Beanie level: Rooftop room dweller

Okay, the one thing I hate is people giving me the silent treatment. If you have a problem with me, say it. Stop giving the silent treatment, especially if you are a 50 year old woman

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So my mom completely blindsided me about something and now I am stressed and upset. I am so absolutely tired of trying to keep it together

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I feel awful these days. Its been a hectic few days due to house renovation and my interview. It feels like i am fraying from the edges and its not a great feeling

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I think I just have a bad habit of absorbing someone else’s stress. When my brother is hyperactive and stressed while studying, I tend to get antsy too

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    That’s totally fair – we talked about this at my in-laws over dinner last night actually. I think we all tend to be influenced a least a little by the atmosphere in the room, but that can get even more absorbed when you’re with someone for an extended period of time and your understanding of the situation is deeper

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Beanies, I reached out to a couple of my friends regarding my interviews and both of them helped me out so much. It was so nice to finally interact with them post my down phase post my exam results

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I am still trying to terms with the disappointments while preparing for the interviews. I have started working and am still finding my groove. Excited for an interview in Mumbai though

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That awful feeling when you realise you worked hard but not hard enough and it really breaks your spirit and you wonder if you have it in you to start again

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    🥺🫂

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    You’ve got this! Don’t give up! It’s ok to take a rest, and I’m confident things will turn out in the best way for you if you don’t give up 🙂

    PS I really like to listen to the OST of Itaewon Class “Start” and “Rock”. They’re great songs to encourage me to never give up 🙂

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      And, it takes courage to decide to change your focus and stop pursuing something, too. Anyway – just rooting for you!

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        Thank you so much. Its been painful but I am learning to come to terms with it

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          I’m wishing you the best and will continue quietly rooting for you on your road to healing, whatever that looks like for you 🙂

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    🫂💙

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    You’ll definitely get there. Roadblocks and all are part of the journey – persevere and review / pivot.

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    🫂 Take care. Life is all about restarts.

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Missing the Matchmakers a lot. It was such a good show.

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I did not have a good start to the year and there was a huge fight at home. I managed to cope with it but my brother had a hard time but i realised that not every start needs to be perfect.

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    Oh no sorry to hear this. The start of a new years is a social construct so treating it as any other day in your life will hopefully mean that it won’t have any more significance than any other bad day. I hope that your brother can find and use the coping skills he needs to get through these bad events as these are skills he will be using regularly for life whether he is living with family or alone or dealing with study or work issues etc.

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    I’m so sorry 😔
    I hope everything is better today. Virtual hugs.

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    I’m so sorry, Mani, sending hugs 🫂
    I agree with Tess— lots of events, dates, milestones, etc.— are social constructs or things the general public make up and place emphasis on, and a lot of times, it’s used as coverups or to put on a face (superficiality), and it all comes down to ego. More often than not, it seems like creating things to be these huge deals— dates— creates more conflict and tensions because so much emphasis is placed on keeping up appearances, —even if to oneself, because sometimes we even feel the need to be prim and proper for ourselves— but going about the day and your own business like any other day will help to mitigate that.

    Take a moment to gather yourself, and maybe you can just go do something with your brother, just the 2 of you?

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      Hi Bebe, it was one of those times where we just needed to let time pass. It made us sad but we need to move on

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    There is tomorrow. 😘
    And maybe the fight brings something positive as well? Some sort of cleansing? New start?
    Hugs. 😘

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    Warning: ⚠️ Sickness description ahead.⚠️
    Sounds about as much fun as mine. I had gone out the night before to a nightclub. Yesterday I felt a little off , a mild headache and some sore muscles. I attributed that to the two beers I had and standing all night at the club. I ate dinner and fell asleep watching movies. I woke up, oddly enough ‘round Midnight. Sweating, pounding head ache, the top of my head was hot. I went to stand up and I was dizzy, and had to sit down . I grabbed my cat bashing cane*, I don’t really bash them , (*local thrift store purchase,carved and painted somewhere other than here) , hobbled to the bath room and threw up. Just like a Christmas Carol, I was visited three times that night by a trip to go puke . 🤢 I went outside it, it felt so good,the cool winter air, I was cold though, my shirt was soaked with sweat.
    Woke up this morning and I’m fine . Whatever it was is gone . Happy New Year !! I actually see it as a purging of 2023 . 🤔

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    I hope things get better with time. And I hope your brother feels better soon.

