I was very moved by this Saturday’s episode of Dr. Slump.
1) I want to kill that Kyung-min, I hate him so much.
Include Rejection Sensitivity – which here, as often, is based on a mixture of past experience of being excluded, and the experience of not being good at figuring out what is happening between people. And maybe, on top of that, some kind of genetic disposition.
So it is easy to become even more insecure when you experience that someone you trusted, based on many small things, where actually never trustworthy.
How can you ever trust your own guts again after that?
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2) I have been defending Ha-neul’s friend, and I hope that friend will be defendable later again, but that summary she gave Ha-neul’s mum was so extremely dumb – she herself was in the middle of what happened, so how can she not explain that better?
3) This jealousy, of course, is k-drama banal, but also, fun.
See! I can go from ”lump in throat” to ”silly giggles” in no time; Why shouldn’t the drama be allowed to that?
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If any gifs happen to me in ep. 10, they will appear in this post, too.
What he did to isolate her and build her up to her face then lie to everyone else was outrageous. He was so horrible to both the leads I can’t believe no one else picked up on his underhand ways. It wasn’t hard for him to look good on the surface though when the other professor candidates/professors all seemed to be out of order. Yet all the other staff could see their lack of skill of the one she was working under e.g. the VIP operation where he struggled to even do the basics.
I mean, there are more than one kind of toxic relationships, but this is standard: Taking in, isolating, “no one else likes you”, building up for some time before testing the ground for abuse, and then promoting a feeling of “you should be thankful I put up with you”.
Which of course also explains why he couldn’t leave it alone to tell those at the job she was seeking how a troublesome person she allegedly was.
I can understand from that logic that isolating Honey-sik also was important, but I think he has more reason … maybe just envy, but the point is, he was definitely involved in the “accident”.
Stopping her getting the next job was outrageous and the telling off from Jeongwoo and her public shaming with the water was not nearly enough for putting things right but they are both limited in their power of influence in those circles.
@ceciliedk Drink throwing of any kind would not be enough for the situation.
I recently watched Miseang where a senior manager threw hot coffee at a junior female member of staff . He then told off the junior male colleague who jumped in front of her and got scalded instead.
It was the female professor so told someone to pass her bag so she could leave, clearly part of the I am siding with the boys in this one so my tenuous position can be strengthened.
I don’t really see genders. I mean, sure, I’m more likely to recognise the obvious cues and gender someone properly the first time, but I don’t strongly associate with one gender more than another. So, I always think in terms of a person putting another person down to follow a traditional, outdated, and inaccurate social hierarchy (rather in patriarchy terms). Not that the women vs men angle wouldn’t be accurate. I just don’t relate to it, if it makes sense.
Yet, being actively socially awkward (if there was an university for social awkwardness and complete inability to take social cues, I’d have graduated with honours) I tend scream inwardly when it’s an obvious case of social injustice as here. I’d have loved to land a punch on some faces, fully regardless of their gender.
That was a horror scenario indeed! “Someone hand her her bag.” The Rage!!!
As much as it might be a competitive environment, such a bunch of people ending up in a “toxic cocktail”, everyone just concerned about their own career advancement – unbelievable there wasn’t one person showing empathy or even wanting to hear both sides of the story. Just 🤢🤮
@ceciliedk The snaky 🐍 GIF is spot on! *chef’s kiss*
I normally check an hour earlier than the usual drop time on the second day in the hope it will be available. Every week I do pointless refreshing at least once each day😆
Anecdote: My husband watched episode 9 while I was at work. Typically, when he watches ahead of me (the man has no patience), he is like: I watched it and like nothing significant happened, and I, of course, roll my eyes and tell him off that I didn’t ask for his opinion.
Yesterday, he went: I can watch this episode again with you.
Jaw, meet floor.
Then: Should I tell you what happened?
Me: Do you want to die (something to that effect)
Him: OK then, make me that nice masala tea that only you can make…..
Arrgghh!!! I had to supply him with many masala tea cups to bribe him.
And, when that last scene rolled, for the first time, he didn’t make fun of me because I was bawling. I think a tear rolled there too, not that he would ever accept, ha!
4) Imagine you have a straight A daughter, and you just think: “This one is doing just fine!”, and you can’t help but be proud, too. And then you find out she is having a depression, and you don’t know how it started or if it will ever truly stop.
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Your first gif is very on-point. It enlightens me.
It gave me a clear look into parts of my life when I experienced what the FL was going through. Can you believe it that it is so hard for some people, like me, to notice what is going on, and that they are actually being, what you called, taken in, isolated, shamed, and manipulated? Your GIF illustrates that so clearly with the snakes.
So for that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
It also came at the right time. I think I needed this. The timing couldn’t be more cunningly right.
