Sorry for the random question lol, but I have been thinking about this a lot lately and I wanted to ask you all, maybe seeing how others face/handle this could help.
Would you step out of your comfort zone in any sector of your life [personal, professional etc.], to achieve something? Or would you think it’s okay if you don’t achieve it or go after it since it won’t be easy for you? :/

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    I stepped out of my comfort zone last year when I quit my job and moved to another state. I failed miserably and am now worse off than I was when I started. I would do it again. As AWFUL as a whole hell of a lot of it was I learned that the only thing holding me back from a lot of stuff is me. And that I’m capable of getting out of my own way—even if its hard. Even if it doesn’t work out.

    It was a good life lesson.

    And I complained and whined and threw all the fits here every step of the way.

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      You are very very brave isa. ๐Ÿ™
      Like the way you say you will do it again, that means you ‘are’ on the other side of the ocean and you did it.

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      @isthatacorner I do want to ask you though, how did you handle it? I mean did you have panic attacks, or like a little voice in your head which keeps telling you how you would not be able to handle it? Lol I know there is no solution to issues like this one but I am also mad at myself for not being cool about it. 😩😔😔

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        I had panic attacks, I cried a lot. I gave up A LOT. But, this may not make a whole lot of sense but it help me: how do you even quit, anyway? And I follow that rabbit all the way down the hole. When I was in CO and I quit my train of thought went a lot like:
        I QUIT! I am NEVER looking for a stupid job in this stupid place again! Done! I’m going to binge watch a drama now!.
        If i never find a job then….
        I wont be able to pay my cable and internet bill so (no more dramas)
        I’ll get evicted from my apartment so I’ll live in my car (and have to use public restrooms. gross)
        I wont be able to pay my car payment so my car will repossessed
        So I’ll be homeless (back to this public restroom business)
        And when you’re homeless you have to ask people for money for food and such
        And I hate talking to strangers (except for when I’m in the library)
        So I’ll ultimately starve literally to death.

        I tell myself (and told myself) things will get better or they wont. Either way I have to take the next step. Sometimes, the next step is admitting defeat. I have a playlist for that! Its my ๐Ÿ™ playlist. I listen to Jason Mraz’s 3 Things (which talks about taking a breath and letting the chapter end. Its only when you do this will a new chapter begin). I listen to A Life That’s Good from the Nashville Cast to remind me that I’m not wanting something impossible and One Step At a Time from Jordin Sparks to remind me that things don’t happen all at once (this was my go-to when I was applying for grad school and not getting in) and Almost There from The Princess and the Frog OST.

        I prayed a lot. I’m still in that place. I’m still in recovery mode as my life is STILL a disaster and I have NO IDEA how to fix it or what to do next and I would very much please like someone else to be in charge for awhile because I am screwing up all the time and I’d like to see what its like when things dont suck—just for comparisons sake.

        But–knowing everything thats happened this past year? Would I do it again? In spite of all of the ugly sobbing that occurred? In spite of the hits that my self worth and self esteem took? In spite of the fact that I was almost practically kidnapped by an insane person would I do it again? Yes. I don’t regret going on my big adventure as awful as it turned out to be because I learned a lot about myself. And I honestly learned a lot about who my friends are and aren’t and who I can turn to when the chips are down.

        Dude. Why do you have to be cool about it? Where is it written that you have to be cool about it? I have been a HOT FREAKING MESS about this ENTIRE thing. There were days where I literally sat on the floor in my pajamas and sobbed. All day. Thats it. I got up to use the restroom. I didn’t eat. I didnt drink. I just sat on the floor and sobbed until I had no more tears and I did that dry sobbing/gagging thing that always makes me feel like I’m going to throw up.

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          Thank you so much for sharing Isa. I think next time whenever I will have doubts or panic attacks I will come back here and read your post again and again. ๐Ÿ™

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    @fay17
    This is a good question and one I’ve been asking myself lately. I think that I will regret if I DON’T step out of my comfort zone to go after that which makes my heart sing.

    It has been said many times that on their deathbeds, many people don’t regret the things they did, but the things they DIDN’T do.
    Go for it! Try so you won’t have that regret!
    fighting!!!

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      Thank you so much @stpauligurl! I think you are completely right. Also knowing that a comfort zone exists, that means I have a lot of unconscious fear, so I guess no other way to overcome the fear than to embrace it.:/

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        I don’t know if this will help, but 11 years ago, I left my home, family, and job to move across the states and back to my hometown to take care of my aging parents. It was really scary and I didn’t know what I was doing – but it was the BEST decision I ever made.
        I was lucky and got to be with my parents when they died. It is the one thing in life that i have NO regrets about.
        So just try it!!!

