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[Drama Chat] The drama trope that happened to you

Love them or hate them, dramaland tropes are here to stay. From the Truck of Doom to the drunken piggyback to the oops-I-just-fell-on-you scenario, dramas know how to pull a thing out of their hat to amp up the action. After all, they’ve got 16 hours of plot to take care of.

Tropes in dramas are mostly crazy, fun, and infectious (and sometimes eye roll worthy), but there are also those rare moments when life imitates art. The tropes come alive. A drama moment happens in your everyday life, and you either giggle at the serendipity (if you know you know), or you stare into space while blinking dramatically — with the proper sound effects, of course.
 

What drama trope has happened to you irl?

 
Let the chatting begin!
 
Editor’s note: thanks to @ally-le who dropped this idea many moons ago!
 
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Don't mind me.

Im just gonna sit here and wait for someone to tell us about how they broke up with their rich boyfriend after his mother threw water in her face and gave her an envelope full of money

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You deserve some kind of an award for that one.

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Long ago in college, I dated a guy who at first seemed like he was from the same kind of background as me - father in the military, moved around a lot, similar tastes. I grew up very poor, though, and it took me a while to recognize just how wealthy his family was. On my first visit to his parents, they turned out to live in a historic house that had been in the family for 200 years. Then we visited his grandmother, who lived in a huge mansion and kept a copy of the Social Register next to her phone. I learned that his mom was planning his sister's debutante party at the fanciest hotel in New York. We went on vacation - to what turned out to be his family's PRIVATE ISLAND, seriously. The entire time his family treated me with condescension bordering on disdain, which was hurtful but I was smitten with the guy and he was pretty good about pushing back on them. Eventually, however, he started acting erratically, our relationship deteriorated and I began thinking about breaking up. At the same time, he started talking about marriage *way too soon,* which should have been a clue.

And then.

His aunt, a formidable lady I had met a few times, came to my dormitory to find me, sat me down and told me how unsuitable I was for his family, said that it would be best for both of us if we parted, and *offered to buy me a nice handbag.* Needless to say, I broke up with him the next day (sans handbag and I've never cared about those anyway) because who wants to have an unstable boyfriend from a snotty family? I have always considered it a lucky escape.

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Had a crush on my childhood best friend for years. Found out he had one on me the whole time too. (We used to be best friends and academic rivals.)

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Well? And then what happened?

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Don’t leave us hanging! Did it work out between you two?

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@bbstl @ladynightshade We dated for a while. Ended it as friends. I guess only the beginning was tropey.
We were better as friends than a couple. I don't really contact him now after he started dating again.

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The similar story happened to me when I was 11. Had a big crush on a boy in another class. Got a red rose with a sweet note on the V Day. Thought it was from another boy in the same class. Threw it away into a bin. Discovered in the 12th grade from one of my best friends who was also close to him that it was actually from him. Almost killed that best friend. 😂

He is now a doctor and got married some years ago and now has a very lovely child with his doctor wife. 🌷

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Omg what a coincidence, my ex is now a doctor too. 🤣

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I have been known to walk around on the street talking my thoughts out loud and nobody noticing. (especially now that I'm covered up with a mask - who knew masks could have so many uses?)

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Also, I was a noble self-sacrificing idiot for years in a marriage - does that count?

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Definitely.

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kdrama trope.. no idea if this is one but thought to share...
I managed to cut ties with a loser who pretended to be best friend and remain so for 3 years (but sending mixed signals all this while also being engaged and abt to get marry soon but never told me abt it) got to know from a common friend.

it was such heart shattering moment to decide to cut off this friendship.. i cried my eyes out many many days upon knowing he was playing with me all those years... and how stupid i was to trust him.
i never trusted any of colleagues after that

but just like kdramas losing a loser was certainly the biggest gain of my life.

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Yes, it is a very real gain.

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hehe.. thank you...

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I was nearly Truck of Doomed by a school bus when I was younger. (The snow caused it to slide.)

Both my parents and grandparents were divorced before I was a toddler. So I don't just have an "evil" stepmom and stepbrothers, I also have an "evil" stepgrandma too.

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Little league version of the coincidental meet-cute trope -- at an interview for my first job out of law school, I was busted staring slack-jawed a bit too long by a stunner in the reception area. I got the job and you can guess who my new office mate turned out to be. We did the "friendly colleagues hanging out" for about a year until she asked to bring along her young nephew to a baseball game were agreed to attend. It finally dawned on me that this was a test/signal of sorts. We will celebrate our silver anniversary next year.

