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Because This Life Is Our First: Episode 14

This episode our hero reflects on his emotions and feelings, realizing just how he feels about his wife. Unbeknownst to him, her words have found their way into his once dry heart, and as the trees around him signal the start of winter, spring has already bloomed inside of him. Words can plant new feelings of love, but they can also leave behind scars that last for years. And while spoken words may die as soon as they reach the ears, they can live on if they’re harbored in the heart.

 
Episode 14: “Because this is my first confession”

Unable to reach Ji-ho, Se-hee walks around the neighborhood looking for her, and runs into Jung-min. Both freeze, instantly recognizing each other, and from a few feet away, Ji-ho sees their encounter and hides behind a pillar.

Still frozen in mid-stretch, Jung-min stammers out a greeting, and hands Se-hee her business card. They quickly separate, too frazzled to hold a conversation, and Jung-min retreats to the car as Se-hee turns away.

Ji-ho returns to the car once Se-hee is gone, and excuses herself to walk home. Jung-min assumes that her husband is coming to pick her up, and readily lets her leave.

Se-hee puts away Jung-min’s card, and calls Ji-ho again. She answers this time, and tells him that she’s right here. He looks around and sees her right next to him, much to his relief. She apologizes for not answering before, and they walk home together.

Once home, Se-hee makes tea in a thermos, and hands it to Ji-ho to drink throughout the night to soothe her insides after drinking. As they say goodnight, Se-hee asks if she wants to sleep together again tonight. She turns down his offer, explaining how she snores more when she’s tired, and Se-hee watches her retreat to her room.

Ji-ho sits in bed, remembering Jung-min’s story about a painful past, now also recalling Se-hee’s previous explanations of marriage and his wish to live an uneventful life. Meanwhile, Se-hee recalls Ji-ho’s words from the bus, describing Jung-min as a protector.

He calls Ji-ho despite the late hour, and congratulates her on getting a chance to write again. Ji-ho seems to see past his words, and thinks to herself, “This man is torn. He is afraid. He is nervous.”

Sporting a shorter haircut, Ho-rang meets with Sang-gu since she has no one else to seek advice from concerning Won-seok. She wonders if he won’t come back even if she begs, and Sang-gu explains that Won-seok decided to let her go because he felt that he was making her unhappy.

As they leave the coffee shop, a finance officer, Shin Young-hyo, from Sang-gu’s company runs into them. Sang-gu introduces Ho-rang, and while Young-hyo stares intently at her, she’s too preoccupied with other thoughts and barely gives him a glance.

At the bus stop, Young-hyo drives his car up to Ho-rang, and offers her a ride since he heard where she was going from Sang-gu. Though Ho-rang refuses, his persistence wins, and she sits awkwardly in his car as he tries to strike up a conversation.

He asks if she doesn’t recognize him, and introduces himself as the person from Sang-gu’s app who wants to get married. He tells her that she was the first person he chatted with on the app, and was disappointed when she stopped replying.

Ho-rang describes her actions as meaningless, but Young-hyo playfully calls her out on her attempt to draw a line between them, and her cold responses don’t curb his enthusiasm. Maintaining her distance, Ho-rang quickly leaves his car once they arrive at her place, and slams the door before he can say bye.

Ho-rang stares at all the memories stored in the rooftop apartment, from the pink couch to the board of pictures. She takes down each polaroid of them as a couple, and while she packs her belongings, Ho-rang takes off her ring. Coincidentally, Won-seok arrives right then, also here to pack his stuff.

He sees her out, but before she leaves, Ho-rang admits that he was right, deciding now to be honest with herself. She goes down the stairs, and to her surprise, she finds Young-hyo waiting for her. Noticing her flu-like symptoms, he couldn’t leave her to carry her stuff alone, and offers her a ride home.

Catching Won-seok from the corner of her eye, Ho-rang relents, and accepts the ride. From the rooftop, Won-seok watches her leave while Ho-rang looks back forlornly at the place she once called home.

Jung-min reviews the lawsuit with Ji-ho, and asks if she’ll be all right with the investigation and questioning. Ji-ho nods, understanding that it’s inevitable, but Jung-min warns her that things might get messy since this involves the broadcasting industry.

Onto a brighter topic, Jung-min shows Ji-ho a writing contract, and tells her to read over it before signing. Ji-ho immediately comments on the proposed payment, and Jung-min wonders if they offered her too little. Ji-ho explains that it’s the opposite—the payment is too high.

Jung-min sighs, and gives Ji-ho a little life lesson: “Even if you’re surprised, you should go outside and express it alone. When negotiating a contract, how can you reveal everything to the enemy?”

To Jung-min’s surprise, Ji-ho answers, “You’re not my enemy.”

Jung-min smiles at her response, and explains that they offered her the normal rate for new writers. Though her company rarely signs contracts with writers, when they do, they do it properly since it means they want to work with that person for a long time.

Se-hee scrolls through Jung-min’s company’s website, and finds an interview of her. One of the questions asks about money, and Jung-min’s response says that she started this work because she was in desperate need of it.

Ji-ho and Jung-min go out for lunch together, and Ji-ho has something to ask. She wonders how Jung-min would feel if she met her almost-husband again, and Jung-min finds her question strange, especially since she recently met him by coincidence. Holding her gaze, Ji-ho reveals the truth: Se-hee is her husband.

Driving to work, Su-ji remembers Sang-gu’s urging to face the world rather than run away, as well as his promise to support her. Fueled by his words, Su-ji confronts Park, inviting him to a smoke, and once outside, she tells him how horrible the last three years have been working with him.

She constantly worries about his sexual harassment, and only has painful memories of him. Without an ounce of guilt, he simply asks what she wants, so Su-ji tells him to give her a formal apology in front of their team. She sincerely wants to end this toxic relationship, and asks him to show his sincerity in return.

Sang-gu waits for Su-ji, and as she approaches, she suddenly runs into his arms and says that she’s glad to see him. Finding her cute, he kisses her on the forehead.

Su-ji admits that he was right about her, and realized that she only ever tried to avoid Park. She finally recognizes that Park is someone’s son and father, making him just another human being like her. Sang-gu pinches her cheeks as a sign of affection, but Su-ji glares at him—no cheek-pinching for her.

Sang-gu notices Se-hee zoning out in front of the office, and sneaks up behind him to scare him. However, Jung-min’s business card (that Se-hee is holding) catches him by surprise, while Se-hee jumps in shock at the sudden noise.

Sang-gu advises Se-hee to talk to her about it since Ji-ho and Jung-min will have to meet a lot if they work together. Se-hee doesn’t know what to tell Ji-ho, or even where to start—but he does know that no matter what he says, she’ll still get hurt.

Confused, Sang-gu clarifies that he was talking about explaining the truth to Jung-min. He thought Se-hee was still hung up on her, while Ji-ho was just a tenant to him because of their contractual relationship.

Sang-gu leaves him alone to his thoughts, and as the gingko leaves fall around him, Se-hee narrates:

“I thought I could meet her again, maybe once in my life. I even thought of what I should do when that happens. ‘How are you? It’s been a while.’ But as soon as I saw you, I realized I was worried about just one person. When did it start? I thought the only things remaining in my life were dry leaves. I thought I would merely spend the rest of my life waiting for those leaves to fall, living quietly alone.”

