Beanie level: Loan shark with a heart of gold

Rewatching Hamilton for the nth time I really have one question left. What product does Daveed Diggs use in his hair? So shiny! So bouncy! Such defined curls!

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Heres an article on the costuming in Its Ok. https://zapzee.net/2020/07/09/even-the-clothes-in-its-okay-to-not-be-okay-have-meanings/

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    Thank you for sharing!

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    They have nailed Gang Tae’s outfits so far. Nothing too shabby nothing too flashy. Things what any look conscious guy would wear while considering budget.

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      Loved his blue tracksuit! Chanhyuk wears the same in a flashback in My Unfamiliar Family. Kdrama tracksuits are usually so good that I’m even considering getting one myself (me!, I haven’t owned a tracksuit since primary school)

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        KSH and tracksuits are one unending trending couple. How I still have a plan to buy the green tracksuit from secretly greatly when I earn my first paycheck!

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    So happy that you bring this up!

    Loved MY’s witchy looks from the first episodes, especially the Mr Poppins outfit (complete with skull umbrella that I saw you admiring too). Noticed that on eps 5 and 6 MY wore a loose white gowns with loads of embroidery and frills. Those made her look innocent and vulnerable, in contrast to the highly structured outfits she wears to go to the hospital, like the white dress with the leather armour-like belt from ep 3, or that beautiful pink dress with huge shoulders (am I the only one that thought of a viper silhouette seeing that?). The only look that I really didn’t feel for the character was the brown assymetrical dress with a bolero she wore at the hospital (think is was ep 5)… The bolero made it look a bit harder (again, big shoulders), but the design of the dress was a bit off and it felt soft compared to her other “work looks”.
    She always looks stunning, but I believe no real human being would go about their day wearing that (those heels make my feet hurt just from looking at them)

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      This is partially laziness speaking and my hatred of doing my own hair ( i have a natural afro that I havent combed out in a while and it took me literally 4 hours to do last night). But her elaborate updos make my arms hurt. In ep 3 (with the fabulous umbrella)–or was that 2? I dont know. She had her up in a bun that looked liked a flower in bloom. It was gorgeous! All I could think was–who has the time? Followed by, shes staying in the cursed castle alone. Who does her hair?

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        She wore heels in her house, even the slipper she wore in the basement was fancy. Me, i’d wear flip-flops everywhere if i could and thanks to the trusty headscarf I no longer have to worry to about my hair being judged for it’s terrible state 😬

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        It’s all super labour intensive! She’s always perfectly groomed, and emerges from dusty Cursed Castle in those pristine ironed dresses…Tah dah, Drama magic! 😂

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          I had forgotten all important drama magic! Can Inget a dash of that please? But…I would like the kind of transformative magic that whats his face–the guard who was avenging the death of his mother at the hands of HRH in TLE used. I eant to run on the beach a few times, go for a swim and come out a completely different person.

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            Been watching TLE recently and that scene was so unexpected, I laughed so much 🤣🤣🤣

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    Reminded me of the scene when hyung discovered MY at their house and the thing that upset him most was her wearing KT’s clothes “Why yours? My shirt was more expensive.. though more expensive doesn’t mean it’s better quality.” 😂😂

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In Queen of No Marriage they legit act like 33 is the equivalent of 63. Calm tf down, yall, dang!

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    Is this men will be men? But I had the same issue with Find Yourself too. Fanxing was only 32 but the society acted like she’s 70. I won’t say it’s incorrect in fact it’s so true and real that it pisses me off. Some cultures do see 30 as old and that is ridiculous. Now that women are career oriented around the globe it definitely takes time to gain some stability or even discover your career options to make a living. I do get that women have a biological clock but 30s is not old, let women breathe.

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      Wits not Men will be Men. Its Queen of No Marriage the Taiwanese drama from 2009 with Ethan Juan. Have you seen it? I like it well enough butnon Netflix its 34 eps long and thats just too many eps and not enough plot to fill it. As much as I love Ethan and Ethans tattoo Im ready for it to be over and it just got interesting again!

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        I haven’t. What you said doesn’t make me want to watch it either 😂

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    It’s a long way to go in some places when you’re a single woman and you’re in your 30s people will consider you as “poor thing” she doesn’t have a man… Because the purpose of a woman is to be married and have children.
    In dramas, for instance, it doesn’t help that actress in their 50s play mothers of women in their late 30s, for instance. The moment you’re 40 it seems you can’t be the romantic target of a man.

