Beanie level: Rooftop room dweller

i’m watching alchemy of souls and extraordinary attorney woo! i am also probably going to watch all of ‘in the scoop’ although idk much (or care much) about V but that’s okay; it seems nice.

i actually came on here to check if there are AoS recaps because i know i have paid attn to every episode but idk WHAT the fuck they are talking about sometimes. it is engaging but….not like stellar but actually the story (to me) is more intriguing than the romance. they do have chemistry tho!

i love shin seung ho; he got me to finally finish DP which honestly i fast forwarded through most of the end because THAT SHIT WAS STRESSFUL AS FUCK. but he was really good. won ji an (girl from ep 3) is very hot and so is jung hae in with that fade specifically cos in something in the rain…that wasn’t it.

boring stuff: life is so hard. anyway i moved out of my parents house finally (with one of my best friends and her fucking cat who i irrationally hate), finished editing a feature, got into a fight with said best friend to set boundaries and respect myself, got a second editing gig for a feature for september (same director, we went to film school together!), started to attempt online dating, had a celebration party for my uncle at his studio a year after his death, learned a lot more about science, still getting mad over covid but i have not gotten nor do i plan to get covid even with stupid decision making sometimes, went to a really cool non-religious beautiful wedding in NOLA (AMAZING place!), looked into therapy again, got off more of my meds (woo hoo!)….i’m still american and that’s very sad but what can one do. but i’m still alive. i’m kind of surprised i made it to 30. i’m even more radical than before if u can believe it.

i hope you’re not lonely and staying safe (and cool cos SHIT it is hot). hope you’re doing fabulously right now but if not? it’ll be okay. hang in there the best is yet to come.

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    Amara!! I’m so glad you seem to be doing well even if life is hard AF!! Sounds like your summer has been busy and I hope you get some time to relax every once in a while!

    So good to see you around, seriously it made me smile seeing you here after having a pretty bad day! 💖

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      hi hi hi!!! how are you? what’s been up? i hope things are okay for you because wow the world! sorry for the late reply—swamped and also i’ve been at my parents because my roommate has covid!

      aw i’m glad to hear that i’m sorry you were having a bad day bb 🙁 but i’m glad there was a bright spot

      btw your name reminds me i plan to watch my liberation notes—i take it that you liked it?

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    i haven’t been on db in ages but thought to check back and wow i missed our conversations and you! i’m glad you’re doing well ❤

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racket boys or: i had a really bad childhood and it’s nice when kids don’t or have adults to support them when they need to know they aren’t failures because their own caregivers are trash.

or: i have cried every episode and now i’m on episode 15 and i want to die so i wont be finishing it for a month

or: the best thing ever OR how life should be regardless of your identity. fun and loving and worth it

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i loved the episode. the mom didnt separate herself into parts to make the decision to become a mother—-she did it as young ja..

our choices are never in a vacuum, no, but all of our different identities and wants and responsibilities make up these choices together not individually at the expense of one another. young ja had the strength to know and trust herself and go through all the possibilities. she had space and no pressure but herself. it isnt that she gave up the game because of all the bullshit; she gave it up because it was her time for her.

she made the choice as a woman, a top athlete, a girlfriend, a person. an informed, true, meaningful, honest choice. theres no right way to be a person except your way and she chose to be a mother, a partner, a coach. and she chooses to take responsibility if one of those things mah not pan out the way she wants it to or in a way that isnt working. She chose. she wasnt forced internally or societally the way that is common and she had other options. it shows a sense of self and is good to model to their kids so they can have a healthy sense of their wants and goals and needs and how to handle what comes. and the way she constructs her life as a working mother? a fun work in progress so her kids can have choices too and maybe one day they wont have kids but they probably will because i feel like healthy children probably want to model their healthy upbringing but their parents wouldnt care either way lmao .