Se-hee stops by a bookstore, continuing his narration: “I didn’t want to do anything that could decide another person’s life. I thought I would never make someone cry again.”

As he arrives at the apartment complex, the security guard calls after him, with director Yong-seok standing nearby.

In the office, Won-seok types away mindlessly until Bo-mi stops him, berating him for messing up their program because of his ex. Won-seok quickly apologizes for his mistake, but is surprised by how Bo-mi knew about his breakup.

She explains that it’s written on his face (which he takes literally), and tells him to not make it so obvious since it’s not like he’s only been in one relationship. Won-seok says that he has only been in one, to her shock, and she asks if that this is also his first breakup.

Meanwhile, Ho-rang gets off from work, and sees a slew of text messages from Young-hyo, with the last one asking her out to dinner. She texts him back, and soon after, he arrives to pick her up. He asks what she wants to eat, but Ho-rang only wants beer, and he cheerily agrees.

They sit by the river drinking beer, and Ho-rang cuts to the chase: She broke up with her boyfriend of seven years and went to pick up her stuff from their place that day. She waits for the truth to shock him, but instead, he just asks, “Why did you have such little luggage?” Pfft, this guy is so quirky.

Then he supposes that there isn’t that much stuff to get rid of when it comes time to pack, confessing that he also once broke up with his girlfriend of seven years. Ho-rang asks why he broke up, and he explains how they fought about marriage, realizing too late that dating and marrying were two different things.

He asks how she’ll overcome her breakup, and Ho-rang assumes that time will heal all wounds. Young-hyo argues that time just passes by, and instead, he shares something he did to help with his breakup: make wishes aloud to the mirror about what you want.

He begins to chant his different wishes, but she doesn’t understand the words and tells him flatly not to use difficult language with her. Young-hyo shyly admits that they’re slang terms used by teenagers, which finally gets Ho-rang to laugh.

Se-hee meets with Yong-seok, who begins to apologize about that night. He blames alcohol for his actions, and asks that they withdraw the lawsuit since he’s willing to compensate with a cash settlement.

At first, Se-hee looks at him in confusion, but the more he listens, the more he catches on to the truth. Remembering the night Ji-ho came to his apartment in her pajamas, the pieces click together, and Yong-seok belatedly realizes that Se-hee hadn’t known.

Yong-seok excuses himself to leave, but Se-hee grabs his arm, staring menacingly, and orders him to sit down and talk to him instead of Ji-ho.

Ji-ho thanks Jung-min for sharing her story, but Jung-min also has a question for her: What would she have done if Jung-min had said she still loved Se-hee? Ji-ho tells her that they would become enemies, and that she would wait for Se-hee’s heart to come to her.

Jung-min asks if she’d wait because it’s a contract marriage, but Ji-ho replies that even in a real marriage, there’s no guarantee that one spouses will have their partner’s heart. Jung-min disagrees, thinking that marriage is the official declaration of a couple claiming exactly that. Ji-ho admits she’s new to marriage, but she is sure of one thing: Hearts aren’t things to be stolen or grabbed—they can only come to you.

Later as she contemplates Ji-ho’s words, Jung-min flashes back to the day she wrote the farewell Post-its to Se-hee, telling him to never love again. She sighs that she envies Ji-ho for already realizing the truth about love.

Her driver informs Jung-min of complications regarding Ji-ho’s lawsuit. Apparently, Yong-seok got beat up by Ji-ho’s husband when asking for the charges to be dropped, and Jung-min can’t believe that Se-hee did such a thing.

At a company dinner, Park gives a toast, pandering to their boss, and throws in a halfhearted apology to Su-ji. Shocked, Su-ji glares at Park, who waves aside the issue when a coworker asks, calling it nothing. *grabs pitchfork and burning torches*

The group heads out of the restaurant for their second round, but Park needs to stop by the office for something. Su-ji shoots daggers at his back and calls Sang-gu to clarify that those who don’t understand words are not human. She asks if he meant it when he promised to stand by her side once she faces the world, and he confirms it.

With that, Su-ji half-whispers into the phone, “I love you.” She hangs up, and Sang-gu is unsettled enough to leave the office in the middle of a board game to find her.

Wearing a grim face, Su-ji follows Park through the lobby as instances of his sexual harassment come flooding back to her. She steps up next to him at the elevators, and tells him that she has some unfinished business.

The elevators arrive, and unbuttoning her coat, Su-ji calls Park by his first name, making him twirl around. She punches him in the face, which throws him to the ground, and Su-ji glowers at Park as the elevator doors close.

The rest of the employees continue their board game, and as Won-seok starts winning, the others comment on how they’ve raised a tiger (“horangi”). He gets bothered by the word since it sounds like Ho-rang, and suggests going out for drinks. Bo-mi declines since she has a prior engagement, but the other two guys agree to go clubbing.

Once there, though, the music and lights are too much for them. Won-seok ends up dancing alone while the others leave, and onstage, a women pole dances to the crowd’s cheers. Then the pole dancer whips back her hair, revealing her face, and Bo-mi winks at the camera.

She continues to dance and notices Won-seok jumping around on the floor. She pulls him onstage, to his surprise, and tells him to talk with his body as they resume dancing.

Meanwhile, Se-hee bandages his bloody knuckles and remembers Ji-ho’s mom’s request to help when Ji-ho decides to write again. Gathering his resolve, he calls Jung-min, and meets her at her office.

Ji-ho walks home and stops by the same bookstore Se-hee went to earlier. She asks a worker about the same book Se-hee looked at, and the worker informs her that their last copy was sold today.

At the office, Se-hee asks Jung-min if his actions will disadvantage Ji-ho, but Jung-min reassures him that she has it under control. He then asks if him being Ji-ho’s husband will affect her chances of becoming a writer, and Jung-min is slightly upset that he came to meet her after twelve years to only ask about helping Ji-ho.

He apologizes, but explains that there’s nothing he can do to help her achieve her dreams. On the other hand, Jung-min knows how to do it, and all he asks from her is to treat Ji-ho as a writer and not as his wife.

On the bus ride home, Se-hee reads a passage from the book he bought: “Words are born from people’s mouths and die in their ears. But some words don’t die. They go into people’s hearts and survive.”

In his room, Se-hee takes out the poetry book left by Jung-min, and looking over the note again, he thinks, “These words survived in my heart for twelve years. When did they disappear so suddenly like this? I couldn’t get rid of them from my heart no matter how hard I tried then.”

Flashing back to earlier, Jung-min asked if Se-hee ever confessed to Ji-ho. He hadn’t, so she’d informed him that he never confessed to her either. Jung-min gave him the advice that that words can only survive when they reach people’s hearts, and to reach people’s hearts, words have to be said out loud.

Back in his room, Se-hee recalls the different moments Ji-ho expressed her feelings, and realizes that his feelings aren’t coincidental. Ji-ho’s warm words piled up inside of him, and survived in his dead heart.

