Beanie level: Chaebol’s poor doppelganger

I’m bored and currently looking for something to watch. Any recommendations, Beanies? 🥺

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#Unfamiliar Family. Eun Joo sure makes it hard for herself. She just doesn’t know how not to be angry and how to seek solace. I understand her and I can see how she became so defensive, it’s the only way she knows but that’s because I’m an the all knowing viewer. There are times when she wanted comfort but didn’t know how to ask for it, so she’d lash out and pick on her sister because that’s the only she knows how. She truly needs to heal. It’s because I know, that’s why my heart hurts for her. But in reality, people who are always spiteful never make it easy to be around them. In real life, I’d walk away. Even though I know she just doesn’t know how to ask for help, I’d maintain a distance because I can’t be around that. It’s too emotionally draining.
The parents are a mess! They just don’t know how to talk to each other. Granted, they were kids when they got married but they’re such a mess. It’s their lack of communication that destroys their family. Unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings that could have been cleared up by just having a single conversation.

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I don’t know why it’s hard for me pick my all time favs. I suddenly can’t remember so I’ll just list the dramas that come to my head that I remember really loving.

Just Dance – 10%
Age of Youth (1&2) – 10%
Dear My Friends – 10%
Avengers Social Club – 10%
Reply 1998 – 10%
Prison Playbook – 10%
It’s Okay, That’s love – 10%
Healer – 10%
Be Melodramatic – 10%
Radiant Office – 10%

Honourable mentions: My Ahjussi, I will go to you when the weather is Nice, APAD, Master’s Sun, Forest of Secrets, Live, Cruel city, Her Private Life, Shine or Go Crazy, Another Miss Oh, Because this is My First Life, Go Back Couple, Miss Hammrabi (this list won’t stop at this point.
Anyway, the MOST HONOURABLE OF THE MENTIONS that I want to add to the list up are GIRLS GENERATION 1979 and DIARY OF A PROSECUTOR. I just can’t remove anything from the list above. Slice of Life is my favorite genre. It’s so obvious 😁

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    I forgot Weighlifting Fairy, Just Between Lovers, Fight my way. I can’t pick 😭😫

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    Haha – I understand your predicament of not being able to pick! Slice of life is one of my two favourite genres too, jostling often with crime/thriller, if something meaty shows up.

    With your list, though, I share 40%. Really liked R88, Healer and Be Melo, and to some extent PP. Did not like Age of Youth or It’s Okay. And the rest I haven’t watched.

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    I LOVE SLICE OF LIFE DRAMAS. And man Koreans do make some good ones. Reply 1988 and avenger’s club, both are my top favorites particularly for being so relatable and soothing.

    Ok but I forgot to mention the main point of the post. We have 55% match

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    FoS, Master’s Sun, and Shine or go craaazyyyyyy

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    10% on the main list and got 5 more if part of my Honorable Mentions

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    50%!

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    70% but if I add up all your Honorable mentions, it’s gonna be 100%! <3

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    60%!

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    40%. I need to watch Dear My Friends

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    20% from your main list and 9 from you HM list 😂😂

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    I got 60% 😁

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It’s been 9 years. You’ve drifted apart. You don’t love each other anymore. Okay, then break up! Oh, but you can’t get yourself to end it. It’s become a routine for you because nine years comes with history and memories. But neither of you are happy together but you’re not willing to accept it so you both continue in a relationship that’s draining your lives. You won’t break up but you’ll start another relationship with someone else. Like?!!? DOES THAT MAKE SENSE TO YOU? Don’t you want to date the other person with ease? THERE ARE NO EXCUSES! We’ve drifted apart is NOT an excuse. If you’ve drifted apart enough to want to start something with me, what’s stopping you from ending it with the other person? YOU THAT IS DATING SOMEONE THAT IS SAYING THAT – ARE YOU OKAY? WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN? I’m so frustrated!! Yeah, yeah, emotions complicate shit but that’s just excuses people make. The reality is that it’s clear cut in scenarios like that. The person cheating has no self respect or respect for their partner. What’s holding them back? They’re not even married with kids. That’s a selfish person. They don’t want to let go of their partner but want to start something with you. Rather than assholes like that, I get angry at the cheating accomplice. Do you really believe the relationship will amount to anything? What kind of dumbass love is blinding you? PLEASE, RECEIVE SOME SENSE CAUSE YOU’RE CLEARLY LACKING SOME!