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Whoa, fantastic story! And, Congratulations! 👩‍❤️‍👨

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Thank you twice. This is a totally gratuitous remark for this thread but like dramas, we've had our ups and some very bad downs, but I never had to ask myself "what's the point of it all?" because the answer is always by my side (and vice-versa).

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That's so very sweet. It means your decision is the right one. Congratulations. 😊

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Now that’s a love story for the drama screens. Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary!

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Thank you!

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Yes, it actually is a screen worthy story. And congratulations.

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Destiny! That’s totally a trope.

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meeting a celebrity not knowing he is a celebrity and getting all up in his face for something, then later seeing him on TV
fighting for a taxi and kicking the other one out
taking home a drunk friend that talks to posts and stuff. denying being his friend.
being mistakenly arrested as someone else (gosh, im a thug!)
having to dig in dung
breaking a heel in the middle of nowhere
not to mention I still live in a rooftop room here on Dramabeans

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Yooo breaking a heel in the middle of nowhere! Was it raining? Did you break the other heel too?

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worse, it was scorching hot, I could have fainted and met my tragically deceased lover (victim of the Truck of Doom) who had been turned into a grim reaper and lost all his memories of me, but luckily a mysterious ahjumma showed up in a buggy and took me to her canteen which cannot be found unless you already know where it is. But, actually, I do always carry superglue, duct tape (I´m not kidding, I do), a carpet knife and some rope (you can mark that down, useful knowledge, right).

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😲 Are you premeditating something with those items? Sounds like you could use them in a kdrama crime.

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I will fight for zombie rights. I will superglue all the sword-wielding brutes to the BACK of the zombie, so they will have to live in terms without getting bitten; I will duct tape the zombies´ heads back onto give them a second chance at li...er, death; I will use the carpet knife to carve secret symbols for escape routes to zombies being chased by ma dong seok et al, and I will use rope to swing like Tarzan from a tree while I watch the action unfold.

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ohmygoodness. I need this on Netflix now.

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we need a female MacGyver, right. But unlike Lee Si young type no-nonsense tough girl, a comical version. I totally colunteer.

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*volunteer

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Duct tape is wonderful.

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I almost got hit by a white truck on the way to a date once. Does that count as a truck of doom?

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Oh, I also have an “evil” stepmother who absolutely hates both me and my mom and has actively tried to make our lives miserable for as long as I remember knowing her. Maybe dramaland isn’t so far-fetched after all?

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@ladynightshade: Let’s find an internet-based shaman and go to town on the evil stepparent. The only glitch to this plan might be that we would need 7 versions of Junho to stabilise the space time continuum in order to achieve our aim. Otherwise, easy peasy.

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7 versions of Junho? Who cares about the space-time continuum, let’s find that shaman.

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I love that it was white (also am glad you did not get completely truck-of-doomed).

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Me too, because honestly that was the most memorable part of that date lol. Also I get to tell fellow drama fans about getting truck-of-doomed and see the stunned reactions.

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I’m pretty sure no KD tropes have been part of my life but the picture above reminds me of once standing in a bus, holding the handle on the back of a seat, when the driver braked so hard that I completely swung around and was nose to nose with the guy sitting there.
So, did he follow me off the bus, invite me to coffee and turn out to be my book- and classical-music loving soulmate?
Or did he follow me off the bus, invite me to coffee and turn out to be a tsundere rich boy with an obnoxious mother?
Naaaaaw, nothing happened, of course!

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Now that I think about it, a lot of accidents happened on busses, but the male lead was missing so I only got cursed a lot.

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ah, perhaps you knocked him unconcsious. always check by shaking the injured person viciously like you want their brains to drop. Dontcha know?

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🤣 and you must yell repeatedly “ARE YOU OK? ARE YOU OK?”

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I can assure you none of the involved looked anything like a lead. I checked.

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Does being so oblivious that one causes tropes to happen count? Asking for a friend.