theres a point when hae kang tells his dad “well she may have felt it back then” (not regretitng a sexond) and hyun jong goes “and last night when she told me” which destroyed me. repetition and consistency is key and reinforcing and loving and validating repeatedly is not only just great parenting but just maturity. and they say it and show it. young ja telling hyun jong not to ask hae kang, their 16 year old son, too many questions cracked me up. because it’s so much more emotionally mature and unconditionally loving. lowkey couple goals too! no matter what gender but omg theyre just SO CUTE maybe i will get married to a man (i am not getting married i am pretty sure)

Ah yes, abusive childhoods. young parents are the future tho if they choose to be! Maybe not me im flighty but thats why i dont have kids rn. I WISH I GREW UP LIKE THISSSSS

https://www.dramabeans.com/2021/06/racket-boys-episode-3/

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i was 29 less than 2 months ago and now i act like the concept of my 20s is so far away covid has done WONDERS on my understanding of the time-space continuum

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btw re:2125 i am willing to eat my words and concede but i am reacting to the interpretation of what is going onscreen and it being labeled as romance already. i have seen ppl say that it’s more natural in the way that happens all the time. she’s growing up and learning to be a person and experiencing new things like attraction on different levels and it’s easy and confusing and he sees someone and feels a kinship but it most certainly doesn’t have to mean that it’s akin to romance. first of all men and women can be friends and should be allowed to establish that in an ideal world and also feelings of kinship genuinely do not have to turn romantic or even sexual and we shouldn’t devalue other types of love people can share. HOWEVER that’s….not the majority. so. i like that version better because it’s cooler and actually interesting and also…

bc i do have a thing for the trope of like older brother’s best friend thing so the girl has a crush then they get older (NOT AHT HE GOES BACK AND IS LIKE OH I LIKED U GROWING UPC OS THATS SO WEIRD IT’S JUST WEIRDDDDDDD) bc that’s genuinely dream-y and so fucking like…american??? UGH THATS GROSS but i love it so but then on the other hand WHY ON EARTH IS EVERYONE ASKING IF 2125 IS GONNA BE SAD AND END BADLY THEN? it’s ROMANCE and it’s a PANDEMIC please?

im so …this feeling

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we are fickle human beings especially when it comes to media clashing with \”progressive\” values cos the rship of 2125 being pretty much non critiqued online is interesting moreso in terms of the production outside of the power balance issues cos if tae ri was pulling off being an actual high schooler it would be a lot more horrifying (like in goblin. they need tips from each other maybe.)
as it stands since i cant ever not say what i want/am a bitch: it\’s…weird. i\’m not sure if i could ever not judge NJH\’s character over the course. otoh i love himi love her. as in i think they are both hot + them as artistes. i love ~romance~ \”qu**r themes\” (dnt call it that) anarchy + getting over bad experiences so maybe??? but also everyone is talkign abt bad endings and absent dads and shit so?!?!? makjang vibes too? maam…

i actually just came on to say that i am watching racket boys! wanted2 recommend this very unknown show that no one has seen. MC in RB is in 2125. he looks just like jang ki yong and is hot (that is gross 2 say worse now that i\’m 30)
really love the recaps and discussion surrounding it when airing. god it\’s weird being in a pandemic bc i thought this came out in 2019 https://www.dramabeans.com/2021/06/racket-boys-episode-3/

The show demonstrates again how a story can be engaging and fun without any major villains, and having genuinely kind characters does not inherently mean boring. Even In-sol, who gets off on the wrong foot with the boys, is portrayed more as a prickly teen than an outright jerk, and near the end, the show reveals how he enjoys hanging out with friends and being part of a group like anyone else.

human beings suck but we\’re also really amazing. we\’re born with a blank slate and a kindness which is why children are amazing and we love them and it is VERY hard to sustain this train of thought and remember so much that in fiction it\’s hard to conceptualize what a healthy normal life is like even against adversity. it\’s nice to see what life would be like if you had adults and caregivers that cared for you and protected you, listened to you, stood up and modeled for you what a beautiful life can look like, is, how to have friends, hardships, learning to get better and know that losing is ok.

i cant wait to learn more about the couple who decided to not take their lives even though they were intentionally dropped in at a weird time. in a 2125 post ppl called it \”carefree\” and i feel that here. authentic? it takes into account that there\’s a lot of factors into the decisions we have to make but at the core of all of those lies our self and humanity. it\’s not easy but it\’s worth it to keep going. like everything just is and wil continue and to just keep being you

also the main kid being korean-malaysian! that\’s cool

happy new years guys! i mean it\’s almost march but. hey.