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          Wow you are mentally very strong. It’s an incredible feat to leave your job and family altogether, so I think that’s really commendable. I mean at this stage, when I am kind of struggling with my own limitations, I feel like I didn’t learn anything all these years at all lol. So I really give value to the people who can perform at times of need [and take major decision like this one] when they need to do so. Thank you for sharing dear. I can imagine how being there for your parents at that time gave you the strength to overcome anything. My mom still misses my granny so much cause she wasn’t near her when she died, so I know how precious the experience is.

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            I miss my mom and dad every single day – but I’m surrounded by things they loved and photos of them, and I know that they are in my DNA so they aren’t really gone.
            However, when I see dramas about elders with Dementia it breaks my heart – but I’m still glad and would do it again.
            So go for it @fay17! Try stepping out of your comfort zone – at least once to see how it feels.

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            I bawled my eyes out watching Go Back couple and how Jang Nara missed her mom. You are so incredibly strong, brave and positive, I hope I can persevere to be some of that at least. Just makes us realize how precious people and memories are.

            @stpauligurl Thank you for all the cheers and words of encouragement dear. 😊😊 Let’s see, I hope I can go for it. *Nervous laughs.

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    True, to actually being able to pull it off should be a success in itself. And a karaoke career, wow! Sounds really awesome Tim!

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    It is really hard for me to step out of my comfort zone. There has been more times I’ve regretted not stepping out than doing so. I’ve taken a couple steps that have worked out well for me.
    But, know yourself. I’m an introvert and sometimes I feel like people do not understand that I do recharge and thrive on alone time. Sometimes I am just being shy and in my comfort area, but other times it is where I need/want to be.
    But I agree with taking the chance.

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      Oh when you are totally fine or at peace with where you are, it should be okay though right? My problem is if I don’t get out of the comfort zone I know I would regret it, but then again I know the fears that come with taking the chances. Heck, even thinking about it is stressful I guess. 😅

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    Ohh. Sorry I missed the pun haha. And yeah I totally agree. Like the director of ladybird says lol, ‘my love for direction is greater than my talent’.

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    I’ve done it twice & my only suggestion is that you plan it out carefully. Be sure that XYZ is what you want to do, as well as what your first few steps need to be. Other than that, have the resolve to face the consequences without regret. Not everyone who tries, succeeds. But those who succeed, only do so because they tried.

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      I think many of the people who succeed fail many times on the way to their success. Part of it is how they handle the failures along the way.

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        Most definitely.

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        There’s a really nice twitter hashtag called #ShareYourRejections – which serves to show just how normal rejection is. It’s my very fave thing on Twitter.

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          (rejection, mistakes, failure all being the same side of the same coin – apologies for responding in three parts) ^^

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      I don’t know what I’m gonna do, but I am really taking into consideration each and every bit of advice, so do know that this really helps. I really needed this I guess. Thank you!

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    I think stepping out of your comfort zone is one of the ways you grow and change as a person. Whether it works out well or not, you learn more about yourself. It might help if you have some healthy coping skills ahead of time – whether it’s exercise, meditation or something else that helps you relax and deal with stress.

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      That growing and changing part is definitely something that I am looking forward to the most. Thank you so much for the precious words!

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    My karaoke career is stopped by the thought of it being a win-lose. Win for me, lose for any unfortunate listeners.

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    I’m just gonna say: You can do better. Way. Way. Better. But thats an awfully sweet thing to say.

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    I recommend trying two thought experiments.
    One is to imagine what you would tell your best friend to do if she asked you the same question.

    The second is to try to project how I feel after I’ve made each of the choices, say maybe a week later and a month later (get creative; sometimes you will know 5 minutes after you choose, or you want to think about a year later). You choose to step out, how do you feel? You choose to remain in place, how do you feel? Write down the feelings like you would a pro/cons list. It may make something clear. For example, once I thought about how I’d feel after I resigned my job, I realized I was already soooo gone from that job in my mind, that was my answer.

    And then here’s a weird suggestion, watch “Moana” if you haven’t seen it lately. It’s really good for thinking about having to step out of your comfort zone. Good luck!

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      Very good suggestions! I’m much grateful to all of you, really.
      This is actually such a big step that my answer keeps changing at different occasions lol. But for now, I have decided to take a deep breath and go with the flow.
      I haven’t watched Moana, will sure do so. Many many thanks again for the words.

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