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    I’m so sorry, Mani-chan. As the others have said, the a new year is of course just any other day – but it’s normal that we often have thoughts or feelings attached to what that means. Tomorrow is another day, and I hope it will be a better one for you. I also hope you feel proud that you handled the situation as best you could, and also had a warm heart for your brother. May the new sun bring new opportunities for ease and grace for you both!

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I’m currently recovering from an awful cold and the renovations at home and being cooped up and being unable to study for long has me very cranky. It sucks big time

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The Matchmakers is so good. The writer holds together the interactions so well. It is just so cohesive. It is very much like Into The Ring, simplistic yet fantastically executed with tons of heart.

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Unfortunately, I couldn’t take myself out on a solo date and instead spent the day moping around at home because the place i was looking forward to going was too far to go alone, acc to my parents

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    Oh, Mani, so bad. But even, try a solo date at home. You by yourself, being idle and enjoying something just for you. And then eat chocolate. Because you deserve it!!

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      I can’t really chill at home anymore, mainly because we are redoing the tiles in our house so there is bountiful dirt all around

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I have an exam tomorrow and I will be taking myself out on a solo date the day after. It has been way too long

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I think i was perhaps one of the few people who was happy with Lisa when she did cabaret. I mean ifyou want to explore a more sexual performance, its better to do with in a relatively smaller audience

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Does anyone else have days where they just feel a bit empty? Its not a bad feeling but just an empty one, Like the drive to execute plans is not there and you are just going through the motions

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    Absolutely Yes
    You are not alone with that feeling

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      Its been a weird day overall. I can’t really pin down why I have been feeling this way. I think I just need to give it some time

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        It helps to have someone to chat with. I hope you have access to a close friend where you can truly be yourself without fear of judgement.

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        You may want to devote 1/2 hr to really figuring out what’s got you stuck so you recognize it in the future when it happens again and get past it more easily. A tool to use is asking yourself are you mad? Sad? Glad? Scared? For example, what are you scared of (I’m generally scared of more than one thing, like not getting the Cmas gifts ordered and sent + having to cook for a sick neighbor + the upcoming tax bill). When you name them, you can address them better as facts or projects, it takes it out of the realm of being in your head. Hope this isn’t too long winded, it’s just something that helps me feel
        less anxious and get moving again. Sometimes calling a friend is a good way to “break” the paralysis/fog.

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          Thank you so much. I think it is the burnout from preparing and giving my entrance exams. I took a break today for half the day and i feel a bit better now. I think it is probably the fact that i have been doing the same thing for a long time now

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    Sure! It happens all the time. Having something scheduled helps me get going.

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The Matchmakers and Destined With You really show the magic a good looking actor can do with good writing and direction vs when he is just used for visuals. Rowoon looks so different in the former

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The Matchmakers really outdid itself with Lady Park. Episode 13 was absolutely wow.

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    Ep 13 was the best yet… wow! Perfectly written and acted villain character. I absolutely can’t wait for the next episodes. I think her plan might be to kill CP when they have the wedding at her house (because she already knows the connection between Ha Na and CP)

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      ooh that is a very interesting theory. I thought she wanted the marriage at her house for diplomatic reasons

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        Since she managed to keep the other prince alive, I am sure she would still make one last effort to get him the throne.. I am surprised that Jung Woo is not seeing this yet (the risk of bringing the CP to her house)

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The Matchmakers really gave me that sweet pain of angst. These two really are an amazing couple. I love this show so much.

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    There was a lump in my throat for most of ep.12, and it’s just ep. 12! I don’t know if my heart can take all the upcoming angst of ep. 13.

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I think i am having one of those days where my brain is really scattered and I can’t seem to concentrate on anything. I guess i am going to take it a little slow

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The Matchmakers continues to be excellent with its writing and I am all here for it.

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