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I actually had an experience of being an object of affection of a sort-of real-life tsundere. For a few years in a row during my college years, once a year for a month I worked on a site where there were physical workers – very lazy and hot-headed young local boys. They had a leader, and they would basically only do something you needed if he told them to, and he was the loudest and nastiest of them all and by far the most difficult one to deal with – knew everything that needed to be done, but showed no respect for authority, sweared constantly at everything and everybody and got into fights regularly (though not during work hours), and my colllegues and I would on daily basis feel our blood pressure rise towards 200 after talking to him – and all of that repeated each year. He sparked absolutely no feelings (other than annoyance) in me, and if I had thought about it (which I hadn't), I would say that I believed that he barely knew my name.
And then, it was the 4th year of our seasonal work, I had more responsabilities than before and had to deal with him more than before, and he was nastier than ever and I basically wanted to kill him every day. But then, suddenly – inbetween his swearing, not listening, and driving everybody nuts – he started following me around the site like a puppy, yelling at his boys if they didn't listen to my orders, offering to carry me when I sprained my ankle, and saying things to me (while I was climbing up a ladder) like: „Don't worry, if you fall down, you'll fall into my arms“. I was literally – to use the drama translation terminology – flabbergasted, and was telling my friends (who found that greatly amusing and just chuckled all the way), that I have no idea what has gotten into him, but that I still want to smack him on the head.
Anyway, when the work was finished that year, we had a little party in a bar. He was there and while I was passing next to him, he suddenly just hugged me (backhug) and stayed that way without saying a word. Of course the others saw us, and my boss asked: „What love is this?“ And he said: „From my side, it's been going on for years.“ Just like that. And I felt like I was in a parallel universe.

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Whoa.....
This IS a drama.

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😮 omg! Had you been watching dramas by then? Did you recognize it?
Then what did you do? What happened next?

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No, I didn't watch dramas then and didn't know the name for it - he was just a "bad boy gone soft" to me :DDD And sadly, nothing happened. He didn't actually do or say anything else that evening, and I was too embarrassed to say anything myself because of all the people around us (my coworkers - I really couldn't make googly eyes with a guy in front of them and I really wished them to disappear into thin air, but sadly they didn't). And we lived in distant towns so next day I went home and that was it. When I came back next year, he didn't work with us anymore and only came to visit at the final party, and there he hugged me again, also without words. And that was the last time I saw him. :) The last I heard, he's married now.

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This sounds to me like Destiny worked out right👍🏼😁 But, helluva story!!!

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You win. 😂

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I can think of 3 tropes that have happened to me:

1. I was nearly truck-of-doomed twice. The first time, I almost got run over by my crush's mother. The second time, while crossing a boulevard, I froze when I saw a car coming at me. I was saved by a guy rushing me out of the way.

2 .I got stranded in the middle of nowhere with my crush.

3. My two previous relationships have both ended because the other person went to study abroad. I'm currently still with #3 but we are in a long distance relationship because... I went to study on the other side of the country.

The study abroad trope is even overused in my life...at least it isn't amnesia.

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What's with your crush's mom trying to run you over when they're still a crush 😂

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It was when I was a kid. She was the mother of one of my first childhood crushes. I believe it was accidental…at least I hope so hahaha

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Oh I forgot to mention one of those crazy coincidences that are so prevalent in dramas that happened to me.

When I was in middle school, I had a huge huge crush on my neighbor. Looking back, it’s embarrassing how obsess I was with him. Anyways, after graduating high school, we both left our hometown and lost touch. 5-6 years later, I was walking home in my new city and who do I cross path with? Ex-neighbor crush! Turns out we were neighbors in that big city as well 😂

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You just need one more coincidental meet up (for 3) and then it’s fated for you to be together!

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Romantic cohabitation hijinks! (Sadly not mine, though)

You see, my best friend crashed with my family during the pandemic and my brother moved back home for a few months.

One would think he had enough time to, you know, notice what a great friend I have had for many years. Nah. But, somehow, living in the same house did the trick. They got married 5 months and 29 days after the relationship started. Zoomed past the break-up and noble idiocy and into the happy ending.

I'm glad it was short, though! Getting your bf as in-law is thrilling, but watching her and your brother being lovey-dovey next to you during breakfast and trying not to spit out your scrambled eggs is not.

My sister and I are debating on renting out the guest room to a pair of single brothers. Maybe it works?

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Aww that's such a cute pandemic story.

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That is so adorable! I wonder how many other pandemic stories there are like this.

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I think I’ve told this story before but anyway - My husband and I were friends for a couple of years before we started dating, so friends to lovers trope is a real thing. One time we were out drinking with friends (before we started going out) and we were deeply engrossed in whatever we were talking about - everyone else left, including one person who left and came back for their jacket and left again - and neither of us noticed a thing 🙈 until they’d been gone for maybe an hour.

