after their first encounter and becoming a *serial cheater* (it was *not* a one night stand, and that "stress" surely is doing a lot of work, while *guilt* seems to be rather ineffective in terms of real world consequences, something than remains just on paper and in well wishes -a bit like new years resolutions-), her choosing to continue it and *deceive her husband indefinitely*, were a spike in the heart of their relationship that destroyed his trust (along with her thicky truthing and not being forthcoming with informations of her betrayal -like not mentioning that her lover was her projects' client, promising not to contact him againt despite knowing that they worked together, and actually breaking that promise the very next day when they met one-to-one face to face-.

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Her being a habitual liar, a serial cheater and a homewrecker are, in my opinion, bigger character flaws than being clueless about housework and overly trusting of his wife's fake mask about her wellbeing. Good that he is on a path of learning (with all the anger and confusion she generated with her deception and serial cheating). But "how did I come to this place" should be at the forefront of *her* mind much more than of his, because she has some *slightly bigger character flaws* to fix.

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Besides that, in the last chapter she met her lover's wife and that should have driven home the fact that, setting aside her family and husband, assuming for a second they were unworthy of her concern, she was the kind of person that would risk destroying another family of people that never hurt her or did anything to deserve this, over a superficial whim. A fling that ended so, so easily.

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Being a habitual liar, serial cheater and homewrecker, one would guess that they would *both* have to grow, learn and make visible, lasting changes to their character, but much more so in her case. While apparently he has a lot to learn (o be lectured about from the bully pulpit by people of questionable morality and barely veiled hypocrisy), she doesn't really seem to be going through a journey of introspection and self development, seeming more content with being passive and letting him struggle to keep the relationship afloat -though self entitedly frustrated that he is not healing the emotional wounds *she* caused according to *her* schedule-).

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Setting aside any consideration on her husband and her family, just the encounter with her lover's wife last chapter should have driven home the fact that she was willing to deceive indefinitely and risk destroying the life of someone that she didn't know and never did anything to her (even reaching out to the woman's husband after their first encounter, while knowing he was married and had children of his own), over a relationship that was ended as easily as snow in the sun.

For someone that said she loved her, but never divorced his wife; that cheated on and deceived said wife, depriving her of the ability to make an informed choice for herself, disposing of her as of a possession or an object; that instead of recusing himself, "fired" her from the project without even discussing it with her first, and then told his wife she was "nothing" and a person not "worthy of meeting".

The questions her lover's wife said to her should have stayed with her and prompted some major self reflection over her very obvious flaws, that went well beyond a bit of indifference and underestimating the plight of the working parent. One would appreciate seeing at least, an frankly, more growth and learning on her side as on her husband's. I am okay with him being educated on the difficulties of housework, but if it's not too much to ask the show should throw some epiphanies and character growth the way of the adulterous wife, to at lest turn her into someone that wouldn't willingly deceive and risk destroying another family of innocent people over a superficial whim, a fling that meant nothing and ended (and therefore at any time she could have broken off) so easily

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Considering a clueless and overly trusting husband uneducated on the difficulties of housework on one hand, and a habitual liar, serial cheater and someone that would sleep with a married man with children of his own, willingly deceiving and risking to destroy two families over a superficial whim, who do you think is more in need of soul searching/instrospection/maturation/growth/learning? Might I add, for a man that just happened to catch her with hes mask down as she realized her stress (and maybe it's easier to spot these things from the outside, and to talk to a stranger about these problems, which is why therapy works), but that was otherwise a serial cheater that would have continued to lie to his wife even after the affair was discovered, depriving her of the ability to make an informed choice, and told his lover he loved her, while not leaving his wife and not leaving the project, but removing his lover from it without even discussing it with her, and badmouthing her, when it became convenient. Someone that treated the women in his life like objects he could dispose of, making decisions about their lives without discussing it with them or, in the case of his wife, even making her aware she had a choice -because he felt entitled to prevent even the possibility she might chose leave him-.

Not that she reflects on her lover much after breaking things off. But she should, and she should think about whether all this pain was worth it. For something that was ended just like that, without even a whimper. For such a serial philanderer and habitual liar of a man, who dared to use the word "love". She became someone that would deceive and risk destroying not only her family, but her lover's family, over such a superficial whim, such a senseless fling, such a flimsy man. By contrast, while her husband needs to learn as well, it should be pointed out that her lover clearly demonstrates that choice of partner is key. A serial philanderer and habitual liar -and someone that treated his wife as a piece of property he could dispose as he plased, and deprived her of even the ability of making an informed choice- had such a loyal partner that woud never cheat on him even after he planned to deceive her indefinitely and was forced to (*forced to* being the key phrase here) come clean. Seems like as a habitual liar, serial cheater and a woman that would deceive and risk destroying her and her lover's family over a superficial whim, a meaningless fling with someone that claimed to love her, but that would throw her away, fire her from the project and badmouth her when it was no longer convenient to have her around, I would say the adulterous wife is much more in need of self reflection.