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    It’s a cultural thing….. In a lot of traditional Chinese villages, the mindset (in which most parents will also carry with them even if they follow their children and move out of the village at some point, even if they don’t live with their children in the city) dating while you’re still in high school is normal (as it is also here in North America) the same time you’re prepping for your gaokao exams (university entrance exams), and if a girl so chooses to continue her academics, it’s expected that she’d be with the same guy throughout university life, be engaged by the time you’re in your first year of working, and have kids BEFORE 30. If you’re still single post- 30, you’re considered a “leftover”, and if you’re still single entering post- 35, you’re considered hopeless and useless—because, yes, marriage and children is the end goal.
    Now, if a girl does NOT go the academic route, it’s normal that a girl is already dating by late-middle school, be “stable” in her relationship by high school, still ace the gaokao just to prove you’re not an actual airhead, graduate high school, find a decent job just so you’re not useless, but have the goal to be married with at LEAST one child by 24 with baby #2 on the way…

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I do not understand how Shan Hu Shuang is standing in front of the polar bear and not beating his face in. Hes standing in front of her telling her that hes cancelled their wedding dor the second time because hes realized he just doesnt love her that much. Yeah, hes saying it and being cruel to get her to move on and admit that shes in love with Lu Ka Si. But hes still standing their nonchalant af
…..yeah, if I loved you I wouldnt have left the day (or whatever) before our weddingbthe first time.
….if I really loved you I would have come back after I recovered from my injury and explained
….if I really loved you I would have contacted you sometime in the last 6 years.
Just because hes telling the truth in a cold manner and for the right reason doesnt change the truth of what hes saying. He never loved her.
And I would love it if someone would come and kick him in the eye. Just dead center right in the eye.

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    Also how the hell late was her mom and coworkers to this wedding? Polar Bear asshat said he cancelled the wedding and sent everyone awwy because she was late. She came bursting through the door apologizing for being late. They show up after her tears have finally dried up and shes just sitting quietly in the chapel. Where have they been

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I think that I think that the Glee cast is cursed.
Cory Monteith–died of an overdose
Mark Salling–suicide after being found guilty of child porn
Naya Rivera– presumed dead after going missing yesterday after taking her son out for a boat ride.
They were all so very young. I dont think any of them made it to 30, or very far past it.
They were all so talented. I dont know anything about Hollywood or how many people it takes to make a show like Glee run but 3 dead seems like a high number.

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    I was just telling my sister the same thing last night!

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    The latest one is heartbreaking.

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    And all the conflicts between the cast members even up to now! And to think it was supposed to be a feel-good family/friendship-orientented show. 😔

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Ok. I am officially Team Cheon Eok Man. His “is that the woman i know?” Followed by intense social media stalking and his smile when it was her? Ok. Youve got me, sir. I am a sucker for old crushes rekindled.

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    Im taking it all back. Kick him in the shin.

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    Well fine and dandy, drama. I have all of these questions.
    1. Who dumoed who?
    2. Who is Hanees dad?
    3. Did Ms. Noh have a one night stand with the teacher way back when?
    4. What does the actor have to do with everything? Did he have a crush on Ms. Noh back then as well?l
    5. What is the DEAL with money guy?
    6. What is the deal with the money lender and his son?
    Next week I want more time with Hanee and her little bullied buddy, son of the moneylender. More time with grandma and less Cheon Eok Man living out his jackass revenge fantasies.

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      1.) I want to know this too!

      2.) My guess is still Oh Dae-oh, although I’m less confident now than before.

      3.) I feel like the answer should be no? If Yeon-woo had a one night stand with her, found out Ha-ni was 14 years old, and found out that Ha-ni didn’t have a dad, I feel like huge alarm bells would be ringing in his head and he would be reacting very differently to Ha-ni and to Ae-jeong. It also seems like Ae-jeong has some antipathy towards whoever Ha-ni’s dad is and she treats Yeon-woo way too cordially for him to be Ha-ni’s dad. (Although it’s always possible that she did have a one night stand with Yeon-woo but that Ha-ni’s dad is somebody else. Still, I feel like that would only explain Ae-jeong’s behaviour towards Yeon-woo and not explain why Yeon-woo isn’t more probing about Ha-ni’s paternity.)

      4.) I’m curious about this as well.

      5.) My theory is that the money-lender/gangster’s wife looked similar to Ae-jeong.