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    there has only been ONE (1) drama that has EVER managed to pull of a non absolutely perma-sideye type of suspicion in a romance with a person who is older* Like That and we all know why it’s weird and that’s high school king prove me wrong but you can’t. i mean maybe you can but i have yet to see it. iconic problematic BANGER

    *(and, since it’s not only about a literal number but context that comes with mental and physical changes as you age like your peer groups, schooling, job placement. if this were the US and she were in HS and 18 she’s “legal” but a 23 year old man in her business that is still fucking weird since he either was invited to be in that space or doesn’t need to be there because no 23 year old is willingly hanging out with high schoolers. (i mean we got alcohol from them but that’s why i came out this way so.) contrastly~*~* if i’m 35 and date a 40 year old that’s a completelyyyy diff capacity and our social standings and experiences and 5 years becomes way less of a big deal.)

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      I thought he was 20 in this and she’s 18. So in international age that would be 16 and 18. I’m seeing it so far as friends and at the end of the 4th episode possibly turning into interest, which I’m hoping they don’t act on at this point, because the age/maturity difference is gross.

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        here’s hoping. i will have to bite the bullet i feel like and i think i should be (hmm) decently pleased/surprised but i really do not want to go through them not ending up together in the end because i’m a baby.

        it’s hard to talk about this because it’s so much easier for us to see it as literal numbers then the complexities of like age and space etc. i think school nurse files does a good job of this type of relationship—there’s a pull and there’s no need to know if it’s a literal attraction (sexual, romantic) but we feel the pull. in the time of the drama NJH’s char, as a young adult, could have normal feelings of wanting to get to know someone and feeling a closeness that doesn’t need to be defined by any romantic feelings for her because he doesn’t need that from her at that specific time nor does it cross his mind. does this make sense? even as a young adult we are very in tune with recognizing boundary violations, it’s just that we ignore them and think that ignorance is ok. the frequency in which this trope pops up means that it isn’t going anywhere (which is telling) but it’s also not honoring the real fact that you can find family and friends and those relationships change over time. many can transcend age, gender, experiences but they all look different. it’s a choice to keep the attraction window open from the side of an experienced-at-life person and i find it especially hilarious bc age is such a huge priority esp in korea where it is linguistically embedded in the language thus making one constantly aware of that status. its’ just weird. i’d say that in the US this storyline would work a lot easier if indeed it was 16/18 in the US bc that means they’re still in the same groups. i went to college when i was 17! idk man but im not judging any1 i just wanna clarify

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        i had a really uh colorful childhood and i didnt know a lot of stuff but was exposed to things bc i was vulnerable with a fraught home-life and was growing up. thankfully this has never happened to me but you can’t really throw a girl, a person, very far without hitting someone and them saying they knew countless amount of ppl who have had this experience. the idea that you can’t “control” who you like at a certain age is funny to me since life is all about emotion regulation. also just in general it would be good to see that relationships do change and evolve and he didn’t have to like her the moment she started liking him bc that’s a very real teenage reaction and her first time. just bc he is also suffering odesnt mean her existence is a romantic lifeline so im ???? when i see a comment on MDL like he fell in love with her bc it’s SO WEIRD and also whyyyy would it make the love any less legitimate if he grew to love her in a diff way ? who knows! not me 🙂

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    I loved Racket Boys! Happy New Year! It’s been while.

