It’s kind of unsettling how they are making Kang Tae a typical candy only it’s a male. I really don’t understand with dramas and their need to make leads pitiful. I have only ever watched one other drama portraying an autistic character in Catch The Ghost and there too, the autistic sister and her twin were orphans so naturally all the care taking and the earning burden fell on one single shoulder. Why can’t an autistic character have more than one siblings and a set of parents completely well and alive? Why does the other non-autistic sibling has to be neglected by their mother? I have witnessed a family with an autistic kid very closely and I have seen how the mother makes so much effort to make sure that in the special care and attention that needs to be given to the autistic kid, her other kids are not ignored. And no the mother did not bring about more kids into the world after her autistic kid was born so that they can take care of their special needs sibling. There are still so many complexities to explore even with less pitiable leads, without dead parents. Ofcourse ouri Kang Tae is feeling burdened this episode because he too needs a break otherwise it can become too emotionally exhausting. If there were other siblings or/and parents we could have witnessed the other sibling taking over while Kang Tae caught a much needed break but then that would make him less pitiable and dramas have apparently sworn to never do that.
PS: I will need a proper explanation regarding what happened after Kang Tae ran off with his hyung in the wake of his mother’s death because a 12(14?) year old with a special needs hyung surviving is too unrealistic to be believable. I hope there’s a plausible explanation as to how he managed to survive (like maybe an older and responsible adult taking them in or smth), how he managed to arrange for their living quarters, their food, water, other basic necessities and how Kang Tae managed to complete his education. I need these answers show otherwise I’ll be pretty disappointed.
I think a child looking after someone from his family isn’t unrealistic unfortunately. There are many such children who are deprived of their childhood when they have to look after someone. Just as an example I came across how an 8 year old was looking after a 4 year old in US detention center. So I get your point that for a kid without any guardian or help this is a very devastating scenario and hard to believe in, but this isn’t unrealistic unfortunately.
Regarding not having parents, it’s to make things more dramatic. While we think that they can certainly show comparatively normal families, as a writer it can turn out to be a little stale. So that extra thing can add some dramatic tension to the script and the characters lives. I remember once writing a script with not much drama for the characters and I was asked why were things the way they were. I wanted to make the whole setup look a little realistic but tgere are many answers tou need to give in a script for the choice of how your portray your characters.
One show that I thought could do with giving lesser problems to theads was I’ll find you when the weather is nice but I later found out how all that was necessary to give the characters a proper arc and a reason for their behavior, also to fill in the episodes.
You came across a child looking after a child in a US detention center and I agree that isn’t unrealistic, unfortunately. Here however, keeping in mind the scenario, I believe that Kang Tae taking care of his older Hyung as a child is unrealistic. If we shift the setting to that of a war wrought country or smth similar, it would be a lot more believable. However, dramas often like to do this because as you said it creates “drama” but the thing is I sincerely believe that we could have done without this part (small kid taking care of a special needs older Hyung alone). Narratively, this particular scenario is not really adding all that much to the story that a more realistic scenario wouldn’t have. On the contrary I would argue that it would have created a lot more depth and effect if KangTae was given to social services and Hyung could have been administered in a special needs vocational school. We could have witnessed adult Kang Tae then seeking out his brother, officially taking charge of him and moving in together.
Also I agree with the second part of your comment, about needing drama to create reason otherwise the story can be pretty stale.
I also know that the pitiable circumstances of KangTae annoying me here are not that uncommon in real life. I have personally heard about a quiet a few special needs kid being abandoned by their siblings after their parents death or living alone with their old mother/relatives who are unable to fully take care of them as they are old and alone. It breaks my heart but it is true. What really spurred my post was that having witnessed a family so close to me struggling and dealing with their special needs kid together, as family, it really annoyed me. Speacially the part where mom strokes Kang Tae’s hair and says “that’s why I brought in this world, so that you can take care of your brother”. I was fine with the dead parents and all but then this happened and its just making him tooo pitiable imo.
That moment was contrived and exaggerated, I think kdramas do this on purpose when they want the audience to forgive a character for something. This is about KT’s feeling resentful about taking care of his brother, it goes against filial duty so he must have an acceptable reason to feel this and still be the nice guy.
You are right. I just want to say that in real life you can have both of your parents and more siblings and your mom doesn’t really bring you in this world to take care of your special needs sibling but you can still feel, at times, resentful of your brother cuzz after all you are human and having an autisitc sibling does change a lot of dynamics within the family and with others and it does effect your life. But Like you said, in a drama, they need an acceptable reason for the lead to feel this way (and also to bring in the sympathies) and still be the good guy.
“It\’s kind of unsettling how they are making Kang Tae a typical candy only it\’s a male.” This is the reason holding me back from watching this drama.
To add on the need-to-know list, I also need to know why Jae Su is extremely loyal to the point of following them move after move, and how he has the money to set up a new business after each move.