Se-hee’s father calls Ji-ho to meet, and she mentions resuming her writing career to him. He clearly disapproves, wanting them to have kids instead, and slides a bankbook to Ji-ho to pay off the house loan.

She tells him he should give it to Se-hee directly, but he tells her to act as the bridge between their families. Before getting up to leave, Ji-ho stops him since she has something to say, but we don’t hear the rest of their conversation.

Afterward, Ji-ho hangs out at Su-ji’s place, and they call Ho-rang, who sounds chipper than she did in the morning. Ji-ho brings up her favorite movie, The Graduate, and explains to Su-ji that when she first saw it in high school, she loved the scene where the main character interrupted the wedding.

However, rewatching it in her twenties, Ji-ho noticed the anxious expressions on the leads’ faces at the end, and Su-ji astutely asks if she’s seeing that between her and Se-hee. Holding back her tears, Ji-ho says yes.

Su-ji waits with Ji-ho for a taxi, but Ji-ho tells her to go since Sang-gu called and is waiting for her. Su-ji leaves, and tells Sang-gu about punching Park in the face. He praises her, and Ji-ho watches from a distance as the two kiss and hug, clearly in love.

On the ride home, Ji-ho contemplates why her marriage was so easy, realizing that it was because there was no love. However, now that she’s found love, Ji-ho wonders why she’s getting more hurt.

Se-hee puts the nametag collar Ji-ho bought on Cat while remembering Jung-min’s advice about confessing. Talking to Cat, Se-hee acknowledges that the collar might be awkward but thinks it’s better-looking than he expected.

He waits for Ji-ho outside, and when she arrives, they talk about her day as he tries to hold her hand but fails. Inside the apartment, Cat greets them as usual, and Se-hee tries to act normal as he expectantly waits for Ji-ho to notice the collar.

She doesn’t seem to register the change, and in a deflated voice, she says there’s something she needs to say. He also has something to tell her, and they move to the couch to talk.

Se-hee turns Cat’s collar around to make it more visible, but he soon realizes that a more important matter is at hand when Ji-ho takes a seat on the couch rather than the floor. She tells him to go first, but he can only stammer the first part of his sentence before giving up and letting her go instead.

Pausing between words, Ji-ho tells Se-hee that they should terminate their contract now. Se-hee stares at Ji-ho, his expression unchanging, but in voiceover he says, “Words are always slower than the heart.”

 
COMMENTS

Once again, I’m amazed by the show and how they handle the relationship between Ji-ho and Se-hee. They might be adorable oddballs caught up in a ridiculous situation, but the emotions they feel and the problems they face are neither farcical nor unusual. The potential breakup looming over Ji-ho and Se-hee might have been obvious in some sense, but not for the typical reasons often used in romantic comedies where first loves butt in and cause misunderstandings.

Rather, Jung-min has actually helped strengthen their relationship more than come between them, and instead, the writer has chosen to depict this possible split as a result of Ji-ho coming to terms with reality and realizing the heartache that comes with love. Just like how she viewed her favorite movie with rose-colored glasses—romanticizing the leads’ hasty getaway—in some ways, Ji-ho has fallen in love with Se-hee with no consideration of the repercussions of their relationship. She lives in the moment, which is admirable, but just as she noticed Ben and Elaine’s anxious expressions at the end of The Graduate, she’s starting to see beyond the initial flutters of her first love and experiencing the gamut of emotions, both painful and happy, that inevitably occurs in all relationships.

Though it seems Ji-ho is implying a termination of their marriage alongside the contract, it doesn’t necessarily have to mean that she wants to completely break ties with Se-hee. Part of me still hopes that Ji-ho loves Se-hee and will want to pursue a “real” relationship with him, but that could simply be me thinking idealistically because thoughts of Ji-ho and Se-hee no longer being a couple breaks my heart. While I love them both individually, I love them even more as a pair, and can’t think of a world where Ji-ho and Se-hee aren’t together. (Okay, maybe I can think of a situation where they aren’t together, but rainbows and kitties don’t exist in that twisted reality!)

The theme of this episode was about words and how they can live on in someone’s heart. This was most evident with Se-hee as he lived with Jung-min’s bitter parting words for twelve years, and only recently, he found out that a new set of words had wormed their way into his heart and burrowed a place to stay. He realizes that his newfound feelings aren’t accidental, and it was a lovely to see how Ji-ho’s words affected Se-hee little by little. However, Se-hee hasn’t been as transparent with Ji-ho as she has with him, which is part of the reason why she has no confidence about her place in his heart. She doesn’t understand how much her words have changed him, and as Se-hee narrated at the end of the episode, by the time he realized what was in his heart, his words were too late.

In a different vein, the idea of words and the heart was also displayed in Su-ji’s circumstance with Park. While she acted tough, his remarks and actions lived on in her heart, leaving scars, which was why it was necessary for Su-ji to confront him about his behavior to acknowledge, at least to herself, how much pain he inflicted on her through his words. She took Sang-gu’s advice and sincerely faced the world, though Park trampled on her sincerity in the end. However, this confrontation and resulting disappointment make it clear that Park is intentional in his sexual harassment, and allows Su-ji to accept the fact that he’s not worth her sincerity.

Though I rarely mention it, the directing continues to be wonderful, and there were some particularly pretty scenes this episode. The use of colors, light, and reflections have a narrative purpose, and adds another dimension of nuance to an already brilliant show. With only a week left, it’s time I prepared myself to say goodbye to this drama because I know I’ll need it when next week arrives.

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namsehee... you ruined the ideal darcy type image by becoming a better version HAHA
for real though, i always liked the seemingly cold and distant but very warm guy on the inside, but i always knew that real life guys .... are nothing like it. lee min ki you have raised the bar way too high HAHHA

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Yes... I always have the impression, because of guys like this is that some of us are lonely: you will never (although there is hope, i know one, only that he is kind of gay) find a man like that in the real world!! LOL

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There has been a lot of mentions about what's really moving in this episode. I'm going to add one more thing.

The scene where Se Hee met Jung Min at her episode left me a deep impression. It emphasized how Se Hee wants to keep the one promise he made to Ji Ho's mom. He repeatedly told Ji Ho not to be bound by their marriage and this time he showed it with real action. He faced his Room 19 and even begged the lady to support Ji Ho the writer, not Ji Ho the wife. I bet half of the reason he did that is because he loved her, but looking back to the promise, it started because he respected her and sincerely wanted her to succeed. His respect for her character comes before his love. This man dislikes making one commitment too many, but when he does, he gives it his all. That, in turn, earns Se Hee my respect.

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Sehee and Jiho both a keeper. sehee with his house and cat and jiho with her determination to be a writer and with what her brother told us. they're the type that rarely commit but once they do they'd go a long way for it.

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Some thoughts :
- I just loved the scene where Sang Gu realizes the depth of Se Hee's feelings for Ji Ho and it ties in nicely with the theme of the episode that words matter. Se Hee's actions where Ji Ho has been concerned might be uncharacteristic for him and might clue one in on his feelings, but until he verbalizes it, even he doesn't realize what she means to him. So looking forward to his Confession now.
-The little twist with Ho Rang is again something that I have come to appreciate about this show. Without the complete picture, we're so quick to judge people and assume that we knew what they were thinking when really, we are just looking at it through the lens of our preconceived ideas and biases. Like the situations with Bok Nam and Jung Min as well. Also, I like this new guy for her, if only for the fact that they are being so open with each other.
-It was so incredibly satisfying to see Soo Ji deliver that punch to Mr Douchebag that I did a small victory dance in my seat, alarming my mother who was sitting nearby.