It didn’t happen to me personally but a relative of mine had a secret baby - we found out when baby was about 2 months old. It was a situation straight out of a soap opera, pretty awful for his wife who found out at the same time as us (the parents of the baby were both married but not to each other).

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So you know the infamous wrist grab? Yeah, the one that is supposed to send butterflies into your stomach? Because the boy you like actually touched you? That happened to me. Well, he grabbed my hand instead of my wrist. I was meeting him to watch a movie, but got there late and all the seats were taken—why he didn’t buy my ticket should have clued me that he didn’t like me. But he was in the theater and saved a seat beside him. He found me out by the ticket booth, grabbed me and said, “I have a seat, c’mon!” I had no choice but to follow him. We sat down in the very front row just as it started. To this day, that’s the only movie I ever “snuck into” and would have gladly paid if they let me.

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I was also involved in a love triangle with my current husband and had he lost, it would have been in a noona romance. I was interested in a college boy while in med school. We had a million things in common. His mom was Korean! I even met his parents and brother. He played a mean jazz piano. I was smitten. After my husband and I met, and I told him about my half-Korean something-boyfriend (we’d never officially started dating) and he found out everything he could about the other guy and thought he could make me like him better. He did.

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My chaebol stories. I went to a private college on a full scholarship. I didn’t know it then, but it was filled to the brim the chaebols…every last one of them. The boy I dated the longest invited me to his house one day to meet his family. They had a car part facility. I only realized they had money when they showed me their indoor pool with retractable roof. That actually was the beginning of the end for us.

One guy with great hair and the prettiest eyes and a good body invited me to his “boat.” He would come by the Hallmark store I worked at after classes. I was so clueless in college. This guy would eat lunch with me, even when my best friend (also his friend) wouldn’t. I think I said “no” because my mom would have never let me go, not because I didn’t think he was cute. I found out later that his dad was a vice-president of a large discount store chain that everyone knows. And much later that he had a bleeding heart for me. It was after I got married and introduced him to my husband.

Very last one. Are you bored yet? After my husband and I moved back into town, I met the parents of another boy that asked me out in college—he was 2 years younger. And I didn’t even look twice at him—refused his interest at once. I walked by their mansion and his mom was in their fountain fixing something. I struck up a conversation. Figured out I knew her son in college. Turns out that they owned a laminating factory—you know all those laminated placemats and menus you see? Apparently, there’s some money in that. I felt bad it didn’t go on at least one date with him at that point. 😅

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As always, your entire life is interesting. Why do I think you have several more stories to tell?

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I do! My whole family is the dysfunctional, trauma-laden, hate each other, love each other, can’t live together or apart families. I have several stories of parents breaking up their children’s relationships because they didn’t think the other person was worthy to be in the family. (My husband is the exception to the rule because I followed all the rules.)

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There was also the time I went on a date with a married man (it’s a crazy story why he was still married) before I knew he was married, then told my friend about it at the library not knowing he was at the table behind me and heard every single word. He made it a point to walk right by me so I could see him leaving. I came back to the school for an event after graduation and again at the library, I saw him and he made it a point to tell me he was divorced. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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See! You don't disappoint!

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Hahahahah! A chaebol magnet! :')))

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Oh ally, you continue to convince us that you are the cutest and the smartest girl ever! 🥰

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Ally you’re so interesting, i love reading your stories!

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I forgot to mention on the first story. MY HEART WAS RACING. I think it was more because the boy I liked actually touched me and held tightly to my hand more than breaking the rules and worried I’d get in trouble. But it was thrilling either way!

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I just realized I was tagged here!!! I only had the idea because after watching kdramas, I realized how many times crazy tropes had happened to me, as evidenced above. 😂

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1. I had this unrequited love in highschool and found out 15 years later that it was not unrequited at all. The guy confessed that I was his first love and that he tried to reach out after graduating from college. He went to our house mutiple times but my mom never told me. I confronted mom about it but she just shrugged it off and said that she thought he was not the right one for me.

2. I was in a 4-year noona romance with a guy I 'helped' graduate from college but got cheated on and dumped 3 months after he finished school. As I was mending my broken heart, a family friend ahjumma set me up with her son and we hit it off right away. We will be celebrating our 10th year wedding anniversary on July 😊

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How cute, Zora! And congratulations on your upcoming wedding anniversary! I think it means that the ones that you didn't end up with aren't really your person. 🙂

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I agree. Thank you, M! 😊

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These are the good tropes; happy ending included! Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary!