The show has been delightful so far. I have so many thoughts on my mind that I may want to share after it finishes airing. In the meantime, Ill come here often and check your gif game.
Hugs, mmmmm.
You are definitely not alone – that’s why the drama, and I, could describe it so easily. Being manipulated in a relationship, whether romantic or professional, often happen this way. And neurodiverse people (at least, people with ADHD or on the spectrum) have a greater risk to have that happen to them, based on a spiral of difficulties with social cues – incidences of isolation based simply on other people expecting neurotypical behaviour, – insecurity and the knowledge that there may be something you haven’t noticed in your current social circles – and thankfulness if someone propose to actually know what is going on, and to help you. It makes me sad and angry just to write this down.
I hope you will feel better soon, mmmmm. ❤️ If it feels tough, it’s because it is.
@mmmmm It’s not easy to open up to anyone, and the fact that it resonates enough for us to open up even a little feels enormous. Thank you for sharing some of your inner conflicts. I would love to read more whenever you are ready to share more about thoughts on the show.
I am surprised at how cleverly crafted it is. Can’t wait to see the 10th, and of course hoping that ‘kiss’ is finally worth all the wait hehehe!
Thanks, emsel. I removed them from my life completely. Reading this post made it easier for me to see what was going on back then (or now, to a certain extent), and I feel like I can deal with it better because now I understand such situation much better.
I applaud the visual context you have put in to explain the depth of the post, but on a lighter note, your first gif cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣 The snake coming out of Kyung Min and wrapping itself around an innocent prey like Ha Neul is LOL 🤣🤣🤣 Remarkable! 👏👏👏
Slump ep. 10: Love and War
This horrible person, someone who actually understood our FL, and used his understanding to step on her, get his career and ruin hers; I thought we all might need to see him get what for, in a loop:
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To be or not to be
Sometimes one needs to be told that “to be or not to be” is not “to be a successful doctor or to be nothing”. The alternative to your professional dream still includes living, and if you are lucky, even loving.
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May I say that your first gif here is very satisfying to watch. You’re right in that I am very satisfied I can watch this in loops. He deserves that. In loops.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 4:57 AM
I was very moved by this Saturday’s episode of Dr. Slump.
1) I want to kill that Kyung-min, I hate him so much.
Include Rejection Sensitivity – which here, as often, is based on a mixture of past experience of being excluded, and the experience of not being good at figuring out what is happening between people. And maybe, on top of that, some kind of genetic disposition.
So it is easy to become even more insecure when you experience that someone you trusted, based on many small things, where actually never trustworthy.
How can you ever trust your own guts again after that?
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2) I have been defending Ha-neul’s friend, and I hope that friend will be defendable later again, but that summary she gave Ha-neul’s mum was so extremely dumb – she herself was in the middle of what happened, so how can she not explain that better?
3) This jealousy, of course, is k-drama banal, but also, fun.
See! I can go from ”lump in throat” to ”silly giggles” in no time; Why shouldn’t the drama be allowed to that?
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If any gifs happen to me in ep. 10, they will appear in this post, too.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:07 AM
What he did to isolate her and build her up to her face then lie to everyone else was outrageous. He was so horrible to both the leads I can’t believe no one else picked up on his underhand ways. It wasn’t hard for him to look good on the surface though when the other professor candidates/professors all seemed to be out of order. Yet all the other staff could see their lack of skill of the one she was working under e.g. the VIP operation where he struggled to even do the basics.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 5:09 AM
Yes, he was doing all the basics of toxic relationships and then adding being no good at his job.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 5:15 AM
I mean, there are more than one kind of toxic relationships, but this is standard: Taking in, isolating, “no one else likes you”, building up for some time before testing the ground for abuse, and then promoting a feeling of “you should be thankful I put up with you”.
Which of course also explains why he couldn’t leave it alone to tell those at the job she was seeking how a troublesome person she allegedly was.
I can understand from that logic that isolating Honey-sik also was important, but I think he has more reason … maybe just envy, but the point is, he was definitely involved in the “accident”.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:24 AM
Stopping her getting the next job was outrageous and the telling off from Jeongwoo and her public shaming with the water was not nearly enough for putting things right but they are both limited in their power of influence in those circles.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 5:36 AM
Not even though the water was beer.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 6:20 AM
@ceciliedk Drink throwing of any kind would not be enough for the situation.