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      god i had to take a break because it was soooooo much! i can’t believe that dude from RB is here and hes fuckin 20. ugh time for the urn. and it has! how ya been?

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look idk what’s going on here and i try not to look into these idiots personal lives but lmao kim seon ho….there’s something wrong with cis men like fundamentally. we all suck but are they, like, ok? tbh are people in the public eye okay? i barely want to know but now i do and i hope he gets his ass beat. why are men constantly trying to get up in cis women\’s uterus? like? they\’re simply not well.

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    People either defending the guy or trying to downplay what he did and act like she was in the wrong too while making all shorts of assumptions whole also shamelessly lying through their teeth that no one has actually defended him. Anything but believe the victim despite the fact that the guy himself apologized even though there were only vague rumours.

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      EXACTLY. especially because he “couldn’t afford” it. and her age. and he gets to live his life and be in the public eye making more money for something he can’t support? that’s on him. they’re mad he got caught and that it looks, and is, nasty. plus his confirmation. jesus christ this poor woman

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OH AND BTW SO THERE’S THIS TAIWANESE SHOW CALLED LOVE IS SCIENCE AND I SHIT U NOT THEY HAD THIS DUDE WHO IS GAY N IS W A DUDE WHO HAS A CHILD ON THE WAY OK THEY HAD THAT MAN, NOT EVEN THE FATHER, GO INTO THE BABY MAMA’S FUCKING ABORTION APPOINTMENT AND DEMANDED SHE HAVE THAT FUCKING BABY WHEN HE FOUND OUT SOMEHOW IT WAS HIS PARTNER’S BTBICH I HAVE NEVER IN MY LIFE BEEN IN SO MUCH AWE taiwan really be having crazy stories i cannoOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
wait lemme be more specific:
girl (A) has sex w boy (B) i guess theyre too stupid to use protection cos she already had a baby but whatever lemme chill
boy falls in love with [gay — i mention this and will follow up with why] boy (C)
A knows she is pregnant, knows the father is B but she can\’t handle another kid and she\’s also a single effing mom and young
C goes to the hospital with A? for some reason idk the subs weren\’t there and also the reason is that they needed it for this stupid story
A is, of course, having second thoughts about her abortion so they can justify that when C, miraculously somehow form her phone? finds out that the clump of cells in A\’s body is B\’s sperm
then C walks into the room when this bitch\’s legs are spread wide, she\’s having a hard time bc it\’s just a TOUGH PROCEDURE AND THING TO DO IN GENERAL FOR WOMEN/PPL WITH REPRO SYSTEMS SO LIKE then he demands that A not get an abortion. he literally demands it. i mean there was no subs but what else am i supposed to infer when this fuckin idiot walks into the fucking room when this girl is TRYING OT GET AN ABORTION AND MAKES HER KEEP IT?!?!?!??! i mention being gay because that’s why our identities can only take us so far in how we act. he took his cis male-ness and used that but now i’m supposed to be sympathetic that people judge him? are you effing kidding me? i heard abt this bc of the ~BL~ but i was like lemme just see and when i realized that which btw was because of the context of another scene and i was like wait wait wait wait it’s not possible for what i think is happening to be happening

it was. oh man. o-gsjhi0uaisfhoijpok[g. turned that shit off. wrote angry comments. i would have looked that nigga dead in the eye and gone on with it even if i wanted that fucking baby. like no. it’s over. that’s done.the baby is canceled get the fUCK out of this room and OUT of my goddamn fucking vagina like bitch i will kill u

in the series because of you this woman told her rich abusive ex he’s garbage, left him, didn’t talk to him until she was dying, then calls him up to say she hates him essentially and i believe he believes that bc she (iirc) was pregnant that her son is his.

so here he is searching for this son and she aint even tell him it doesn’t exist. i’m dead srs he only finds out bc he tries to find his “son” and i think she wrote him a letter like LMAO SIKE U DUMB BITCH IT’S GONE I WILL NEVER KEEP ANYTHING OF U IN MY BODY. that’s some fucking BOSS BITCH MOVES. she said i don’t want u, ur sperm, ur likeness, ur energy in me so goodbye and she aint even let him know she died knowing that she did it and that was enough. it’s beautiful.

i would hvae gotten that abortion right then and there even if i wanted it like oh word? bye bye baby and watch me get it too

LIKE?!?!?