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Thank you 😊

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Ooh, I’ve just remembered the time there was Only One Bed! It was a party at my university flat and some friends from out of town had come. But they hadn’t booked anywhere to sleep! And one of them (a handsome and charming musician) was too drunk and needed somewhere to sleep immediately! And the only available place was my bed! (All other beds in the house being single beds or taken, and the party being ongoing in the living room, and the floor not an option because it was freezing). So we had to share! 😱

He curled up at the foot of the bed like a cat and went to sleep until the morning - no romance, no tension, not even an awkward moment of accidentally touching 😄

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I couldn't help giggle with your emoji. 😱
So how should we call this trope? A bed-cohabitation hijink? Actually, you reminded me of a story that happened to me. I'll post that as a separate comment here.

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LOL romance is out of question with a drunk person anyway why would it even cross anyones mind.

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Because of @beffels's comment, I was reminded of a small accident that happened when I was around 16- being an exchange student in a far away place - Norway.

I think it was in May when the exchange year was about to finish (we needed to fly back in July, I think), so I got the permission to travel a bit from my host parents. One person I was close with was a boy from China. He also lived in a small village in a valley in the middle of the land. As everyone knew how beautiful these inland towns were in Norway during the spring and summer time, I couldn't wait to visit him. His host family's house was beyond words -it was so beautiful with a sun room. The house's roof was also covered with grass to keep the temperature rather appropriate. It was one of the nicest houses I had ever seen in my life.

Now, because I visited him like 5-6 days, I think their host parents thought we were a thing. At first, the host mom suggested we sleep in the same room, but I was a bit shocked I told her I could sleep with her young daughter. 😅 The second time this (kinda happened) was when we decided we would go cycling around the town together (there were only 1,200 town inhabitants) and his host mother suggested we went on a picnic and spent a night together in a self-set up tent somewhere. 😅 It felt so funny at the time, but I kinda got why she was so. Norwegian parents thought of this intimacy thing as something so common for 16-yo people. We talked about it and laughed about it.

Now, just a couple of nights before I had to go home (sighs: it was one of the most beautiful places on earth I have ever seen), we played some game (NORMAL games for 16 yo nerdies) in his room at night and some how he kinda tripped over me AND WE WERE IN THAT POSITION FOR A SPLIT SECOND -eyes met, and we awkwardly laughed about that. As it was almost midnight and everyone was sleeping, we sneaked into the kitchen and he made me a Chinese dish using potatoes and a special Chinese sauce he brought from home.

And yes, he was and perhaps still is a chaebol. It was a good memory. 🙂

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It was already a good story and then the tripping and landing 😂😂😂.

I can’t imagine a parent being that relaxed with me when I was 16! It really is a different outlook on life.

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Tbh, I actually thought people who spoke English as their first language shared this outlook on life! (Watching "Friends" then didn't help correct this misunderstanding). 😅 I learnt much later on that that isn't the case.

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Why does this story sound familiar? Oh, it’s because my sister in law actually dated a chaebol exchange student while I was dating her brother. She got invited to his home in Switzerland to ski with them, and had things gone differently, I’d be the sister in law to the son of the *spooler* corporation.

But wow, Norway, how did you get so lucky?

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The AFS program was quite tough for ones who wanted to go to the States, so my mother suggested going to a place that was safe and beautiful instead. 😅 I loved learning a new language anyway, so we thought the Scandinavian counties were the choices we aimed for. 🙂

But the chaebol's son ended up wasn't the boyfriend material. He reached out to me in my last year of my undergrad study. I just broke up with my ex-boyfriend so I was thinking about giving it a try (he was studying his undergrad in the UK at the time). Then I got a text from his GF accusing me of ruining their relationship.. OMO, and that was the last time we contacted I think. I cut contact with him right then. 😂 He was a nice friend, but that was all about it.

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Woah you guys have some interesting stories to share. My life looks duller than before 😂
But sometimes it's okay if there's no drama or cute chaebol around.

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I’m sure when you look back in your life, there will be drama-worthy moments. I’m old, and my life didn’t seem even remotely interesting while I had those experiences.

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I just read through all the comments and sincerely wished I was old enough to have all this experiences. I've never fallen in love before so it's interesting reading these beautiful stories. I guess when next this topic comes up, the Lord is gonna bless me with my own love story.