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TBH, I’ve never understood why in ‘caught red-handed while cheating’ type scenarios the women almost always goes for the ‘other woman’. Like, you don’t know her. Your beef isn’t with her. There’s a chance she was being cheated on too. Irregardless, she owes you nothing. Your SO – who clearly finds you insignificant – is who you should be dealing with but I guess most people are charged with emotions. That being said, this is the first time I’ve ever wanted the ‘other woman’ to be dragged by the hair. It’s Han Ye ri’s character. I like her character but I’m annoyed with her atm and I think she needs some sense slapped back into her – literally! So I’m hoping she gets her hair dragged and slapped and remembers the shame and that slaps her back into reality. I mean, what does she like in the guy? He’s so sleazy 🤢

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    I understand how you feel. The thing is, if there are two ppl involved in a wrong we get angry and disappointed with the person we have expectations with. My stance is that getting into a relationship knowing that the guy is cheating on his gf is as bad as cheating itself. However, if one of my siblings or friends cheats on their partner, I’ll be angry with them not the person they are cheating with, but if sibling/close friend gets involved in a relationship knowing the other person is already in a commited relationship, I’ll be angry and disappointed with them, not the person doing the actual cheating. Here, Han Ye Ri’s our heroin and her character was established as very likable so we had expectations of her which is why we are/were frustrated and angry with her.

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    I totally get you.
    If you are a single woman and you decide to have a relation with a man who is married or who has a couple, the only one who has a problem is the man. (Same thing applies if it is a single man with a married women, it’s the one who has a couple and a commitment the one who’s doing wrong).
    I’m tired of this: you can’t get in the middle of a couple. Well, if the two members of the couple are convinced about their feelings and their commitments, then no one can get in the middle. If someone does it is because one of the members of the couple is not committed enough. And that one would be the only one to blame.

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      I don’t have anything against cheating in a drama, usually I think it’s nice if show is trying to say everyone should be allowed to find their way and sometimes they will hurt others in the process, even loved ones. I don’t think I’ve ever considered the third party of this to be so completely blameless tough, this person knows someone is being deceived, it’s only proper for them to feel a little guilty over that.

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I’ve decided to give Unfamiliar family a try and I’m pleasantly surprised to see it’s only 16 episodes. I don’t know why I thought it was a weekender. I’m only 30mins in and I must say, I already like the tone of the drama and Han Ye Ri (but I always like her). I’m really curious as to how their family dynamics came to be. Especially the oldest daughter – why is she so angry? I love layered characters and I’m excited to explore the trajectory of this story.

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    Why does my heart hurt so much for the mum even though I don’t know the story?

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      Because it’s painful.
      I know, I’ve been there.
      I’m telling you you will love all the characters, even the ones you don’t like (I didn’t really liked the parents, so many issues).
      And the show is wonderfully well written and better acted. Oh, I can’t decide which of the actors is the best.

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        I’m 4 episodes in and I’m pissed at Eun Hee. That her boss is clearly a sleeze! And she should know better. But I’m enjoying the story. I still feel for the mother because it’s so unfair. After everything they’ve been through to where they are now, he just gets to… forget and pretend like the times it wasn’t as bad. She now has to stay in this marriage she wants to escape with a man she used to love (or still does) but has the face of the one she is clearly angry at. Makes me wonder what started to go wrong and how they stopped communicating and started being so selfish. It’s one of the reasons marriage scares me. People change.. or get comfortable enough to show their true selves.

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          Well, you know, I can totally relate to EH falling for Mr. Player, and it’s not only because that big library… Oh, if only it would be so easy to say no to all Mr. Players in the world. Sometimes you just want to have fun…

          Regarding your comment about marriage, I really think the issue (and that was one of the main plots in the drama) is communication, or the lack of it. People need to talk to each other, know how the other feel and express their feelings. I’ve said so many times in the recaps that the Kims should come to any of my family gatherings to know how we freely talk about anything, about our past stories, where we come from, our hopes and feel the laughters we share. Communication is the key to happiness, imo.

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    I fell in love with this one little by little. Now that I’ve finished the whole drama it became one of my favs this year.

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I didn’t really expect to be enjoying ‘Into the ring/Memorials’ this much. I’ve watched the latest preview at least 6 times. I’m so excited!!! It better not be a tease!!! Even though I am enjoying IONTB, this drama is currently my favorite airing one. It’s Goo Sera and Nana!!! And Gong Myung full on smiled and laughed. TWICE in the episode and also, in the preview. Yes, I was counting.

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    I just caught up with the show and came to the wall just because of that preview! Ahhhh, please let it be real. Let her make the first move. They are so delightful, weird, refreshing, I can’t get enough.