I recently watched Miseang where a senior manager threw hot coffee at a junior female member of staff . He then told off the junior male colleague who jumped in front of her and got scalded instead.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:08 AM
It was so sad to watch all the professors band together and immediately trust the word of a soon to be professor.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 5:17 AM
It was a male+neurotypical thing, too.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:19 AM
It was the female professor so told someone to pass her bag so she could leave, clearly part of the I am siding with the boys in this one so my tenuous position can be strengthened.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:20 AM
*who
emsel
February 26, 2024 at 12:26 AM
More than the two males, it was this female who annoyed the heck out of me. Woman putting other woman down and bowing down to male heirarchy 😡
Cecee
February 26, 2024 at 10:01 AM
I don’t really see genders. I mean, sure, I’m more likely to recognise the obvious cues and gender someone properly the first time, but I don’t strongly associate with one gender more than another. So, I always think in terms of a person putting another person down to follow a traditional, outdated, and inaccurate social hierarchy (rather in patriarchy terms). Not that the women vs men angle wouldn’t be accurate. I just don’t relate to it, if it makes sense.
Yet, being actively socially awkward (if there was an university for social awkwardness and complete inability to take social cues, I’d have graduated with honours) I tend scream inwardly when it’s an obvious case of social injustice as here. I’d have loved to land a punch on some faces, fully regardless of their gender.
mmmmm
February 26, 2024 at 10:46 AM
I’d have loved it if the ML had punched that Kyung-min more than once. I want him to punch KM like 10 times more. At least.
Cecee
February 26, 2024 at 10:50 AM
@mmmmm 10 times would be the bare minimum in his case. I’ve been wanting to punch him for a few episodes!
mmmmm
February 26, 2024 at 10:58 AM
@darkcc and to see that such vermin has people around him praising and pleasing him knowing what he did to HN is just *inserts bad words*.
What isn’t funny is that this really happens irl.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 26, 2024 at 1:17 PM
Feel free to watch the looped gif to your hearts content, with that guy getting punched one time, and one more time, again and again.
You’re welcome!
sonai
February 25, 2024 at 5:32 AM
That was a horror scenario indeed! “Someone hand her her bag.” The Rage!!!
As much as it might be a competitive environment, such a bunch of people ending up in a “toxic cocktail”, everyone just concerned about their own career advancement – unbelievable there wasn’t one person showing empathy or even wanting to hear both sides of the story. Just 🤢🤮
@ceciliedk The snaky 🐍 GIF is spot on! *chef’s kiss*
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:56 AM
The dramas that have me shouting at the screen are usually these true to life ones 😡
Minnie🫘👩🏻🚀Pioneer and Teacher 👩🏻🏫🌱🏹
February 25, 2024 at 5:30 AM
I cried. I has tears rolling down and it wasn’t just in one scene.
Just a simple sentence – Can I wait for you?
I absolutely love the mother. What an incredible actress she is…..the way she speaks to her daughter….game me goosebumps.
I cannot remember a series that made me laugh and cry at the same time within span of minutes.
And that last scene…..it hit me so hard. How they instinctively now what will work for the other……
It’s probably one of the most beautiful episode I have seen in a very long time (a couple of episodes in My Dearest came close).
My husband has checked three times already if the 10th episode has uploaded. He is cracking me up!
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 5:38 AM
I am glad I am not alone in having a lot of feelings about this.
Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
February 25, 2024 at 5:55 AM
I normally check an hour earlier than the usual drop time on the second day in the hope it will be available. Every week I do pointless refreshing at least once each day😆
Seon-ha
February 25, 2024 at 6:08 AM
Sitting here right now, pointlessly refreshing.
I cried hopeless tears at the conversation between mother and daughter at the jokbal restaurant. Just hopeless.
And, I then actually laughed out loud at Lambada’s rush to the potty. That actor cracks me up, and I don’t mind annoying brothers 😛
I knew what was coming at the end from Minnie’s WWW comment (even though you said nothing; it was clear…) but I still got all choked up.
Minnie🫘👩🏻🚀Pioneer and Teacher 👩🏻🏫🌱🏹
February 25, 2024 at 7:54 AM
Pointlessly refreshing hehehe!
Anecdote: My husband watched episode 9 while I was at work. Typically, when he watches ahead of me (the man has no patience), he is like: I watched it and like nothing significant happened, and I, of course, roll my eyes and tell him off that I didn’t ask for his opinion.
Yesterday, he went: I can watch this episode again with you.
Jaw, meet floor.
Then: Should I tell you what happened?
Me: Do you want to die (something to that effect)
Him: OK then, make me that nice masala tea that only you can make…..
Arrgghh!!! I had to supply him with many masala tea cups to bribe him.
And, when that last scene rolled, for the first time, he didn’t make fun of me because I was bawling. I think a tear rolled there too, not that he would ever accept, ha!
bbstl 🧹
February 25, 2024 at 8:20 AM
That is a great story! Too cute!