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I thought the whole Rashomon thing they did with Ho Rang and Won-seok was brilliant. You see it from his viewpoint first, confirming everything he suspected (and the added twist of her "I'm going to follow my heart from now on." You know, I'm not convinced that he REALLY thought Ho-Rang was interested in The Guy Who Wants to Marry when he broke up with her. But standing in their rooftop garden, watching that scene...did he wonder if he had thrown them together? Kind of like a self-fulfilling prophecy? Ouch.

And THEN to see what really happened...that Friendly Puppy guy just happened to be there (or so we think) and waited for her...and she reluctantly agreed to let her drive her. And that she knows very well that it's too soon to get involved again. She's handling this thing with grace and wisdom, while Won-Seok...he's pretty much a sad, clueless, graceless ass.

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I love how this drama use "third party" surrounding jiho and sehee to progress their relationship instead of hindering it, first with boknam and now with jeongmin. And any struggles in their relationships came from the character itself in how they think and response to situations and how they tried to understands better to work it out.
I'm not sure i'm ready to part ways with this drama next week T.T

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this drama hit so close to home that my heart beating crazily when I watch the show. I'm 27 yo and I never been in a relationship because I'm so afraid to get involve. I'm afraid to cross the line. When I like someone and found one he likes me too I will cut the connection and put a barrier instantly. I can really understand Se hee and Ji ho situation and this drama open my eyes to never afraid to cross the line.

So right now I just get to know someone and I like him. I think he kinda likes me too but I'm nervous if someday he will confess. I need to brace myself and cross the line like Se hee did. I still dont know if I have the confidence though..

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go at your own pace but let your heart open. bit by bit, for as long as your comfortable. and if he's a good man, he'll be right there with you.

I'm 34 and I was single & content for 4yrs after a bad breakup, with a fortress of tough-girl-act built around my heart.

When my now-partner was trying to convince me to go out with him, he said to me, "I'm patient and I'll wait for you. I'm already at the finish line, knowing that we HAVE to and WILL be together. I'm just here, patiently waiting for you to catch up."

It's been 7 months and... I think I see that "finish line" he was talking about. I don't believe in "the ONE", but when you find a good man, keep him!

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*you're comfortable*
(ashamed of my bad spelling...)

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Another thing that I love about this drama is the strong female characters:

I love how Ji-Ho went after the director, her harasser and moved forward with the complaint. Not all women have the courage to do that and I am proud of her for standing up for herself.

Ho-rang, a confident woman who knows what she wants in her life and is not insecure of her friends. I appreciate how she’s genuinely happy for Ji-Ho’s marriage despite wanting to get married herself.

Su-Ji, the most bad-ass of all, FINALLY threw a punch to her good-for-nothing senior. I was jumping for joy when she did that. Since she’s properly facing the world now, I hope the next step she’ll do is to follow her dreams and be the person she wants to become.

Honorary favorites:
Bo-Mi, the girl who dominates her workplace and the dance floor. You can have fun on a Friday, in a club, on your own, without a man.

Jung-Min, ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️.

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You are so right! These women are killing it!
Jiho's mom as well!

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Of course, Ji-Ho’s mom! I believe she got the strength and strong will from her mother ❤️

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Jung-Min is the BEST EX in KDrama.
you know what, scratch that.
She's just an awesome WOMAN, period. She was portrayed as sooooo much more than just "an ex" that it would be robbing her of her strong essence to pin her with the "ex" label.

Great job, Writers and Actress!! Bravo!

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I think Jung Min is an amazingly written character. She’s awesome, independeny and really admirable. I reallt think it takes an amazing writing to write up her character like that without overshadowing Ji Ho as the main heroine. I mean, I love Jung Min, admire her and all, but I still want Ji Ho to end up with Se Hee. And I think it works because both Ji Ho and Jung Min characters are respecfully written (and acted) and able to stand out without overpowering one another.

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This year has given us some of the best women characters - even within my Kdrama doldrums.

I would add Forest of Secrets’ Yeo-Jin (Bae Doo-Na) to the list with both Jung-Min (Lee Chung-Ah) and Soo-Ji (Esom)

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The writer humanized her as well. She shows, that while Jung Min may not want to be with Se Hee, she does have some regret. And, it's so relatable that you'd expect your ex of 12 years and a tragic breakup to care a little about you and not the new chick. The fact that Jung Min didn't get caught up, or even wig out, about Se Hee's new relationship was awesome.

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I'm really proud of JI Ho for going after the director too. I think it helps when you have another woman supporting you and I'm so glad Jung Min is there for Ji Ho Other CEOs may have found it all too much trouble to go for a rookie writer.

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can someone please explain to me why JH wants to end the contract? My heart is breaking over this.

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I think it has to do with what Se-Hee's father says. She says that the more she falls in love with Se-Hee, the more she is hurt, but she's committed to him (as foreshadowed by her brother and by her conversation to Jung Min). I think she will stay with him. We know that Se-hee wants nothing to do with his dad's money. I do think that Ji ho confessed to his father that she cares for Se-hee and would never do anything that he would be hurt by. I have a feeling that she kept the bank book just to get Se-hee to confront his father to give it back, and to defend her decision to write. However, not before she confesses that she would like to renegotiate the terms of the agreement because she loves him, and doesn't want their current contract to dictate their relationship (with rent and what not). I think that when she starts writing, she will have this much bigger salary and I think that she will actually contribute even more to the mortgage than she currently is, thereby needing to renegotiate the contract as well. But we all know that eventually that contract will be null and void, because they'll be in a real marriage, and live happily ever after, at least as happily as they can with Kitty!

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I have so many mixed feelings of this episode, so much development within the relationships. That ending! But what I loved the most was how Jung Min was handled and how she became the catalyst for See-Hee to realise his feelings. I’ve never seen him so happy and excited to see Ji-Ho but alas the gods of drama have struck again.

We have now entered the final phase of the challenges our couple must face, I will prepare myself to savour every moment of the last two episodes. Okay it’s officially 1am and I just went through two episodes and a dramabean recap so I really need to sleep, to gain energy and spazz with everyone tomorrow.

P.S See-Hee being angry at the director guy in the cafe omg, please don’t tell I’m the only one who found it really hot. Lee Min Ki’s eyes and the angry tremble in his voice. Yep that’s a real husband there alright.

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Lee Min Ki is HOT when he's fire angry. That trembling voice got to me too.

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Whew, I'm glad I'm not the only one who thought this!

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"Words can only survive when they reach people’s hearts, and to reach people’s hearts, words have to be said out loud." LOOOOOOVVVVVEEE TTHISS SOOO MUCH!