    It’s definitely gunning for IONTB.

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    This show has been such a breath of fresh air – from the visuals to the actual storyline. Definitely my favorite show this airing season!!

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    Oh, I ‘m living for that preview, it’d better not be a tease!!!

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      Well we did just finish episode 8 and this about the time that the romance really starts to flourish. So who knows?
      fingers crossed big time!

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As @isthatacorner suggested, is August’s challenge going to be about books? 🥺🥺 This is one challenge I can’t resist. I also want to learn about new potential books to read. 😆

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I’m watching ‘Dinner mate’ and I haven’t felt this disgusted and angry at second leads in a while. Every time they appear on screen, I just want to break something. They’re such entitled twats! Especially Na-Eun’s character! It’s like she feels she owns him. It’s not love. They genuinely believe they own these characters and that’s why they can’t understand why the characters don’t want to be with them after everything. I DETEST being imposed upon so it just feels like there’s a hand on my throat but Beanies recommended that there’s amazing chemistry between the leads (and I saw episode 15’s cliffhanger), so I’ll stick this through for now because I’m in the mood for a light romcom. I’ll just skip the 2nd leads,
P.S: I can’t Na-Eun seriously. She’s clearly so young and she’s supposed to be around the same age as the other actors? Really?

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    Keep a finger on the FF button all the time ^^

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    It’s the only way you will survive the entire drama.
    The OTP is the best I’ve seen in a long time, but I don’t know why writer-nim decided to give screen time to the exes (why, why, WHY???).
    At least I can say that Lee Jin Hoon acting is top notch and even if you hate his character (I did) he is making him a real person struggling to live.
    Regarding Son Na Eun, I’ve already sworn I will never watch anything she’s in.

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IOTNBO’s ‘Cheerful Dog’ reminds me of the Tethered Camel story in It’s Okay, That’s Love. IOTL still remains one of my favorites irregardless of how they handled Hae-Soo Genophobia. It was introspective and somewhat poignant. It was a drama that made feel things even years after it ended. I tried to screen record it on Netflix but it wouldn’t let me 😤 so I had to go through illegal means. Episode #6 IOTL

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    this is such a good drama.. unfortunately didn’ t get enough ratings when aired..so sad

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Is it just me or has DB been acting weird on Chrome? It’s been like this for over a week now. I can’t like a comment, post a video or just check my notifications. But it’s okay on Safari. And it’s Just on my iPad, it’s also on my phone so I know the problem is not with the iPad.

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    Hm, I haven’t noticed any issues

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    I have some issues in my laptop. I have to press twice at least to send a comment or to check on a notification.

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I’ve just finished this British Tv show called ‘Trying’ and it was an awesome watch. It’s about a youngish couple and their journey to getting adoption (well, getting approved for adoption’. It was funny, wholesome and fast (8 episodes). I watched it cause it reminded of my Oh My Baby’s plot of someone who can’t have kids but wants to. I’ll highly recommend!

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I think I stopped at the 2nd or 3rd episode of Itaewon Class so I didn’t get to meet Kim Da Mi (?) but from my fast scrolling through the wall, (which was clearly not fast enough 😝) I gathered (probably inaccurately) that people weren’t exactly happy with her character and that she was manipulative? Not sure but anyway, the little bits I unintentionally retained has somewhat morphed her character into this cold, non-smiling, emotionless and manipulative person or something of the like. For the first time today, I watched a clip of IC recommended on YT and I was shocked to see the actress wasn’t stiff and the character emoted – a lot! It wasn’t somewhat disorienting because I’d imagined her in a very different way. I guess all I saw were Beanies’ rantings and only took the bad or mean aspects of their descriptions and made the character into that. Lol

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    I really liked her character. She was strong and independent. Not my all time fav but I will always remember her.

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    I think a lot of people had trouble reconciling the fact that a female lead was explicitly a sociopath and that meant that yes, she was manipulative, when that was literally that was the point. Sociopaths are manipative. Lots of people seemed too ready to write her off as “bad” when it was literally her character description to act selfishly. I personally loved her and thought she was a great character and female lead.

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      And her acting was top notch.

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      That’s something I’ve noticed. People complain about the ‘candy’ character often and demand a different character but the different character they want seems like she should fit into a mould they’ve created. I personally appreciate ‘different’ female characters. I might not like what they do, agree with their moral compass or even like the characters themselves but I appreciate how different they are from the typical candy or crazy possessive ex that dramaland gives. Why? Because people like that exist in real life. People aren’t one dimensional and can encompass good and bad at the same time. I love complexities in characters. Female or male but male characters often get to explore that more often.