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Don’t worry, there’s plenty of time for you! Also, we’re only telling the good stories here 😉

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You're right. Thanks 😊

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I got hit on by someone at work who I had zero interest in. There was something about him that was off. I woke up one morning and realized I was dreading going to work every day. I normally love my job. I sat in bed and prayed, "God, couldn't you make it so he doesn't come to work anymore?"

I found out later that he got arrested that same day. He was sentenced to 10 years for child pornography.

And...I can't think of a single kdrama trope this relates to. Except maybe villains getting their comeuppance?

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I was giving a speech and a guy in the audience couldn’t keep his eyes open. I encountered him later at the event and nicely told him off. He followed me around the rest of the event trying to make it up to me. Turns out he was charming, funny, and wealthy as well as apologetic. After a few months we did start dating. That was 20 years ago. We’re no longer in touch. I’m happily single, and thanks to the Internet I know that he married a guy. 😃

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This isn't exactly a trope, and it happened a long time ago, prior to 3 decades of generally happy married life, (thank heavens), but I had not 1, but 2 women in a row dump me with what I now think of as the fake "noble idiocy" ploy: "I don't want you to cause you pain in the future--I only want what's best for you--so I never want to see you again." Oh, what a sacrifice they were making for my own good!
The second time it happened, I started laughing because she said it exactly like the first one did (even though I was blindsided and at the time quite hurt) and so that's something, at least, in terms of maintaining dignity amidst romantic humiliation.

I tell this story to explain why, whenever noble idiocy occurs as a plot device, I start swearing at the screen. Even though I'm not a vindictive person, I half-wish that the writers of any shows which use this plot twist would personally experience their significant other saying "I'm sorry, but because I love you so much, I'm leaving you now and will never see you again, for your own good" so that they could understand the tears-- of rage that is--that this induces among viewers (or at least this one viewer!)

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Back in my senior year of high school I got dumped that same way. Did someone suggest this in some misguided dating guide somewhere?

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You guys are right and it's funny because it's so shamelessly gaslight-y. But I'm here to kill the mood and point out that until recently (and probably still nowadays in many places) women were raised to avoid confrontation. Especially with men. Saying "I'm doing this for your sake" beats saying "I just don't like you"
And it's safer too, depending on whether dude can take a no.
Not saying that you guys weren't great boyfriends - you probably were! - just saying why I think many girls say that...

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@flyingcolours Of course I knew even then why they were saying it that way--that the impulse was to break things off in a way that would be the least painful for all involved. And unlike the classic romance characters that are never able to forget their first loves, I actually got over the breakups pretty quickly. (I only moped around for 6-7 years or so.)
But I really don't think this is primarily a female breakup line. I think it was (is?) used by a lot of men as well. I know some male acquaintances that used it, though for them it was just to avoid recriminations. And while I've already expressed my (only partially joking) hatred for noble idiocy as it appears in k-dramas--just because it never actually happens in real life, no one ever leaves someone BECAUSE they love them!--I actually think that overall K-Romance writers handle break up scenes in pretty realistic ways, despite, again, the jilted lover characters that are a constant.

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You do have a point about girls being taught to be non-confrontational. But this particular trope involves more than that. It is actually a claim that the girl knows what is best for the guy- and that is deeply disrespectful of the guy's agency. As Hatja noted- it is deeply humiliating and hurtful. I know that I was deeply hurt at the time when it happened to me in high school.
The second time it happened to Hatja, fortunately, he responded with ironic laughter and I am glad that he did as that did indeed preserve his dignity.

The fact is that just as all women are not alike so too all men are not alike also- and yet most of us would appreciate an honest "I just don't like you" or words to that effect rather than gaslighting that treats us like children.

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The idiotic separation happened to me in high school and maybe that is why I reacted differently when it started to happen again in my senior year of college. My girlfriend decided to dump me because she was taking a semester off for an internship that was a four hour's drive away. I refused to take this lying down and actually drove down to see her at the halfway point - she was still not convinced but was impressed. A month after that she had a very difficult situation, and I spent some serious time helping her overcome it. That changed everything- because I was there when her family and friends were not. We have been married for 43 years now.

This is why it pains me to see the way separation tropes are used in dramas: What makes them idiotic is that you can often do something about it. Fate can be fought. Part of what I loved about OUR BELOVED SUMMER is that at the end our cople is separated for a substantial time- but for a good reason and, more importantly, they actively did something about it. This is not always possible for every separation but the fact that doing something about it never even seems to be considered just dives me up a wall.