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Oh.. I refuse to believe that we'll only get to see them until next week. Only few days left. 😭😭😭 But, writer-nim please give us satisfying ending. 🙏🙏🙏

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i feel depressed already. after this show, i can not see the kdrama as the same before. and now my expectation will up so high that i am not sure any future drama would ever hit me at this emotional level.

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Really loved this week episodes espeically ep.13 I thought it was the best ep so far. But ep 14 confused me a bit. Sg had asked Sooji if she thought Jiho's feelings were one sided clearly implying that Sehee likes her too but then in this episode he thought Jiho was just a tenant and he was clearly shocked when Sehee was worried about what to tell her about his past?

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What Sang-gu said before was "Do you think that Se-hee doesn't know that Ji-ho likes him?", and that Se-hee must be scared because he knows what love is. I think that Sang-gu was surprised that Se-hee allowed himself to have those feelings for Ji-ho, since he hadn't let himself for 12 years!

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I think what Sang-gu meant was that See-Hee was scared because if Ji-ho likes him, he might hurt her. Because hurting JM is, I think, what really caused him to close himself off. It isn't his pain he scared of, it's causing someone else pain. If you look at this way, it still makes sense that Sang-gu doesn't see that See-hee has started to have feelings for Ji-ho. Add in the contract, and the weird way See-Hee had tried to explain his sudden marriage before the contract was revealed, and I can totally see Sang-gu's confusion.

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Se Hee kept the nametag !!! Don't forget that it meant something to him then already

And he tried to use ''Wuri'' to reach Ji Ho, but he didn't get to finish in time.

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Also, the finical officer said that Time just pass when you're a break up.
For a duration i felt pretty depressed about life, I could really understand what he meant to Ho rang's reply that Time heals everything. It just seems like everything/everyone was moving on but you're still stuck in that place.

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@ Serena
I was thinking at the time that Ji Ho threw the pretty name tag/collar away, that we might be seeing it again. So glad that Se Hee had found it and kept it, and that he was using it as a non-verbal way to tell Ji Ho how important she is to him.

So, this means that he's been keeping it all along and was waiting for a time to use it? Yes, it definitely must have meant something to him from the beginning that Ji Ho had chosen that name for cat, and that it was 'Us'.

Now that he is certain that he wants there to be an 'Us', he can finally let cat wear the collar. And he was going to follow it up verbally by telling her (as advised by Jung Min), but he lost his nerve. Let's see next week if he can get the words out, since he let Ji Ho speak first (and it probably will confuse him LOL). I hope he won't take too long to calculate when and how to tell her!!!

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I love the way you clarified some parts of these episode for me. I have to admit, sometimes I get the essence of what they are say but it's difficult to understand them wholly so I love coming here to be able to understand something I didn't in the episode.

I love how these episodes tackled all of my previous concerns, like the importance of actually talking and being expressive (this had been my concern when SeHee figured something was weird with Bok Nam but played it cool and didn't say anything to Ji Ho even though it all turned out well in the end, I felt like him not saying anything put her in danger.

Another concern I felt was well addressed was the whole unevenness about how they expressed their feelings for each other. To me, a lot of people were making excuses for SeHee when i said I felt like JiHo is too far ahead in her feelings for him and I wasn't quite convinced he felt anything more than fondness of her and this episode really showed that Jiho felt that way as well and that's why she's not confident about his feelings for her. I love that he realized that sometimes you need to say how you feel so people will know. Jiho to me has been really good at being introspective about SeHee's feelings (she's mature enough to figure him out without really asking him any questions) but to me at times it felt like she was reading his mind which was unrealistic to me so I LOVE that even as introspective as she is, she still needs to hear him express her feelings. I wish he didn't hesitate, that's my only problem.

That aside, I'm so excited for Ho-Rang! The guy seems really nice and understanding and I want it to work out for her. Also happy for Sooji!

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To all the awesome strong independent ladies out there who have a good man (or woman) by their side, supporting them with love, here's for you:

"i do not want to have you
to fill the empty parts of me
i want to be full on my own

i want to be so complete
i could light a whole city
and then
i want to have you
cause the two of
us combined
could set it on fire"

(quote from "Milk and Honey" by Rupi Kaur)

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Just to let you know that I just screenshot your quote and ready to send it in full force for my awesome, independent friends <3

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aaawww... (I have a huuuge smile on my face)

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right after the show ended with "words is always slower than the heart", i curled up myself and groaned. i felt so stupid and silly that i didn't even know if i was crying or i was laughing, it was just in between. i just wanted to scream, "why those two can not work this out!". then i realised it is just drama. drama that i am going to remember long after it is ended, just like my own life memories.
btw, is there any way i could send a thank you note to the production team for introducing this drama in my life ? to remind me that love is still the greatest thing in this life ? cause i really want to send them a postcard. yup, not email, or fanwall, i will definitely send them a postcard.

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You know what, me too! I want to send them my personal thanks through snail mail. <3

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Count me in!

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Count me in! I am thanking Jung Somin And Lee Minki in their Instagram accounts but I felt like it's not enough.

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Or we could simply tag Lee Min Ki on instagram. Heard that he likes every post fan made of him. We can give it a try ;)

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He does do that. But I don't think it's LMK himself, but his agency.
Someone correct me if I'm wrong.

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I'm also pleased with this week's episodes, because we see Se Hee really making an effort not just to protect, but to really show that he cares. Episode 14 in particular is special, because although in the past episodes, we see him do a lot of skinship, kisses, hand-holding, wanting to sleep in the same room; episode 14 shows that he really cares (as I said in my past fan wall post) - worrying about Ji Ho because she hasn't come home yet, making tea for her hangover, punching the heck out of that assistant PD, asking Jung Min (even if it would have been really uncomfortable for him to talk to an ex), and naming the cat. There's something so endearing about that effort to show love.

Which leads me to the next thing I love about this episode. That conversation between Se Hee and Jung Min outside the elevator. I'm thinking after their whole conversation, Jung Min already had an idea of how Se Hee feels for Ji Ho, because that conversation in itself is an effort coming out of love. So Jung Min's comment probably stemmed from that, because no matter how much he shows it in actions, it's still important for Ji Ho to hear the words.

It's so great that Jung Min served as a catalyst instead of a hindrance in this relationship, that her experience with Se Hee served as a lesson for improvement. I'm hoping other writers are taking notes, because second leads are never like this and it's so refreshing to see.

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I don't know how ji ho is not sure of her place in se hee s heart. His actions speak louder than words, and in the past few episodes, other than a few small smiles, ji ho has not been as noticeable in her liking of him. It's been mostly him.

After thinking about it, Im hoping she's saying that she wants to end the contract because they are starting a real relationship. One where it's implied they want to kiss and hold each other rather than always tentatively asking.

Fingers crossed the drama ends as well as the entire run has been so far. I'm actually optimistic for this one to be good all the way through! : )

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If you think about it, she was in a flirty relationship with that assistant director for three years. Words, actions, implied feelings--and it turned out to be nothing. She even berated herself for not understanding what all of that meant. So she doesn't trust her instincts no matter how blatant See-hee's actions are. She needs the words to confirm what she sees in his actions, because the last time it turned out so horribly wrong.

I agree with you that she wants to end the contract not to end everything, but to begin.