      6.) I’m curious about this too.

      Agreed, more Ha-ni, Dong-chan, and grandma please!

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        But Hanee found that notebook: to my baby Hanee mother: Aejeong father: yeon woo.
        If yeon woo isnt really the father what was that? Wishful thinking on Aejeongs part? Wishful thinking Woos part? Thats why I thought one night stand. And ig she had a one night stand mom wouldnt necessarily know about it–especially if it was a drunk/sad hookup right after she broke up with the writer.
        You’re right though. If Hanee is saying she doesnt have a dad I think Woo would put the dots together. i dont think he would have forgotten a one night stand with her–he seems pretty smmitten now and then. I do wonder though, going back to one night stands if they hooked up right after the break up if hes just assuming the writer is the dad? Because who would you think would be the father? The person in the longterm relationship or the person who slept with her once?

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          My translation has the notebook inscribed, “To My Future Baby,” with no mention of Ha-ni’s name, although the sonogram with Ha-ni’s name scrawled on it falls out of the notebook. I keep wondering if the notebook could mean something else. Could it be a script? Do we even know it was written by Ae-jeong? I also kept thinking about how “Oh Yeon-woo” and “Oh Dae-oh” have the same surname, which might be significant.

          I don’t know, to be honest. It’s all a mystery at this point, although I’m very excited to find out. Right now, I think the most likely candidates as Ha-ni’s dad are Yeon-woo or Dae-oh. However. the way Dae-oh has been introduced makes me think Dae-oh is Ha-ni’s dad. At the very least, I’m fairly confident Dae-oh is the person Ae-jeong will end up with. It’s a shame, though, since I’m on Team Yeon-woo already.

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            Yeon Woo is stinking precious so I support that ship. I am typically team writer–Ive got a thing for writers, always have, you know. But he was such an all fired ASS in these eps that I just cant with him. Maybe my mind will change once we know more abouy these two. He was sobbing because she dumped him for having no money and no future (was she already pregnant??). But she says that he split first.
            Hm my translation says: to my baby Hanee mom: aejeong and beneath that dad: yeon woo. When the ultrasound fell out I assumed she had started a baby scrap book and set it aside for whatever reason.

            Now Im wondering if she and Yeon Woo were producing something together and she was dedicating it to her unborn daughter. Constantly in books authors are saying that writing a book is like raising a child. Maybe she and Yeon Woo “gave birth” to whatever that book is (if its not a baby book) together?

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            I have a strong suspicion that the stuff about dumping him for having no money or no future may be false. I suspect Ryu Jin made that stuff up (or at least confirmed it) in order to try and get Dae-oh to move on.

            My theory right now is either Ae-jeong knew she was pregnant but decided not to tell Dae-oh out of concern (maybe because she was afraid it would deprive him of opportunities or something else of that sort), or she saw something that she misunderstood and didn’t bother trying to resolve the misunderstanding. They’re vague, unsubstantiated theories at this point.

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I feel like I havent said these things recently:
Iswak is a great drama. I highly recommend it.
Jackson Wang is a stone cold fox and I am extra smitten..
JB biaswrecked me. And thats ok. (Jackson won me over again. I blame the rubber duckies)
Got7 is my favorite kpop group.
But Vromance is my favorite vocal harmony group and they dont get enough love. Please love them. My love of Saltnpaper is in a lane of its own.
Rain is my ultimate bias.
Jung Yong Hwa is my backup bias.
Thank you and good night.
Seriously listen to more vromance!

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Ugh. I hate the matchmaker!
Oh theres nothing wrong with being 35.
Its just that no man will want you.
Bish get outta here.

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So like a year ago my friend agreed to try Chicago Typewriter and lasted not even 5 minutes because she didnt like the background music. Now she feels like shes seen everything on Netflix. So it feels like a great time to rope her into something new.
So I need a good murder kdrama with not just a.good ost but good and unobtrusive background music. Beanies. What do you recommend?

Shes 39, mother of 2. Prone to anxiety. Married for 12 years. She has the attention span of a toddler. She likes pop music and country. She loves animals.
Im thinking W-Two Worlds.
Whats the name of that one drama where the two girls witness the murder but only one of them goes into the trial to testify? Theres a kid who can hear what people are thinking. They both become lawyers. I Hear Your Voice, right? I dont remember the background music for either of those. Or if their on Netflix.
Thoughts? Recommendations?