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Yes, OBS handled forced separation the right way! It was the first time that I was actually happy that they were apart, because they really needed to do the stuff they needed to do on their own before getting together. And their ways of coping with the long distance relationship were extra cute

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In a funny coincidence, I also succeeded with my wife (of 30 years) through persistence and being there at the right time. So I guess that might be kind of romance trope!
She is an athlete, and was playing on several post-college sports clubs, and I started attending her games (after a couple of dates that is--I wouldn't have wanted it to seem like I was stalking her) I recall there was a rival at a few of these games as well (which she now denies!) He, however, was not there at the crucial time, a lacrosse match when she badly twisted her ankle and tore up her knee, and I seized the moment to rush her the hospital and sit with her for about 6 hours in the emergency waiting room. Though it hurt to see her in pain, I consider that the best hospital visit in my life!
(And that even includes the birth of my 2 children, which had a good outcome but was agonizingly long--and you can imagine how my wife felt about that.)

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This is totally a kdrama trope—taking the girl to the hospital and being her “guardian.” The most recent time I remember this is Yumi’s Cells. I’m sure yours was even more adorable!

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You are right- it is a trope. I remember that it was used early on in FIVE CHILDREN. I have seen it in several other dramas as well.

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I've added that to the list of no-watches as well. Thanks @ally-le and @oldawyer for the warnings!

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Oof! Yumi's cells will be one drama we won't be watching together. My wife was just complaining about the arthritis in her knee today. Best to keep that kdrama trope to myself!

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I get what I call "physical dyslexia" when I'm tired or stressed - and I get stressed often in social situations - which makes for countless instances of me very publicly falling on my face/ over other people in the stupidest ways.
I also drop things out of the blue. I've been known to be holding a cup of coffee, taking a double take at it and hastily turning it upside down because for a second I thought that it was upside down.
But my most embarrassing moment was when I was trying to make myself useful at a family celebration at my kids' school. I went to get a whole tray of cups of coffee and when I was trying to reach the table from behind a guy who was sitting at the table, I somehow managed to drop the whole tray of hot coffee on this guys bald head (no harm done). For a moment I felt like the soul left my body👻

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Gah that sounds like nightmare material, thank goodness he wasn’t hurt!

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AOMG Fly Colours, I’m crying-laughing at yur bald guy coffee story!!🤣😂🤣

I know it’s wrong, but it’s such a relief to hear that I’m not the only one with embarrassing stories caused by my clumsiness (among other...things lols)

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This sounds fun, I'll bite.

I was in University (2nd year) and I was minding my own business, walking in the cafeteria to buy food. I heard someone make a sound and saw a guy just staring at me with his mouth wide open. A few seconds later, he even dropped the food on his tray. I reached out my hand to help, but he ran away.

To this day, I remind myself that I was just that beautiful at the cafeteria. As if music and flowers were blooming once he laid eyes on me, but perhaps I'm just exagerrating.

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Are any of these drama tropes? :D
- dated someone who who pretty much turned out to be a chaebol.
- dated someone who initially presented as sweet and loyal but turned out to be a nightmare. (i.e, using my money, having another underaged girlfriend with the guise of protecting her from other guys, made said girlfriend pregnant and made me be there for the abortion). She was barely legal and he was 33.
- emotionally and physically abused.
- fled the relationship by literally running away with just the clothes I could grab
- had a ONS with my superior and ended up in an underground relationship; constantly afraid to be exposed that my career would be over since any career progression must be tied to personal relationships.

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This isn't my story, but I do know someone who's parents lived together to put on a front for their adult son when he would come to visit, rather than admit that they had divorced and were leading separate lives. When he found out, he was extremely hurt. He has since forgiven them, but it was hard for him to do.

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My new appartement is on a rooftop! And I love it, it's actually situated on a mansion in the centre of the city. But sadly the owner isn't the Gamjatang prince. And Im not Dali, but I love herrrrrr and wish I'd studied arts too.

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Death:
Nearly truck of doomed with my sister. That truck really came out of NOWHERE. It was literally like W. If someone tells me that an annoying webtoond writer got sick of us (their characters) and tried to kill us by drawing that truck in a rush, I would believe that person.