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Yes! This.

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I feel like Ji Ho noticed that Se Hee is usually speaks up about likes and dislikes. He's even asked to sleep together. She's probably wondering why he just couldn't say "I like you".

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Oh yes, especially when he was the one who said “I love yous are so easy to say” earlier on in the episodes (after Ji Ho met his parents).

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I hope they go back to that line to explain a bit more what Se-hee meant when he said that.

And I can't wait to hear him say "I love you" to Ji-ho. 💖

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Re: Se-hee's statement, “I love yous are so easy to say”

The sense I had was that saying "I love you is easy," but that there's more to it than mouthing words. Meaning what you way, and putting your money where your mouth is, are not necessarily easy.

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I totally get it. His actions have said "I like you" since Namhae, but it's only been a few days, and he hasn't said the words. For weeks before that the words he did say were things like he only wanted to be responsible for himself, his house and Cat, one love is enough for a lifetime and his dream was for nothing to happen in his life until he eventually died in his home. JH meets JM and finds out the reason behind those words. I can understand why she seemingly thinks SH would be torn. I knew SH had feelings for JH, but I didn't realize the depth of those feelings and that he had truly put the past behind him until he came to that realization himself, so I can understand why JH is unsure.

I hope she wants to end the contract and start a real relationship, but she seemed so worn down, I don't know.

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I was describing this show to my family and trying to explain how cool it is. I suddenly realized that there's no way they can understand, because they don't know all the usual tropes that are being subverted in this show!
1. hiding key information from a loved one, dragging a show out forever over one piece of easily disclosed information - NOPE
2. evil mother in law tearing them apart - NOPE
3. evil ex-girlfriend making the new girl's life hell - NOPE
4. hanging on to a partner when it's clear things aren't working - NOPE
5. noble idiocy - NOPE (I'm figuring it WON'T HAPPEN at this point, please please please)

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The anti-tropiness of this show is going to ruin future shows. Honestly, I hope all the drama writers are taking notice, because this working so well on so many levels. But you are right, explaining the freshness and all around awesomeness is difficult when no one around you has a clue what the usual drama scenario entails.

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I love this show so much that I want to show it to everyone I know, but even though I think it's a great show even when isolated from the rest of dramaland, it seems extra special when you're already familiar with your stereotypical rom-coms. I'll definitely be showing it to my best friend, though, who also watches dramas (although not as voraciously as me).

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Ha I finally confessed to my kdrama bff (who also watch this show obsessively and read Dramabeans) that I've been actively discussing the drama on this recap thread (without confessing my nickname haha) and she gaped and couldn't believe that my obsession would include writing pages long of critical analysis of the drama and sacrifying hours of sleep reading the comments. Oh well.

p/s: If you're reading this chingu, yup it's me haha

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LOL. I also like seeing people's reactions when I tell them about Dramabeans. This site really has made me view all forms of fiction in a different light and I love it! I'm much better able to articulate WHY I feel a certain way about something now and I love discussing things with people. With the exception of my awesome AP Language class in high school, this site has probably done more for my critical thinking ability than many of my classes in school ever have.

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Yeah, I always ask those who watch kdrama whether they know Dramabeans, and most of those I know are on the site, but mostly silent readers who don't really participate in the discussion. I kept giving hints how I love DB and the comments on recaps, but this was the first time I actually confessed to someone I know that I'm actually a pretty active Beanie on BTLIOF thread LOL.

But again, I might be wrong and they might be one of us here, hiding behind a nickname haha..

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I’ve been trying to describe this show to myself for a while. A basic description of plot, genre, setup, or themes doesn't do it justice. Its too layered and well considered for those terms to carry sufficient weight.

The KDrama-verse is not big on slice-of-life shows. That genre doesn’t neatly fit the makjang tendencies of Korean culture.

No one is making an action film of my everyday life. But this show realised that its not life itself that’s hard, its just dealing with other people that is the challenge. So they put it in a kaleidoscope – and it’s amazing.

This show is like those rare moments you notice you’re breathing air. On a chilly morning or before a hailstorm, what is usually so insignificant is intense and every breath is sharp and expectant.

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"But this show realised that its not life itself that’s hard, its just dealing with other people that is the challenge. So they put it in a kaleidoscope – and it’s amazing.

This show is like those rare moments you notice you’re breathing air. On a chilly morning or before a hailstorm, what is usually so insignificant is intense and every breath is sharp and expectant."

so well said. thank you for this!

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That last paragraph was beautifully put. I find myself hanging on to every word of the dialogue in this show because some of the lines give me exactly that feeling.

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This episode was almost too much for me to take emotionally. I haven't read all of everyone's comments and I usually need to do that to understand more deeply. Even though we're all talking about how deep this drama is and realistic to a degree, I found myself wanting a "happy ending" for Ji ho and Se hee after all. And let there be a second season called something like "because this is the first time we're a family" (including kids, parents and all those problems. I'm imagining them as parents.

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Jung Min became an interesting catalyst for See Hee to face that he has indeed moved on and has found love with Ji Ho. It took her to make him realize he has to say what he feels for Ji Ho.
The scenes between JM & JH and between SH & JM were simply amazing... I felt the same feeling expressed by JM of being blown away by JH's knowing that a heart is not taken or grabbed... it comes.
About JH ending the contract... she's wiping the slate clean. To erase the lie that I think she revealed to her father-in-law... it's SH's move to make & giddy thinking of what the show has in store for us.

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Ugh. I am lateee to the recap! All I wanna say is that I am putting all my trust in this writer because of how every misunderstanding turned out to be logical events. Take Ho-rang's dating app friend that fetched her for example. It was acceptable, and she obviously did not move on that quickly as we thought she did in ep 13, as we saw in ep 14.

Now I really cant bear to bid my leads goodbye T.T but at the same time, I cant wait for all the revelations during the finale week.

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I am really nitpicking here because I love this show so very much, but at episode 14 I realised how I wish that the show didn’t withhold too much information from the audience for too long. Case in point: they withhold whatever Ji Ho said to Se Hee’s dad, and they cut through Ji Ho and Jung Min’s conversation about the past. Yes, I’m very confident that they would tell us what it's all about in the next episode, and it is a directorial choice, but I wish we were given hints of what’s been said in THIS episode, and having the resolution of the conversation in the same episode. I have the same wish when they introduced Bok Nam character earlier on, or when Boknam told Ji Ho that he asked Se Hee why he married her, the drama drag the revelation up until the next episode when I wish it was clarified sooner and tied to to same episode’s resolution. I LOVE that they withhold the information from us and reveal it later, but I wish that it wasn't too long that they skip an episode to reveal it.

I think I get why there are so many confusion over Ji Ho’s words at the end, and I would attribute that to the lack of hints given on why Ji Ho made such decision in the first place. There were hints of course from Ji Ho’s voiceovers - but based from words exchanged between Ji Ho and Jung Min (which is lacking some context), Ji Ho’s meeting with dad (also lacking some context) and Ji Ho and Se Ji at the end about how it gets harder now, it could go either way - either Ji Ho wanting to nullify the contract because she wants him to love her not because he feels complied to (coz of marriage), or that Ji Ho is overwhelmed when Se Hee never said anything, or Ji Ho giving up altogether (or any other reasons mentioned by other beanies). I am confident the writing would resolve that satisfyingly in the next episode. But at the very least, I wish we were shown hints so we can guess. But I assume that it is a directorial/ writing decision to withhold the information so that the audience would be eager to wait for the next episode.