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    ooh wait i think she knew iirc she deliberately called him up so he could be suspicious and search then find out after she died LMAO. oh my god the bad bitch behaviorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

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    C’s point was.. B can’t have child with me.. so why not let A deliver 😀

    Mostly gay shows are stupid..unless coming from China..or some acclaimed driector

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    My reaction mostly, I was SO FUCKING ANGRY

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      omg hello hello please have u been keeping up? i had to stop after that i cannot believe the fucking gall and this kim seon ho thing like lmao a perfect example of this shit IRL leave them ALONE you PSYCHOS

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      im still in shock and so little people talk about it? it’s so fucking nasty esp in places where people CAN get abortions like. also her reticence really pissed me off because i KNEW someone would fucking intervene i knew it

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        You can’t get an abortion, you have to be an incubation chamber for me – the father’s gay boyfriend – when the father doesn’t even know about it. “Oh thank you,” she says, “now there is a purpose to me risking my life in childbirth so I can breed for you”.

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        He literally says, “I will be a father to this baby” as though the only reason she could possibly consider an abortion is that there was no man involved and now that problem was solved everything was a’okay.

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          LMAOOOOOOO

          im SO GLAD the baby NO ONE knew was the father could have been saved

          You can’t get an abortion, you have to be an incubation chamber for me – the father’s gay boyfriend – when the father doesn’t even know about it. “Oh thank you,” she says, “now there is a purpose to me risking my life in childbirth so I can breed for you”.

          i literally cannot this is lit what they fucking said. when she ALREADY has a baby. and she HAS TO KEEP IT FOR THEM? lmaoooo im honestly confused how anyone thought it was ok. so glad they can have a baby easily without the haaasssleee of adoption

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            BTW the woman in Love is Science doesn’t have a baby. In fact, she has some kind of gynaecological condition where she thought she couldn’t have children and it was quite unexpected for her to get pregnant at all.

            So I was expecting the plotline to be her deciding she wanted to keep the baby because she she may not get another chance and letting the father know and that being the source of conflict. Instead they turned it into this awful pro-abortion plotline where an unrelated gay man forcibly removes her from the surgical room to breed for him.

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            oh wait i thought she already had a kid? idk wtf i watched….or inferred

            i guess im dumb. so this is worse than i expected. wow wow wowwwww WOW

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            how nice she got her dream of getting pregnant by accident then had her mind up for her ^______^

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            Sorry anti-abortion plotline. My fingers got confused in my fury.

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i cannot tell u how dumb america and this world are but u must know. crew workers might go on strike here. a thing called IATSE is a union for below the line workers (what we are called) that’s from production to post so everyone that is not the “talent” or director or DP essentially. for corona they extended the hours to be “safe” and may have changed the pay but it’s been fucking laborious and they are again putting us in danger and trying to skirt union rules. even for editors those are speaking up because of the turmoil and the work.

people don’t know HOW MUCH goes into this and fuck the rich. i say all this because the kdramas we watch would be NOTHING without the crew absolutely nothing. they deserve everything and more. i wanna watch squid game simply because of the set-up. without us they cannot function and that’s why gorgeous work is there NOT because of the rest. all those things you see, that amazing trailer? thats someone’s fucking work that people don’t have a name for. so respect us pleaseeeeeeeeeeee

anyway what else have u been watching? i watch a lot of leftists on youtube and uh nothing else. well that’s not true lmao i watched some BL (bad) and rewatched inspector jo and cried but i refuse to watch the last ep bc i fucking love that show sfm. rewatched HSK and cried. watched a bunch of eng youtube like i said. uhhhhhhhhhhhh hm

oh. i watched strong woman do bong soon again and let me fuckin tell u the chemistry bettween them is absolutely not enough for how disgusting that fucking show is

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    All power to the workers. They deserve so much better and it’s appalling how most countries treat them.