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In light of nothing new to watch–and a desire to rekindle my love for Ethan–Im rewatching Queen of No Marriage (and skipping the middle where they arent together and her horrible ex comes back. I only sit through that in a buddy/group watch).
I had forgotten how rough the first ep is. And how MEAN the FL is. She tells a group of orphans that theres no Santa–after “borrowing” their bike. She feels badly immediately but doubles down on being a witch.

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Were there always so many fbombs and swearing in dramas and subbers didnt translate them or does Netflix just make more dramas with language in them?

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    Netflix translates some words which aren’t even f bombs as curses and fbombs. I mean I’ve heard jerk many times and that’s how the Korean word used for it is translated but in Netflux they’ll straight away translate it as as***le. I do know why they are doing this and who they are targeting because I an international kdrama viewer, appreciated that there weren’t many fbombs in kdramas.

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      I don’t know*
      It’s basically just Netflix translation, no the specific shows the produce, the dramas are just as they were.

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        Ugh not*
        I hope you get it lol.

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        I get what you’re saying. I just dont get what netflix is doing. Do they think they need to add more curse words for an American audience to appreciate it? Because im like you–thats one of the things that I really like about kdramas. And even though i always want people to make out and cheer every adult relation that I see in dramas I love that we dont SEE them. If i wanted tl watch people bone theres a whole porn industry out there. No thanks. But some passionate kisses? Yes please. Theres nothing wrong with waiting

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        I think they’re trying to express the English equivalent of the Korean words. So jerk may sometimes be the correct literal translation, but in context a Western viewer would understand the meaning of that word better by using a curse word instead of just using the word jerk. This is, I think, because lots Koreans attach a different meaning to words which may have the same denotation as English words which are not considered very abusive. The Korean word for “jerk” is a good example, as is the Korean word for “crazy”; those tend to have a much more negative connotation in Korean than they do in English.

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    There actually aren’t that many swear words in the Korean language to begin with, and from what I understand of Korean (I can understand up to 85-90% of an episode without subs), all the F-bombs are just Netflix translations when the characters are just say that things are ‘bad’ or just expressing the Korean equivalent (“AISH!!!”) to us Chinese saying “Aiya!!!” Lol

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    I don’t remember if you watched CLOY… there is a scene in which Se-ri has beer with the NK ajhummas… well, the Italian subs on Netflix have so many curse words that I almost didn’t know they existed! And I don’t think it’s to appeal the public, since there aren’t curse words in Italian dramas, save some very rare f-words.

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I started ep 11 of UF AGAIN and its even harder to watch! I keep thinking Ive seen this ep because I kept falling asleep during it and waking up and watching for a few minutes and going back to sleep. I wish I could just skip to ep 12 but Id be lost.

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I have been trying all day to watch UF ep from yesterday. But every time I press play my interest runs away. I fell asleep 4 times just now trying to watch. And yet im watching Hamilton for the 4th time. After listening to the soundtrack all the way through at least 2 times today. Obsessed.

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    So good. Loved being able to see the performances like Daveed Diggs.

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      My mother: That man that played Thomas Jefferson, he’s quite talented.

      Me: He is, and the speed of his rapping as Lafayette is amazing.

      My mother: That’s the same person?

      Me: Points out all the actors with dual roles, and then as a bonus points out the Bullet.

      My mother: Oh, I like her hair.

      Anyways, she’s a convert, and isa, you just watch and listen to Hamilton all you want.

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    I just watched it yesterday!! It’s so gooood. Still kind of mindblown how they did Satisfied on stage.

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      Thats the scene thats just started how funny!

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      Seeing it after listening to it for years, blew me away. The staging and choreography is genius.

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        I had never even listened to it. I assumed Id go see ir if they came near me in a touring company and then just didnt think about it. I only watched it because the doc I normally watch wasnt available. Im glad it wasnt! I spent two hours convincing my hiphop head brother to give it a try. The only musical hes ever liked is The Wiz. Im like you may actually like this then!

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        Same! Might watch the whole thing again this weekend just in case there’s something I missed.

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          I turned off the captions during a second watch so I would focus on the actors and the stage instead of the words. The chorus dancers are so much more than just background, and the Bullet especially is integral to the storytelling. She is even placed higher in the line than Angelica when they take their bows at the end, which is really really interesting.

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    Is UF uncontrollably fond?

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      Unfamiliar Family. Its typically good. Are you watching? A family that really doesnt know each other–like at all–is fracturing. Is there anything there to save? Worth saving?