Like I said, I am reaaallyy nitpicking here. ;)

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Oh yeah, I definitely think it's used to keep us craving for more. At first I wasn't sure how I felt about it but now I really don't mind because by now the writer has my trust. It still makes me apprehensive, though! And again, I think that's what they want. It probably wouldn't be as noticeable if you binge-watched it.

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I guess I know why it bothers you,... it's a kind of more obvious manipulation by the director. It creates or increases suspense and anticipation for the next episode, to hold the audience.

At the same time, while I do agree with you and do not like to be overly manipulated, I understand that story-telling is through and through a sort of manipulation anyway, and that I'm agreeable to being part of that manipulation. I know that going into a story, I want my interest and feelings to be engaged, my thoughts to be drawn out and opinions to be formed if appropriate. That means, I want to let the show take me out of myself as well and to be thinking or feeling what I would not if left to myself.

Therefore some 'manipulation' but not too much is key in good storytelling. Just enough and we know the show makers respect us, the viewers. Too much, and we will feel that they think we are stupid, but because the suspense is real we have to watch anyway, and so they 'win' and we may get resentful. Heh!

This show does it mostly well although it's obvious and borderline on annoying, but it balances it out so well with the emotional highs that we just forgive them. 😂

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Haha you got it right, it’s mostly well done even though it does borderline on annoying 😂

I enjoyed all the manipulations and surprised they have in store so far. The twists are lovely and the surprises are refreshing. It’s only that i wish sometimes the revelation should be done slightly sooner sonwe wouls have the same emotional impacts while we’re still attached tp the storyline in the episode. Sometimea storing it away and used in the the next episode might lessen the impact and emotional attachment to the revelation.

Yet again, like you said, most of the time it balances our pretty well so yeah, and although it can be annoying at times, we’ll forgive them anyway. 😂

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I think it's used to allow you to have expectations... usually the wrong one. I saw someone say that the writer is using tropes as a way of getting us to think one way so they can cleanly move in a different direction.

Like real life, you don't know these people -- you don't actually KNOW the people around you at work and even your friends. When Ji Ho stops her Father-In-Law but they don't show what happens afterwards... you have to think about what could have been said.

No hints, nothing... what do YOU think was said? Because that's real life --> we don't know.

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That's a very good point, and it ties nicely into what Se-hee said a few episodes ago. How can you know someone else when you don't even fully know yourself?

This is why I'm not worried about how this episode ended. Every time I'm worried about the direction this show is headed, the writer proves me wrong. I've learned to just sit back and trust her.

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i need a drama just based on Su-ji with her red lipstick and black coat, punching assholes Healer-style

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And going home to SG to get hugs and cuteness as a reward for her bad asseryness.

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It's like a breath of fresh air that the first love comes back and is actually 'cool'-- i.e. doesn't grovel for the male lead. I feel like dramas always describe their 2nd lead females as 'cool' and 'chic' and yet they always end up sabotaging the female lead and crying and deserting everything good about themselves for the sake of a man. And you wonder, how did the male lead ever feel in love with someone like that? Not so with Jung Min. I was reluctantly admiring her right along with Ji Ho. Also, it's nice that the presence of the first love doesn't cause painful indecision and guilt within the male lead, but reaffirms his current feelings and current relationship. Everyone in this drama is still the intelligent, fully emotionally functioning, reasonable adults that they were prior to the appearance of the first love. It's amazing!

I'm also really enjoying Ho Rang and Won Seok spending time with some different people than each other. Even if nothing comes of the relationships, I feel like its a breath of fresh air for Ho Rang to be chased for a little bit (and be met with someone who seems to understand her and with interests and a style that suits her a little more.) I loved the reversal where she went on the defensive about the intellectual words, only to reveal that he was using teenage slang. She and Won Seok have been together so long, I think she's forgot that there are other, different men out there and maybe she can be comfortable with them too, in a different way. Won Seok as well-- Bomi has been independent, free-thinking and straightforward from the start, so it's time for him to see the contrasts and figure out the variety of people out there. As he said, he's only ever been in one relationship, and it's probably good for him to try new things.

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What bothers me, and maybe you guys can help me out realize, the first part of the ep where Ji-ho was hiding observing Se-hee and Jung-min - like how did she know? Did she just magically put the pieces together and figured it out that they are each other's old flame?

I would've expected to see her happy when she went out of the building and saw the two together like "hey! there's my two favorite people in the world, I should introduce them" lol.

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Yes and no to the magic... Take or leave it, but I think women’s intuition kicked in once she observed their reaction to seeing one another. Plus, She was made privy to the same information that we were through her conversation with JM, who revealed quite a bit of her past personal life. Add in the bits that SH shared and the Post-its... I think the average person would’ve deduced, (right or wrong) that they at least were familiar with one another.

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And (I just rewatched it, lol) she waited a beat before she hid. She was initially smiling but the informal greetings and the fact that they both seemed like they had just seen a ghost may've been what caused her to hide and watch their interaction longer

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"hey! there's my two favorite people in the world, I should introduce them", and I immediately think of Jung Woo when he sees Hyun Soo and Jung Sun. Never known that the mess was ready to unfold from that positive excitement! Oh, what that drama could have been :(

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I'm still cranky about how TEMPERATURE OF LOVE so effectively convinced me of the dysfunctionality of various parties that I didn't want them to get together or reconcile. That may not have been what writer-nim intended. The magical resolutions really bugged me. Bah, humbug! ;-)

And it started out so well. Dang it, that show deserved better writing.

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During the voiceover when Sehee is thinking back on the warm words Jiho has said, you can see his hand shaking as he holds the Cat's collar. I love this detail in this scene. It seems like he's so overcome with emotion.

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I'm awfully late but still read every single comment. Two things:
1) "Why did you have such little luggage?" Dude, you and me both ask this of every drama heroine (including Ji Ho!) I like him for Ho Rang actually.
2) I had not realized that Ji Ho stopped writing because of the shock of the attempted rape - I thought it was because she became unemployed suddenly and would have difficulties getting another writing job. So I am proud of Ji Ho and the drama writer for not letting that drop and seeking justice. By the by, my only wish is #showustheSeHeepunch

It will soon be Monday, for the last time for BTIOFL. :'(

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The director guy tells Ji Ho that if she kicks up a fuss it will be the end of her career. Ji Ho decides she rather quit writing than ignore what happened to her. (I realize that's putting it very matter of factly...sorry)

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In a completely non-teachy way, BTLIOF seeks us tell just how important communication really is. The show tells us to be bold, uninhibited, and direct. Speak straight from the heart and don't allow societal norms to dictate your love. None of these couples confirm to a traditional relationships. Our primary couple with their contract marriage, Ho-Rang and Won Seok and their co-habitation, and Su Ji and Sang Gu with the casual hook-up turned love.