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MeloMe
June 29, 2020 at 3:10 AM
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It’s kind of unsettling how they are making Kang Tae a typical candy only it’s a male. I really don’t understand with dramas and their need to make leads pitiful. I have only ever watched one other drama portraying an autistic character in Catch The Ghost and there too, the autistic sister and her twin were orphans so naturally all the care taking and the earning burden fell on one single shoulder. Why can’t an autistic character have more than one siblings and a set of parents completely well and alive? Why does the other non-autistic sibling has to be neglected by their mother? I have witnessed a family with an autistic kid very closely and I have seen how the mother makes so much effort to make sure that in the special care and attention that needs to be given to the autistic kid, her other kids are not ignored. And no the mother did not bring about more kids into the world after her autistic kid was born so that they can take care of their special needs sibling. There are still so many complexities to explore even with less pitiable leads, without dead parents. Ofcourse ouri Kang Tae is feeling burdened this episode because he too needs a break otherwise it can become too emotionally exhausting. If there were other siblings or/and parents we could have witnessed the other sibling taking over while Kang Tae caught a much needed break but then that would make him less pitiable and dramas have apparently sworn to never do that.
PS: I will need a proper explanation regarding what happened after Kang Tae ran off with his hyung in the wake of his mother’s death because a 12(14?) year old with a special needs hyung surviving is too unrealistic to be believable. I hope there’s a plausible explanation as to how he managed to survive (like maybe an older and responsible adult taking them in or smth), how he managed to arrange for their living quarters, their food, water, other basic necessities and how Kang Tae managed to complete his education. I need these answers show otherwise I’ll be pretty disappointed.
wapz
June 29, 2020 at 3:34 AM
I think a child looking after someone from his family isn’t unrealistic unfortunately. There are many such children who are deprived of their childhood when they have to look after someone. Just as an example I came across how an 8 year old was looking after a 4 year old in US detention center. So I get your point that for a kid without any guardian or help this is a very devastating scenario and hard to believe in, but this isn’t unrealistic unfortunately.
Regarding not having parents, it’s to make things more dramatic. While we think that they can certainly show comparatively normal families, as a writer it can turn out to be a little stale. So that extra thing can add some dramatic tension to the script and the characters lives. I remember once writing a script with not much drama for the characters and I was asked why were things the way they were. I wanted to make the whole setup look a little realistic but tgere are many answers tou need to give in a script for the choice of how your portray your characters.
One show that I thought could do with giving lesser problems to theads was I’ll find you when the weather is nice but I later found out how all that was necessary to give the characters a proper arc and a reason for their behavior, also to fill in the episodes.
MeloMe
June 29, 2020 at 5:07 AM
You came across a child looking after a child in a US detention center and I agree that isn’t unrealistic, unfortunately. Here however, keeping in mind the scenario, I believe that Kang Tae taking care of his older Hyung as a child is unrealistic. If we shift the setting to that of a war wrought country or smth similar, it would be a lot more believable. However, dramas often like to do this because as you said it creates “drama” but the thing is I sincerely believe that we could have done without this part (small kid taking care of a special needs older Hyung alone). Narratively, this particular scenario is not really adding all that much to the story that a more realistic scenario wouldn’t have. On the contrary I would argue that it would have created a lot more depth and effect if KangTae was given to social services and Hyung could have been administered in a special needs vocational school. We could have witnessed adult Kang Tae then seeking out his brother, officially taking charge of him and moving in together.
Also I agree with the second part of your comment, about needing drama to create reason otherwise the story can be pretty stale.
I also know that the pitiable circumstances of KangTae annoying me here are not that uncommon in real life. I have personally heard about a quiet a few special needs kid being abandoned by their siblings after their parents death or living alone with their old mother/relatives who are unable to fully take care of them as they are old and alone. It breaks my heart but it is true. What really spurred my post was that having witnessed a family so close to me struggling and dealing with their special needs kid together, as family, it really annoyed me. Speacially the part where mom strokes Kang Tae’s hair and says “that’s why I brought in this world, so that you can take care of your brother”. I was fine with the dead parents and all but then this happened and its just making him tooo pitiable imo.
Lixie
June 29, 2020 at 6:48 AM
That moment was contrived and exaggerated, I think kdramas do this on purpose when they want the audience to forgive a character for something. This is about KT’s feeling resentful about taking care of his brother, it goes against filial duty so he must have an acceptable reason to feel this and still be the nice guy.
MeloMe
June 29, 2020 at 7:40 AM
You are right. I just want to say that in real life you can have both of your parents and more siblings and your mom doesn’t really bring you in this world to take care of your special needs sibling but you can still feel, at times, resentful of your brother cuzz after all you are human and having an autisitc sibling does change a lot of dynamics within the family and with others and it does effect your life. But Like you said, in a drama, they need an acceptable reason for the lead to feel this way (and also to bring in the sympathies) and still be the good guy.
PYC
June 29, 2020 at 7:36 AM
“It\’s kind of unsettling how they are making Kang Tae a typical candy only it\’s a male.” This is the reason holding me back from watching this drama.
parkchuna ❤️🍉
June 29, 2020 at 8:18 AM
To add on the need-to-know list, I also need to know why Jae Su is extremely loyal to the point of following them move after move, and how he has the money to set up a new business after each move.