Home life:
Abusive dad that doesn't want to get out of/tries to come back to your life (plus, dude plays the victim and cries you a river).
Being poor lol.
Not being able to pay rent (Or I could make a 2x1 and say "typical student that has good grades even when they're family couldn't support them and it's studying for free but doesn't have money to pay the rent in a big city"?).
Living with friends.
Listening/watching my mom crying in secret.
Listening my family talk about me in secret.

Supposed to be romantic?:
Someday I fell in some dude's arms or he saved me from being hit by a car, something l ike that. But I was a kid so I don't think it counts (even tho I'm pretty sure I thought that was a kdrama moment at the time and that we were were destined to be together -maybe kids shouldn't watch kdramas lol-).

Sad:
Forgetting (blocking) mess up stuff that happens to me or that I do.

Once I vented my problems to a homeless dude that was always was around my neightborhood. I literally set by his side and started to talk about my feelings and that man was talking to himself (he didn't pay any attetion to me tbh) and everyone that passed was like "wth are these two freaks doing here talking to themselves" (we were sitting in the middle of the street).

But crying on the bus is the trope of my life, I do that a lot, tbh.
Also going to the playground, sit on the swing and cry.
Or just sit somewhere on the street and cry.
I don't like to cry at home lol.

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You have everything you need to be the heroine in your own drama. That’s what life is, though—we our the leads of our own drama. Here’s to you finding love and happiness, with a good measure of support and wealth too! Just like in our favorite dramas!

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Aww, Ally you're the best. Thank you so much for this comment! I hope the same for you, that your life is full of love, peace and joy!💚

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In my case, it wasn't a Truck of Doom, rather, it was a '64 Impala Super Sport of Doom. On New Year's Eve Eve (December 30) 1970, three of my classmates and I were heading to set up our community youth center for NYE celebration. As we walked across the highway heading towards the center, the Impala of Doom crested a small rise, doing 65+ in a 35 zone and plowed into our group. I was in the lead so I got the worst of it. It knocked me up and I broke his windshield with my head. I then continued flying through the air for another 50 or so feet until I landed in a ditch. He hit two of my classmates with a glancing blow, one broke his lower leg and the other developed phlebitis in her thigh.
We lived 17 miles out in the country, so it took a while for an ambulance to arrive and haul us to the hospital. When we arrived, they carted me to triage, (but I didn't get my IV de jour like in KDrama land) and the doc told my mother that they knew I had a badly broken left leg (it was pointing a few directions, none of them straight), and a head injury. He said that they were concerned about internal injuries, perhaps a fractured skull and/or neck. He then went into the exam room.
An hour later, he comes out of the exam room, shaking his head ominously, and my mother thought the worst.
He told her that he didn't understand it, my only injuries were my fractured leg, a concussion, a cut to my head and a good case of being shaken up.

Back in the day, I got to spend two weeks in the hospital recuperating, they gave me a cast that reached from my toes all the way up my leg, and sent me on my way.

In an ironic twist, the driver that hit me had another wreck a year later, less than a mile from where he hit me, which threw him out of his car and rendered him a quadriplegic.

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Wow! Sounds like you had some supernatural help there. Also, a kdrama trope. Maybe a goblin or God convinced a grim reaper to spare you!

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I have an incomplete trope:
Cut my thumb a few weeks ago, it was deep enough to need stitches and so i went to the clinic myself. Later, i watched a drama where the FL got like a papercut and was fussed over by the ML. I shouted at the screen “where’s my drama hero when i had a bleeding cut??” 😂😩

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Omo! I hope your cut heals fast! I cut myself a year ago and I nearly fainted. 😂 Blood was coming out and it didn’t look like it would stop and I became dizzy and talked to my mother and sister who was about to help me like they were so far away. My sis shouted drink water you were about to faint! So I drank water and I sat and after a glass of some soft drink I became ok. I wouldn’t be able to go to a clinic by myself if the bleeding didn’t stop!

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It happened to me. But blood don't bother me. The cut was very neat but deep. I needed stiches because I couldn't stop the bleeding and it was a Sunday, not many public transports and when you bleed, it's not the best. So I called my parents. My father answered the phone, I explained him the situation and he knew I was totally OK, so he said "I'm watching the football macht, I send you your mum" 🤣 Because I couldn't stop the bleeding, I took the cloth for drying hands in my bathroom to press on the cut. But it was red... My mum thought it was all blood. I had to reassure her. 😅
She took me to emergency and did the paperwork for me 🥰

She came to wash my hair during the week too because I couldn't wet my left hand.

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