The tie into The Graduate didn't initially make sense but the writer has transitioned us back to the film. The Graduate is a film about a young man trying to find his way through society and deciding his parents' way wasn't going to work for him. In The Graduate, Ben worries about his future, the paths he will take, and bears the weight of parents' expectations. In this drama, our heroines are all dealing with the same struggles. And their desire to have a different life from their parents, or in Ho-Rang's case, a life just like her parents. Like Ben, however, they all choose unconventional methods to find their path.

Another similarity, is the BTLIOF writer's distinct use of sex. While not explicitly addressed, sex is almost its own character in this drama. Sex is used to be intimate and pleasurable as well as harmful and destructive. It can make someone strong and empowered while leaving another feeling vulnerable and weak.

The drama also shows how our sexual choices can impact others which is extremely important. Often times, we think that our histories impact us only and we tend to forget that when we allow others into our lives they partake in our history too.

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Speaking of this show's portrayal of sex, I wonder if Ji-ho has retained any trauma from nearly being raped by Yong-seok. She hasn't had any reservations being intimate with Se-hee in terms of their hugs and kisses and last episode's "bed" scene, but it still has me wondering.

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Hmm, that's definitely worth wondering about and it now got me thinking too.

I'm curious if Se-hee also has that in mind and whether he will approach Ji-ho differently in terms of seeking more intimacy (if that's even something we'll get to see)

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Freaking sad the whole episode but still absolutely beautifully written..those heart thugging lines..i cannot

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Thanks for the recap, Lovepark!

My favourite part in this episode was when Se-hee met Yong-seok! I watched that scene over and over again like mad. The stillness of Se-hee, which I usually see as being his usual weird self, was in this scene actually chilling, then when he said, "sit down! You are going to talk to me properly and you are going to tell me everything!" or something like that, well then that was swoony...and might I add, hot! That was way better than the motorcycle scene really where I swooned like hell! I didn't know this actor is so good. He interprets this character so amazingly such as in this scene where he was being still, or with a seemingly calm exterior, in a seething moment! I wish I had seen the actual punching though. That would have been most satisfying. That's why I love Su-ji's scene with Park, I mean finally!

When Ji-ho sat on the couch with her back straight as a ramrod, well, I just braced myself for the inevitable. It was so frustrating because Se-hee was finally going to say the "words that has to be said", the confession! He was about to tell her first, then he clammed up and decided to let Ji-ho say what she has to say first. So. heartbreaking.

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Are any of you watching other dramas/movies with Lee Min ki? He is such a good actor! I just finished Shoot Me In the Heart. Wonderful movie and his character ran the gamut of emotions.

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I'm watching that tonight! Since last week with my Spellbound rewatch I'm making a thing out of Saturday Movie Nights, starting with LMK movies, of course.

So glad to hear it is good! I have only seen, like, 2 other people mention it here!

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If you like Kim Nam gil have you seen One Day? Many people didn't like it but I thought it was a beautiful film, bittersweet, and the music was gorgeous. (I think I've seen Spellbound at least 3 times!)

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I haven't! I'm actually starting this movie night because I realized that I've seen only two Korean movies before: Spellbound and Hope. I'll definitely add One Day to my list!

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Could I make a list of my favorites? I don't know what genres you like the best.

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That would be great! Honestly, I will watch ANYTHING and don't like to limit myself by genre, but my favorites are probably rom-coms and thrillers. But again, I'll watch anything.

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I go by the actor, not the genre! 4 of my fav: The Servant (explicit sex, bittersweet ending) Kim Joo hyuk; A Good Rain Knows (nice, hopeful) Jung Woo sung; The Man From Nowhere (extreme violence/action) Won Bin; Alice, Boy From Wonderland (supernatural/horror?) Hong Jong hyun. Seems Korean movies make up for the lack of sex and violence in the dramas! Some of my favorites get low ratings from others because of this but it doesn't bother me!

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@Linda Palatal - Thats a cool list.

@mindy - My list is by days of the week. If you are looking for Sunday afternoon fare:
"Inside Beauty” (Han Hyo-joo & everyone else)
"Castaway on the Moon” (Jung Ryeo‑won & Jung Jae‑young)
"Cold Eyes” (Han Hyo-joo)
"Midnight FM” (Soo Ae)

If its a rainy Sunday the list is totally different.

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Thank you both for your recs! I'm excited to dive into the Chungmuro world!

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Thanks, Tom. I've been curious about Cold Eyes and Castaway, though as I said, I usually can only watch dramas/movies with my favorite actors, regardless of genre and rating.

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I just love all of them so much *^*
(not Park The Arse tho)

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Dammit Sehee! You just should've talked first!
Guys a question: When Suji calls Sang gu and also in that punch-the- bastard scene, background music seems so familiar. Is it from a movie or something?

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This was probably the best "Episode 14" I've ever seen. So much happened! I'm wondering if I've ever watched another drama (out of 100+) where I wouldn't change a thing. Wow!

I loved the scene where Ho Rang was standing their in her Millennial Pink jacket staring at her Millennial Pink couch. Ha.

Many of the things I loved ya'll already touched upon. Soo Ji is queen, this show is perfect, etc.

I am there with you folks who think she wants to end the contract to embrace a completely authentic relationship now. I'm not too worried.

I knew when I saw Ko Jung Min I liked her. Lee Chung Ah does a lovely job with her as well.

I loved Young Hyo's teenage slang words of encouragement! While Ho Rang and Won Seok's break up had me feeling all kinds of feelings (Half wanting them to just go back to love, comfort, and be together, half knowing they need to finally go their own paths), Young Hyo had hoping for okay, separate futures for the two. Good job, fella.

I am so, so sad there are only two episodes left. This show was special for many of us. I will be very sad to say goodbye!

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Who plays Yong Seok's character? I've been searching for his name!

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Two thoughts - The final scene, with one person crushing the happy confession that the other was about to make, is a cliche'. If the writer carries on with the cliche, the next scene would have SH swallowing his words, and giving up until some deus ex machina brings the couple back together. I hope the writer doesn't go that route; I'd much rather hear SH say something like, "Okay, and here's what I have to say," laying it out just as he intended.
The second thought is, I'm astonished at 이청아's versatility as an actor. I never recognized her as the goofy kid sister in "Accidental Couple".

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The writer does go that route - let me know if there's anything unusual the way she handles it because I don't know.

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I just watched episode 15, and it broke me. Spoilers: Se Hee cried. But I'm not giving anything more than that. I hope they all get their happy endings.

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Thanks for your recap and comments, @lovepark! Late to the party, but just finished reading the comments.

I appreciate your thought that Ji-ho is merely terminating the contract, not the relationship itself. In light of the burdensome expectations that in-laws inflict on their children's spouses and significant others in this show, it occurs to me that Ji-ho might well want their relationship to continue, but not as a marriage. If anything, the social and familial obligations that are part of marriage impede the love she wants to share with Se-hee. This pair has never been conventional, so why get married? Living in sin might work much better for them in the long run. ;-)

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Why did se-hee beat yong-seok ?
What did yong-seok do to ji-ho ?

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