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Setting the husband aside, from last episode's encounter with her lover's wife, it's apparent that between the two of them she at least as much in need (and I would say much more) of some soul searching and introspection.

Her flaw is not a bit of indifference, it's being a serial adulterer with a married man with a family of his own, which she was willing to deceive and risk destroying, over a fling that ended so easily.

She should do a lot of growing and learning, to at least become someone that wouldn't casually destroy another family's lives over a superficial whim.

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The wife posed some very good question. Did the adulterous wife ponder them? Did she self reflect? Because while now she is dealing with guilt over what she has done to her husband, the question of "how could you not care about your married lover's innocent family" does not seem to be at the forefront of her mind (the hurt she caused them apparently forgotten the minute the confrontation ended, never to be considered again -this will be all about her and her husband, but make no mistake, he was not the only person she deceived and whose life she willingly risked ruining for a selfish whim-).

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I really think that the show shouldn't be so one-sided in terms of growth and character development. The show is focusing on her husband's growth and learning, but it's pretty clear that he is most definitely not the only one in need of some change. The wife has little to no character development. It's not as if previously she was convinced that what she did was right and now she knowns it is wrong, or that she believed her husband to be a monster that deserved to be hurt/humiliated/deceived, and now she think he is a good man. She alway knew that her actions were shameful and always thought that her husband was a good man, yet none of those things stopped her from cheating, reaching out to her lover after their first encounter, and planning to continue the affair and their partnes' deception indefinitely (in the case of her lover's wife, even after being discovered by her husband).

I must admit that, given how easily the affair was broken off, and the guilt that made it impossible for her to look at her husband's face, and is now causing her to break things off, that I don't get the serial nature of the adultery, or how she was ready to continue it and deceived her husband indefinitely, when it should have been pure torture. For that matter, I don't see how the affair would have helped her schedule, rather than making it more hectic (though magically, while she couldn't find two hours for herself, she could find the time for the affair). Or why when her husband started to suspect there was something wrong and asked how she was and whether she wanted to spend time together (which is what she wanted, and she didn't want to end the marriage) she lied that she was fine and needed to work, while going to meet her lover (and planning to go get her kid after having sex with her lover)... She was able to face them without an issue, guilt apparently doing no work here.

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That said, I would say that in terms of issues sabotaging the relationship, her lying about her condition (thankfully, she didn't expect him to know it by mind reading, and as pointed out above he did try to inquire and propose spending time together to reconnect when he noticed some issues emerging, only to be lied to about her condition and spurned), her serial cheating and her willingness to engage in perpetual deception (and to not be forthcoming with information, lie by omission -not disclosing her lover was her project's client- or just lie -promising not to contact him again, while knowing they work together and meeting him one-to-one the very next day-, and to make him an accomplice in her lover's wife's deception with no regard for justice, her right to make an informed choice, or her husband's feelings) seem like major character flaws. Her lack of regard for her husband's psychological safety, her pressuring him into healing according to her schedule (impatient, etc.) and not be understanding of the emotional wound, confusion and resentment she caused to brew within him. Her cheating with a married man, regardless of the latter's wife (who she was okay continuing to deceive, which is hard to comprehend as a woman).

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I mean: loving, kind but occasionally indifferent guy that does not know much about the harshness of housework and child rearing, versus habitual liar, serial cheater and person that would deceive and risk destroying another family of innocent people that she didn't know and didn't do anything to them. Who would be more in need to grow/learn/soul search/introspect? And yet her husband is the one doing all the growing/introspecting, while mindset wise she had no epiphany or significant character growth. If their marriage was a car, they would be fixing the coloring (him) and not replacing the broken wheel (her).

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Again, it's not as if she thought she was doing something good or that she was doing it so someone that was horrible/deserving of it. So I am not sure how her guilt after the affair and the ease with which they terminated the affair is compatible with her to become a cheater and then a serial cheater at that. That "stress" is surely doing a lot of work there (inversely proportional to the work that "guilt" was doing in stopping her beforehand, which was apparently none at all). So I am not sure exactly what kind of epiphany she needs. But if we are going to have a whole series about her husband fixing his mindset (as her philandering husband of a lover *never* gets cheated on, though, it's apparent that the number one thing he should have fixed or reconsidered was choice of a partner, if he had married someone like her lover's wife he would have never been in this situation), she clearly needs to grow and learn just as much (actually, I would say much more so). She put a stake in the heart of the relationship with her serial cheating and perpetual lying (about her condition, about her lover). Setting her own family aside, she also destroyed her lover's family, who never did anything to her, for a superficial whim, as was apparent in the confrontation with her lovers' wife. And her lover was someone that would cheat on his wife, and not leave, with another woman he claimed to love, and that he fired and badmouthed when it was convenient to him.