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      YES AND THANK YOU. so many people don’t understand what is going on and are judgemental about it. it’s so hard. we’ve also lost tons of jobs in this industry like others. but it means a lot to hear people even think about solidarity and support. ~we all deserve to live with dignity~*~*~**~ lmao

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me looking at namgoong il even tho i don\’t perceive him: damn daddy u fine as hell i hope yr wallet got condoms in it (cardi b, proverbs)

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    i mean i’m the age that he likes soooooooooooooooooooooooooo. hey.

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the people we are moving in with or might potentially are like….fancy in a way we arent cos we\’re broke like i\’m bougie and love luxury but i also decided to go into the stupidest career choice and have debt im never paying off (im not worried abt that cos it\’s like whatever atp lmao who cares abt student loan debt yea my loans are the size of a house oh well the government will deal) so 1k/mo out of my current salary is ridiculous out of the question but if there\’s for people in one apt there is 0 reason why 1k/m is reasonable idc what city it is lmao like what the fuck? plus i\’m ot tryna live in a non-diverse area. i\’m seriously thinking of harlem

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    You’ve reminded me of a room hunting in NYC😭 I’ve finished on Church Avenue in Brooklyn in a really bad room big as a little closet for 600 a month 🤯 with mice keeping me a company. But at least I had a roof over my head for two months where I’ve been feeling safe.

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      just saw this omg im sorry! long time no talk i hope ur doing well. i am glad you moved out but holy shit. if you’re still in the area i hope ur ok from the floods? it’s been so bad. the housing here…

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        It was in 2004🤣. I was there on J1 visa – work and travel, although I didn’t travel but deplaced myself 😉. I love NYC but I prefer South America to Northern one – people are different, much closer to my nature. We had kind of dry summer in here although it was mainly cloudy with mild temperatures. I don’t like heat so it was a good summer for me. Did you find your place? How are you adjusting to NY?

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          have you moved to south america? i wanna visit so bad there’s so much culture and history. i want to go to brazil, colombia, guyana, and trinidad the most because that’s where a lot of my ppl are (lmao black ppl/africans) and i WISH I WISH I WISH i spoke portuguese. also i know a bit about SA politics bc i watch this youtuber badempanada and he does (leftist) videos and stuff and lives in argentina. he has a real love for that region which i think is interesting.

          i haven’t found it yet! my best friend and i are going to move and she’s worried about money. in the US my unemployment was taken away (pandemic unemployment) because those who weren’t viable for it before got it for the pandemic and then, even though the pandemic is sitll here, they were like “sike since ur freelancers we’re taking it back now” so i have some money saved but i’m looking for jobs in my area and she wants to be a bit more steady. i’m more optimistic that we can find a place although so much has change, u no?

          also re:summer i wish it wasnt an indication of global warming. i CANNOT STAND the heat lmaooooo how hot did it get? here our highest was like 103 but we have so many heat waves then rain.

          ok that was long and u probs dont care that much but sry my brain goes so fast

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            It wasn’t that long! I’m glad that everything is almost fine with you. I’m living in Brittany, France now. I did travel through Patagonia for 3 months 11 years ago – time flies so fast. 😂 Yeah, summer in NY especially in NJ is terrible. When I first came to Newark airport I thought I couldn’t breathe because of the heat and no breeze. I wasn’t far from a panic attack, it took my brain a while to reprogram itself to that weather. I hope all will go well for you although the beginnings are so tough. 🤞