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 6:25 AM
4) Imagine you have a straight A daughter, and you just think: “This one is doing just fine!”, and you can’t help but be proud, too. And then you find out she is having a depression, and you don’t know how it started or if it will ever truly stop.
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mmmmm
February 25, 2024 at 6:41 AM
😭
mmmmm
February 25, 2024 at 6:34 AM
Your first gif is very on-point. It enlightens me.
It gave me a clear look into parts of my life when I experienced what the FL was going through. Can you believe it that it is so hard for some people, like me, to notice what is going on, and that they are actually being, what you called, taken in, isolated, shamed, and manipulated? Your GIF illustrates that so clearly with the snakes.
So for that, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
It also came at the right time. I think I needed this. The timing couldn’t be more cunningly right.
The show has been delightful so far. I have so many thoughts on my mind that I may want to share after it finishes airing. In the meantime, Ill come here often and check your gif game.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 6:49 AM
Hugs, mmmmm.
You are definitely not alone – that’s why the drama, and I, could describe it so easily. Being manipulated in a relationship, whether romantic or professional, often happen this way. And neurodiverse people (at least, people with ADHD or on the spectrum) have a greater risk to have that happen to them, based on a spiral of difficulties with social cues – incidences of isolation based simply on other people expecting neurotypical behaviour, – insecurity and the knowledge that there may be something you haven’t noticed in your current social circles – and thankfulness if someone propose to actually know what is going on, and to help you. It makes me sad and angry just to write this down.
I hope you will feel better soon, mmmmm. ❤️ If it feels tough, it’s because it is.
mmmmm
February 25, 2024 at 7:18 AM
*hugs back* Thanks, Cecelia.
And the new ep is just out in my region! I refreshed it like 3 times before the new ep is finally up. 😂
Minnie🫘👩🏻🚀Pioneer and Teacher 👩🏻🏫🌱🏹
February 25, 2024 at 9:40 AM
lol! I am sure the server went down, lol! My friend texted me it wasn’t loading.
mmmmm
February 25, 2024 at 9:45 AM
😂 It is a really good show.
Minnie🫘👩🏻🚀Pioneer and Teacher 👩🏻🏫🌱🏹
February 25, 2024 at 10:06 AM
@mmmmm It’s not easy to open up to anyone, and the fact that it resonates enough for us to open up even a little feels enormous. Thank you for sharing some of your inner conflicts. I would love to read more whenever you are ready to share more about thoughts on the show.
I am surprised at how cleverly crafted it is. Can’t wait to see the 10th, and of course hoping that ‘kiss’ is finally worth all the wait hehehe!
emsel
February 26, 2024 at 12:36 AM
@mmmmm I hope you have removed yourself from such horrendous people and are surrounded by good people. Hugs!
mmmmm
February 26, 2024 at 1:00 AM
Thanks, emsel. I removed them from my life completely. Reading this post made it easier for me to see what was going on back then (or now, to a certain extent), and I feel like I can deal with it better because now I understand such situation much better.
Minnie🫘👩🏻🚀Pioneer and Teacher 👩🏻🏫🌱🏹
February 25, 2024 at 7:57 AM
@ceciliedk That first GIF…I just noticed the snake. Wow! That is so so apt!!!
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 25, 2024 at 10:35 AM
Thank you!
emsel
February 26, 2024 at 12:34 AM
I applaud the visual context you have put in to explain the depth of the post, but on a lighter note, your first gif cracked me up 🤣🤣🤣 The snake coming out of Kyung Min and wrapping itself around an innocent prey like Ha Neul is LOL 🤣🤣🤣 Remarkable! 👏👏👏
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 26, 2024 at 7:08 AM
Slump ep. 10:
Love and War
This horrible person, someone who actually understood our FL, and used his understanding to step on her, get his career and ruin hers; I thought we all might need to see him get what for, in a loop:
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To be or not to be
Sometimes one needs to be told that “to be or not to be” is not “to be a successful doctor or to be nothing”. The alternative to your professional dream still includes living, and if you are lucky, even loving.
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Healer’s
February 26, 2024 at 7:20 AM
❤️ Thank you Cecilie. You’ve said it all. I loved every minute of ep 9 & 10.
DK-Drama 🫘🏆Image of drama FL Character Deterioration🚺🍉🌱
February 26, 2024 at 8:36 AM
Thank you! ❤️
mmmmm
February 26, 2024 at 10:53 AM
May I say that your first gif here is very satisfying to watch. You’re right in that I am very satisfied I can watch this in loops. He deserves that. In loops.
Thanks for your service to the community!!!
lapislazulii
February 26, 2024 at 2:52 PM
something really carthartic about the fact that jeong-woo threw his whole body into that punch 🤜
thank you for gif-ing it so I can watch it on loop!! 💕