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        Ok i should’ve caught that since I am watching it. Just finished ep 12 which was a total 180 from 11. So good.
        P/s i guess i had Woo Bin on my mind and wanted an excuse to talk about his drama..hehe..

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          Kim Woo Bin of the eyebrows? You are always welcome to talk about that tall drink of yummy with me.

          Im glad to hear ep 12 is better. i FINALLY finished ep 11. It took me over five attwmpts over the course of 2 days. Im still not sure what haopened other than Chan Pal Yis employee shot off at the mouth with Eun Hui and now instead of awkwardly crushing on each other Chan Pal Yi is all you cant call me Chan Pal Yi anymore because we arent friends! Outta my life forever! And I am sad.

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            LOL!! Is Chan pal yi what EH has been calling him? I couldn’t figure it out. Not much progress yet for the two dumdums but the parents got some nice moments together.

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          That is what she calls him and ai am so eternally bad with names in dramas–I think its because even though Ive been watching them for 5 years now the names are so far outside what I hear in day to day life that the names just dont stick in my head. So when something does stick I just keep it. Eun Hui calls Chan Hyuk (…?) Chan Pal Yi.
          I always feel so badly about my inability to learn characters names. But even dramas that Ive rewatched nth amount of times if I want to get down and really talk about it/analyze it I have to go to asianwiki or mdl and pull up the page so that I can constantly refer to it. Even when its an actor aim familiar with!

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You guys, are any of yall watching the Taiwanese drama Lost Romance? Is it any good?

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    It’s one of the dramas that are on my “contemplating” list LOL It looks okay and I’m itching to get back into a good Taiwanese drama… The last one I watched was “Murphy’s Law of Love” from 2015

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    I semi dropped it. It’s kind of lame. Not good direction actually. The premise might be interesting but honestly Extra ordinary You, W and The romance of tiger and rose( which is closes to the show in premise) are sooo much better. Lost romance is quite boring, I see it more as a directorial flaw alongside writing but less of it. The lead doesn’t have any bigger purpose for her actions and not much is at stake so umm meh at best. But it may work for someone else, just doesn’t for me.

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      Im just listening to the Hamilton soundtrack for the third time today. I need something to watch! I liked W well enough but dropped Extraordinary You…I dont remember why, though.

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        Have you seen the romance of tiger and rose?

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          I haven’t–is it a historical? I havent been able to get into historical dramas. Ive tried a few times and just dont seem to like them

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            Have you tried chinese historicals? I had and still have a lot of issue getting into Korean sageuks. I don’t know why because historicals were never sth I avoided. But c dramas changed it for me because a few of them aren’t that different from people wearing costumes. That’s how the romance of tiger and rose is too, infact the premise is also that a writer gets into her script and realizes that she has become a character that has to die very early on, in the script. I haven’t spoiled it because it’s literally the first episode. But the show is such a hoot and hardly ever is it bothersome that it isn’t set in mordern times. But I know that you’ve tried before so this may not work for you. I hope ot does though, because it’s a good, fluff fun, short watch.

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            Also adding sth which might intrigue you is that the show is set in a matriachal society. Honestly this was the nost interesting part for me which made me stay too. How they’ve basically reversed and imagined how a world under women rulers could be and how that clashes with the traditional setup. But that’s nothing serious either, it’s all just fun.

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          I havent been able to get i to them, I think, because of the handful Ive tried it didnt matter the subject matter eventually it turned into politics and I just dont find politics interesting. Even that one. Drama thag everyone always talks about– Queen Inhyuns Man I think? The time slip? Hes a doctor who gets pulled through time? I couldnt even finish it!

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I love and am duly obsessed with every single one of MYs outfits. But, they read like costumes that a character would wear…mayhap in a fairytale. Not things that a real person would wear day in and day out.
I wonder if/when that will be addressed…

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    Maybe near/at the end, when she (hopefully) finally is able to reconcile everything with everyone, even herself, and does feel the need to be so uptight nor feel like she needs to put up such a perfect and composed front for everyone to see anymore

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    They might not address it at all. Like IU’s wardrobe in Hotel del Luna too was as fancy and formal as Seo Ye Ji’s is but they never addressed why she wore them in her daily wear.