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ironically my real life is getting better but my emotional life? lmao. anyways so finding an apt in NYC is awful and i was having such a hard time on these websites. nyc is no longer the most expensive city it’s just up there with all the rest atp. sf, la, boston, dc and i’m sure tx will get up there. hawaii is actually the most expensive place to live period. when i lived in london though i was paying for some old old houses and shit my last place, though needed cleaning, was my fav. i lived in a split level house with 3 other people in the property. we were in the basement, we had a backyard, i had a huge window in my room and i lived with 4 ppl (5 at some point) there was a second bathroom and 2 bedrooms at the top. now like……..modernity wise it wasnt perfect bc mold and england and landlords are trash. but i LOVED that place so fucking much, it was big and so convenient in the shouth which i loved bc diversity. but i never paid more than 900 USD a month to live in my places in LONDON so i was like i KNOW this is ridic. my cousin and his wife live in fucking harlem, have a dog, and a baby on the way and pay like 2.5k/mo for their place there’s nO FUCKING WAY that every single place im looking is this atrocious like i know. and then….i found it. as expected, my senses were right. i am not being shown things at all and the filters are BAD. google google and saw this and thankfuckinggod so it can be helpful and i can figure out a fucking place we can go bc my god. fuck capitalism man

https://cityobservatory.org/a-field-guide-to-median-rent-statistics-contd/

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    It’s hard isn’t it? Keep looking though something unexpected might turn up. There were some polish newspapers and website were it was easier to spot something cheaper and still decent but it was in 2004😂

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    so the two of them have obviously liked each other for a long time. trash confesses in ep 11 and gives his reasons why. i get why, though it is a bit overdone in terms of narrative, but it makes sense. regardless of a reason it would have made sense because that’s what happens sometimes when you like someone. no one is obligated to hold on and to answer but it’s very very very clear that everything we saw was cemented through the conversations in the rest of the episode. him being confused about their feelings for each other but not being able to push her away. the reason we like them sm is because of their feelings and interactions.

    i found it odd that when hai tai was like “hey i like date rape all of a sudden” that was funny in the recaps and within the drama sphere but not alarming. on the other hand, trash being spurred on by a “rival” who is not a rival at all is also…normal. people are weird. it’s obvious they like each other. i saw that people were saying that they built chilbong up and made us connect with him to the detriment of trash. i cannot see how. chilbong is there as an extra boarder, a friend, and in the ensemble cast as the ensemble. but his life centers around her instead of the others. we see from her POV so the less she is in contact with him, the less he is shown since she is HIS STORY for a dumb reason

    and we dont get growth and we NEVER see her return feelings and i think that’s important because….in a lot of these shows they dont and the second lead goes full steam ahead. and it’s just like….what is a girl supposed to fucking do? everyone is allowed to pine but it depends on who the audience wants to see do it and the reasons behind it. if cb wasn’t super good looking maybe it would have turned out differently idk but the point is that through the process it seems like what najung wants and does doesnt matter and is at the whim of men supposedly when every step of the way it’s mostly her doing what she wants. trash isn’t an oppressive figure and we seeeee consistently his respect for her. my fav part is when she gets extremely upset at him insinuating she should stay at home and work bc that was realistic and it is painful and a ping to your pride if you are the type of girl who studied hard and stood on her own feet just to not do things she wants to do bc of an econ crisis u kno

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      he wasn’t doing it to be misogynist or patriarchal (for the most part—he didn’t think before about how insulting that would be and how that would make her feel because he was putting their finances and stability first albeit his mind is clouded by how a man grows up bc…socialization) and then when he tells her he can stay at home, it doesn’t matter who as long as they’re ok….i was so happy. my fav parts of the rship and the show is that they are true people. the whole condom fiasco was HILARIOUS and it made me glad that they didnt demonize it.