I would say, plenty of things to mull over and areas for growth/learning/improvement. Plenty of questionable choices, and wondering why she ended up where she is should be at the forefront of her mind much more so than even her husbands. How did she become someone who would deceive indefinitely and risk to destroy not only her own family, but a family of innocent people she didn't even know and that never did anything to her? A serial liar? A serial cheater? Growing and learning to become someone that would not have done that if they were in her place (not that she can go back and undo what she did, she will always be someone that did all those things) seems much more pressing if they want to continue the relationship (I personally don't think they should, for her husband's sake he should find someone that would never betray him -let alone become a serial cheater, serial liar and homewrecker-, like the wife of his wife's lover) than him learning about housework (though considering his relative-but-not-so-much ineptitutde he would be well served learning stuff there as well: I think that's one thing the US habit of leaving home earlier does to you, making you more independent). Yet he is doing all the growth/learning, while she is essentially the same, mindset wise, than in the beginnig. No significant epiphany, no visible and long lasting character change. No significant character development. He need to learn and grow, but I would say that a serial liar, serial cheater and someone that,...

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someone that, as reminded in the last chapter, destroyed someone else's family as well as her own, would need to learn a thing or two as well (maybe more than he does, maybe more important things).

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Actually, re: stress, it should be pointed out that he was in a position where he was about to lose his job at any time at his work. He was told that his program was being terminated and he had some weeks to come up with a new idea, or he would be out on the streets. That's something that he knew could happen at any time, and he had to come up with a new concept, the cheating show -trash, if you ask me-. Did she knew any of that? No. Was he the only inattentive spouse? No, she forgot their anniversary as well. Did he cheat? No.

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At some point in this discussion maybe he should have worked in the fact that, in addition to other objectively worse positioned people (without in laws helping with the *ONE KID* they have), like parents of special needs kids, single parents with multiple kids that work three jobs, families with 2/3/4 kids where both parents work full time, he was also under considerable stress. Does she know that he had his program terminated? Does she know that he had mere weeks to come up with a new idea (that trashy cheating show) otherwise he was on the streets? Why is this "understanding" unilateral, and she makes no effort to understand him in return? She is the habitual liar, serial cheater and housewrecker here, who intentionally broke her wow and their trust, while he never noticed something she didn't either, and just trusted her lies about how she felt (and given the impeccable facade that she put up when he tried inquiring about the affair, she was able to deceive with the best of them, I don't think it would have been possible to know she was telling a lie if she didn't want you to... her lover caught her with her guard down as she had just realized her problem, and probably certain things are easier to see from the outside and discuss with a stranger -why therapy works-).

Ultimately, that "stress" does a lot of work here. How would a lover improve her schedule, rather than make it more hectic? How would it push her to become a habitual liar, a serial cheater, and a homewrecker? When he realized he couldn't trust her facade and asked how she felt and whether she wanted to spend time together to reconnect, she lied that she was ok, that she had a meeting and went to sleep with her lover, planning to pick up her kids afterwards. No shame or guilt at the idea of lying to their faces, before, and afterwards when they asked her how the meeting went. Guilt was apparently doing zero work here, while after he discovered the affair she couldn't look him in the face and the affair was broken off with incredible ease, it meant nothing, but was paid with the wreckage of two families.

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I share basically this opinion. I am onboard with her being stressed. I must point out that he was not a mind reader, and if she acted as perfectly as when he tried to reach out to her and she told him she was fine and was having a work meeting, it's not hard to believe that he could have been deceived by her habitual lying about her being overworked.

Not that I can see how a lover would have improved her schedule, nor how she could previously not find two hours to read a book, but then she was able to make time for texting/seeing/sleeping with her lover. The word "stress" is doing a lot of work here, with her becoming a habitual liar, serial cheater and homewrecker, while "guilt" is non existant: she can watch her husband that asked her how she felt and whether she wanted to take time to reconnect, and lie that she was well and had a work meeting, sleep with her lover, and then pick up her son and face him as he asked her how the meeting went. That's not even considering the fact that she slept with and reached out after their first encounter to another woman's husband, with kids of his own, and she was a mother as well. After the affair was discovered, by contrast, she couldn't look her husband in the face and to hear her actions mentioned, and they stopped the affair with extreme ease. Her lover claimed to love her, but didn't leave his wife, fired her without discussing it with her, badmouthed her to his wife, who by the way he was ready to deceive indefinitely.

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Compare to My Mister's cheating situation.

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Basically an inverted My Mister's Ji An (apologist for the cheater, and a victim blamer).

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He really shouldn't have dropped the " there are tons of people that have it worse". He is less than sufficiently capable at housework, but that's no reason to make this out to be rocket science. One kid is not D-Day or the Moon Landing.

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As always, more than not making an attempt to understand, the issue is that there is no real sense-making here.

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The lack of guilt about the affair while it was going on was not addressed. Nor did he return on the topic of what she felt for her lover, which was a rather important question from the time he discovered her affair to answer.

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What does she think now about her lover, a man that would cheat on his wife and not leave her even after claiming to love her lover? Or about that the affair was so easily broken, but she wanted to continue it indefinitely? What was this?

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Her feelings, past and present, for his lover would be an appropriate topic to discuss. Also, he should question why, while she might have had remonstrations about him, she chose to cheat with a married man with a family and kids of his own? Deceiving and potentially destroying a family that never did anything to her?

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