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    I like her outfits very much, they are interesting and match her personality very well. I doubt anything about them will ever be said because dramas ignore clothing and the way it represents what the character wants to show or hide. They’d rather talk about food nonstop kkk. I understand when you say they feel like costumes and I think it’s done on purpose, MY has a larger than life personality and a desire to feel above everyone around her and society’s norms, her wardrobe reflects that very well. She is also very conscious about her own sex appeal and again, it shows, even in the latest eps when she uses more pieces with fair colors and a romantic flair, it’s paired with transparency and black underwear to keep faithful to the character’s sense of being in control.

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Episode 6: veins. VEINS! i do not care what else happens. Also Juri and Jaesang both need to shut tf up and finally VEINS. Thats all.

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    Girl I know what scene you mean. The time in the castle when he was staring right through the screen but that didn’t matter. What mattered was his hands folded under his head while he was lying down. I really haven’t seen his face but only the arms. The glorious arms!

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Rewatching ep 5 and Im all for GTs abs and all but this is the second time MY was physically assaulted trying to pursue him. First her dad chokes her and then Joori slaps her. And he knew that Joori started the fight but because he was mad at MY…for a whole dang plethora of reasons…he sent her away allowing her to thinking that he was on Jooris side. I either need to stop rewatching these eps or follow every slight or cruelty towards my girl with a revisit to the abs. They were blinding.
I keep calling him Kang Tae instead of Gang Tae and Im getting on my own nerves.

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    I’m downloading the episodes just to appreciate the visual ‘abs’thetic and all. Now all they need to do is pull a MLFAS level shower scene and I’ll be done for this year. I mean I won’t even complain if get a drama slump for the rest of 2020.

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    Yea, telling her to leave, and giving her the physical money to do so, was actually quite insulting and degrading in a way and that scene actually made me sick 🤢

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      He is so casually cruel to her that its hard to want them together. Shes not always the kindest person in the room but shes always trying for him. I honestly feel like thats got to be exhausting for her, to know that in this persons eyes shes always wrong. Does she love/want/obsess over him enough to overlook that? Or does she just not feel it?

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        I think she sees it, but doesn’t feel his cruelty towards her as deeply as someone else who doesn’t have ASPD would, and I also think she chooses to overlook it to a degree because she needs (wants) him for herself as well and that want is overtaking any sort of minimal emotional impact that he has on her, again, due to her ASPD…. And then you have Ju Ri, who’s the total opposite, who thinks and feels that just because she grew up knowing Kang Tae (technically, Moon Young did, too), that she is entitled to him being more casual with her and lowering his speech with her, but since he’s not doing it, she takes it out on Moon Young and throws a crying fit in front of her mom

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    “I keep calling him Kang Tae instead of Gang Tae and Im getting on my own nerves.”

    It’s just a different way of romanizing the same name. DB recaps use Kang-tae, Netflix subs use Gang-tae. Neither is wrong. It’s the same with Moon-young vs Mun-yeong

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Beanies. You know your girl is as deep as a kiddie pool at times. Something i have said more than once is “keepin it shallow!”
One of the things that im loving about Its Ok is all of the discussion and analysis and well thought out essays that are all over the wall.
And in the midst of it all, a healthy appreciation for abs.
Stay wonderful, beanies. Stay wonderful.

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Im rewatching eps 4 and 5 before watching ep 6. My new takeaways:
1. The scene after MY gets choked by her father. Even as all three caretakers are rubbing, patting, calming down the dad they are all staring at MY. Not a single one of them twitches in her direction to check on or soothe her, but thats been discussed to death. Whats striking me this time around is that its probably natural, gut reaction, first instinct to care for the actual patient in their care. He has health issies in addition to his mental health. Their job is to see to him. What makes them monsters is that long after theyve saw to his basic human needs (still alive, no broken bones from prying his fingers off of MYs neck) after that beat of taking care of them no one checks on her.
2. I hate that because of how much MY needs/wants/is obsessed with KT he can say incredibly cruel things to her and she just..
accepts it and accepts him. She is trying as best as she knows how (which is more than she tries with anyone else) to meet him where he is to change herself to meet whatever expectations he has. As manipulative as she is….shes the one being changed. At least on the outside.
3. The motel worker eating his bowl of snacks while watching them argue is the best thing ever.
4. This drama is really good at small moments.

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    I agree 100% with you about KT saying horrible things to MY. I said on my wall that it’s sort of surprising how the one without ASPD is going out of his way to say horrible things and while the one with ASPD is never purposefully doing mean things.