      soooo the date rape thing was a shitty thing, the double date and the girl is “Fat and ugly” i hated. and the one time that i think there was too much of a rush—though this is also cultural and listne sorry i just can’t get it. it’s the same with a lot of countries in the global south and kind of the same for nigerians but i just refuse to rush ever and idek if im getting married lmao i just want a longterm mans—and he was insecure about not seeing her. that i think was stupid just in a life course way, in a why the fuck are you so insecure way (and he can be! it makes sense! she was extremely upset when he moved for that reason; she also gets jealous) but i was glad still esp bc she wnated him to propose as seen by his horrific previous gift bc he cares abt her back

      another thing….their issues arose and it was never because of outsiders. long distance is hard she was in fucking australia, he’s dong doctor shit as an internship, the economy is upside fucking down and there’s om uch shit happening. life got in the way—it became more important to live their lives separately which is good and great i love the time they spend apart because that’s, again, life and it’s good to be your own person (the best part about them, too!) and that struggle.

      i’ve been watching most of it in whole scenes as opposed to skipping around like i suu do when i wanna see my friends but quickly. i keep forgetting what a deep world that was created. i don’t um love these writers i guess but the cast and crew knocked it out of the park. r94 to me is by far the best and a great decision. and their chemistry was amazing but what makes me even happier is that they had a good time and were friends while working. we can believe they love each other and have the capacity to IRL, but it’s so wonderful when you can do your craft and be this other person who can be in love but IRL you make your choices. that’s how it should be imo and less people should date on shoots I M O

      this is truly go ara’s best perfomance and i fucking WISH I WISH SOOOOO BADLY she will get someone that brings out more in her like with this show and jung woo….sigh

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anyway so i\’ve been watching things (nothing new) obvs i wanna see DAYS cos those are my bitches. i have been rooting for them since day one. i love SIG (and im glad he and his gf broke up shes a lil 2 yung) and i love his spirit and what he chooses AND i love how he didnt go to the army. I LOVE DRAFT DODGERS 😉

but yea he and PBY….me and a friend of mine literally were fancasting bc HSK and OMG had come out around hte same time (made by the same person too) and we were like WHAT IF: TOGETHER. because im dealing with grief tho and lmao cancer (5 ppl on my dad\’s side had it including dad, one on my mom\’s side……..so yea we have to get gene testing isnt that nice) it\’s a lot.

i have been rewatching r94. now that was 8 years ago. let me tell you abt me as a wee lass-slash-adult….i realize i don\’t have to give a shit what people think about my thoughts but it doesnt invalidate them. back in 2013 i was like \”what if i\’m wrong? why do i love this show?\” and going back through the recaps…
1. the show was good; it was slice of life and always focused on na-jung. r97 had a major pitfall imo when sig\’s char is pining after her for literally like most of the show and htey get ~3 eps together and it seemed very reluctant at times (they had chemistry and they kissed cutely remember when ppl freaked out cos eunji was like…ive kissed someone b4 like duh? lmao but i mean combatively between them) and yelled so. the show also had a major flaw in the loveline with the useless brother. so that show is actually, to me, less enjoyable. because r88 was a clusterfuck imo i stay away
2. going through the recaps you would think trash fucking murdered someone like holy shit the love for chilbong was (is?) astronomical but he isn\’t anything, she doesn\’t like him like….at all. and he\’s annoying. typical second lead—not quite sure how people had fallen so fast
3. i don\’t think a lot of people have had a crush or been in relationships
4. just like…not understanding production
but most importantly
#5
to make myself feel better im rewatching and i love najung and trash my lil babies my otp 4evah<3 so to see the comments in the recaps is hilarious. people were so fucking sure and at the time i was terrified (that\'s one o fmy few complaints the possibility of what if it could change but it wouldnt have bc…she loves trash) and it\'s hilarious to see all the like intense dislike and protection over chilbong but not paying attn to the show or who na jung likes or wants in her life. na jung\'s character\'s romance didn\'t become central to the plot at the expense of the writing (imo) because that\'s….the point of the show. slice of life and loving is part of it. that\'s what 97 and 88 are based on as well. confused about that but regardless it\'s just hilarious to read back cos people were mad mad and they were like if they end up togehter ill hate it! well bitch they did LMAO shoulda known back from ep 1 I LOVE IT HAHAHHAHAHHAH it\'s so fucking funny. my god

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