    The entire motel scene is amazing. I love how filthy MY is lol. The gender stereotype reversal was amazing, as was KT’s squirming over all the sexual innuendo coming out of MY and the motel worker’s mouths. And that part of the scene where the motel worker lifts up a condom? Priceless.

    Agree 100% about the people at the psychiatric hospital. Then again, it seems like everybody in this show (except Sang-tae) treats MY as some kind of monstrosity. I get that he doesn’t actually feel this way, but KT is actually one of the worst in this regard. Although he also has moments of incredible compassion and moments where his genuine care and attraction to her come through, the scenes where he treats her like some kind of creature are horrible.

    I honestly just love everything about this drama. Even the stuff that infuriates me is part of the story and makes sense. And I love Seo Ye-ji. She is amazing. (Kim Soo-hyun’s alright as well, although I personally think SYJ outshines him and is more impressive as an actor, though that may also be a function of her having the more unique role.)

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    re your first point – yes! I made a comment on a previous post about this too. The portrayal of the hospital and its staff is a glaring sore spot for me right now regarding the narrative. It’s confusing to me that on the surface it seems like a great hospital with great amenities/services for its patients, but in moments that matter like the incident between MY and her dad and the comments some of the nurses make about the patients are really troubling. I’m not sure if this is a deliberate choice by the writer. I’m inclined to believe so because they’ve made a point to highlight this on multiple occasions (even director-nim disappointed me with his questioning). I just hope it’s not simply for “she’s misunderstood and KT is the only one who sees that MY needs help” because that’s just sloppy and lazy writing. And just wholly irresponsible.

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    From her reactions, i wonder if MY really has a disorder? What little i read of it seems to indicate that a person with the disorder generally doesn’t have empathy or connects emotionally but MY doesn’t strike me as being that way. It’s more like she’s built a wall due to her extreme loneliness / childhood trauma and even her extreme bluntness seems like a defense mechanism (attack before others do it to you).

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      That is my question too. From what people have been talking about APD it doesn’t look like MY has it. Moreover, her walls are breaking with KT’s warmth and love (the route I wished the show didn’t take but it is now) but as far as I know APD hardly goes away. So of they are going for a love cures all perspective then why bother making characters with mental health issues that are more complex. I do understand that KT needs a getaway and his walls can be broken down by the addition of a person in his life but how will they justify it for MY when it’s not just loneliness in her case (according to her character description).

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        Idk though… The only person she debatebly shows any empathy towards though is Kang Tae (-and even then one could argue, is it true empathy or does she just want him for her own pleasure?)
        She exhibits almost all of the symptoms of APSD otherwise, and with everyone else.
        (At least according to this site: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/antisocial-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353928)
        She still disrespects KT even by using his brother to get him into her house, and by not listening when he asks her to leave him alone (not that he always asks nicely but that’s a different issue lol, and I acknowledge it.)
        (you could argue either way with Sang Tae again- does she actually care about him or is she just using him to get to his brother).

        I’m no psychiatrist, so someone who actually knows more about this than me- feel free to correct me, but from what I’ve read on APSD or sociopathy if we’re lazy, genes can make you vulnerable to developing it, and life situations may trigger it’s development (aka… the mess that was MY’s childhood)- I saw someone in a recap say that her childhood probably just exacerbated it.

        So I do think she has a disorder.
        Bear in mind it’s a fictional character that we’re discussing the fictional mental health of.
        I think it was intended for her to have one, and I personally think it’s made obvious by the show? But someone who knows more than me can say whether or not they think her portrayal is accurate or not. *shrugs*
        And goodness knows how the show will handle it in future episodes.

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          For me, there’s moments when she looks hurt by what KT says so that’s why i wondered if she really had the disorder. But then she also had no qualms about injuring other people or the potential repercussions .. so yeah atm I’m content to see where the show is going to take us.

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    3 just killed me 😂😂

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So every year I watch this 6 hour long documentary series about the American Revolutionary War. I love documentaries and history and have a really, really poor memory so this works for me. This typically set me up for a week or so of constant documentary watching. But this year my doc didnt get played! So Im looking for a doc on the revolutionary war–civil war if I cant find anything. And coming in a far distant third is WWII. Im not finding anything that looks the slightest bit interesting. I finally realize that this is Hamilton weekend and watch that (DO GOOD).
But now I really, really want to watch a doc covering that time period and Im just not finding anything. So annoying! History is so fascinating. Id love to watch some docs about SK, NK. Do any of yall have any to recommend?

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