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        Exactly this. Yes, the candy is frustrating, but you can’t complain about that and then also dislike the other options you’re given. Women are complex and allowed to be imperfect beyond just being poor. I love the character here because she was explicitly something that was not really able to ever be “good” but who instead had to learn to adapt and had to learn to be empathetic since she literally did not have the capability to be these things naturally. So many people were like “She’s not doing X for the right reasons” or “How do we know she’s really changed/learned” when that was the point. If a character is a sociopath you don’t know. And that’s OK because she’s still interesting and has a whole character arc which is related to those very ideas.

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    I wish I was here back then to back up my girl! I LOVED Kim Da Mi. She is he epitome of a bold responsible young girl who had trouble empathizing. And the actress was so good at being Da Mi. I would’ve dropped the show if it was not for her.

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    I didn’t dislike her character as much as I didnt like how they used her. 🤷‍♀️
    But I also dropped IC and never quite get the hype past the first couple eps.

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Oh My Baby. I feel her desperation to have a child and biology is not on her side. Where medicine can help, the government is a hinderance!
One thing I keep wondering about is why no one is bringing up adoption. It’s essentially the same thing. Since getting a sperm donor/IVF is illegal as an unmarried woman, it’s not much difficult than adopting as an unmarried woman. Either way, she’s willing to be a single parent and since she’s subfertile, I’m surprised ( not really TBH) she hasn’t thought about adoption as an option. I know it’s most likely due to the culture. From what I’ve seen, SK does place a huge emphasis on blood/biological relations to the point that it can be harmful. My culture is similar. Adoption makes sense to me. You don’t even have to get pregnant. At the end of the day, does it matter how the child came to be? They’re yours!
I’m at the stage in my life (early 20’s) where I’m unsure of what I want. I’d always wanted to have a kid. I never had that ‘typical’ marriage or walking down the aisle dream that apparently a lot of girls had (still yet to meet said girls). It was just always about me working, coming back home to my teenage kid and having a good relationship with him/her. Subconsciously, no husband and I never thought of being pregnant. As soon as I knew what adoption was, it made so much sense. I felt this way till my teens.
But with understanding myself, I’m realizing that I just wanted a kid cause I thought it was cute to be a young mum with her teenaged kid cause my mum and I fought a lot. But now, when I think of having a kid, all I feel is immense responsibility and being shackled. I know it probably comes with my age and life experience but that’s how I currently feel. It’s so tough being responsible for myself that I don’t want to be responsible for anyone else. I think babies are cute but after 2 seconds, I want to someone to take them away. Kids don’t like me. I’ve never been good with them.
I just want the rosy parts of being a parent which is impossible. Then I realized the role I always wanted to take on was not that of a parent, but an aunt. A cool aunt! I get to love them and my brothers do the raising.
Still, I don’t know what the future holds but I think if I go on to have children, it’d be in my 40’s. And while I’m not sure whether or not I’ll have kids, I’m sure I won’t be getting pregnant. Adoption is the perfect option for me. It’s why I never got bothered by the thought of biological clock in terms of fertility. I wonder if I’m the only one who feels this way.

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    I don’t know if I’d ever want to be a parent but if I do I think I will definitely try adoption. I wouldn’t want to willingly bring yet another child into this crappy world and there are so many children out there without homes.

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      This has always been a big reason on why, in the event I do have a kid, I’d adopt. There are way too many children in the system and not a lot of them get adopted or go to good foster homes. I’d rather adopt an already born child than birth one myself. Especially teenagers in the system.

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    With Hari, I’m sad they didn’t explore adoption. But I have a feeling it’s more than about having a kid. I feel like she wants the whole experience of being a mom, pregnancy included. But that’s the only justification I have. The hope I have is that she believes finding a forever partner is equally as miraculous as getting pregnant. Maybe the idea of adoption may come out later?

    As for me, I’ve always thought about adoption. I feel like the only thing that would hold me back is how expensive and emotionally burdensome the process can be for both me and any potential child. In America, newborn adoptions can cost up to 50K domestically and internationally. Foster adoption would cost less but the main goal fostering is to reunite kids back with their biological parents, so if they were unable to reunite with their parents and are now up for adoption, I would need to brace myself for the emotional and psychological damage and stress the kid I adopt may have. I’m not sure if I’m at a place where I can do that alone (since I’m unmarried) but if I were to get married, I would need the consent of my spouse to be able to take on that burden as well. As you can tell, I thought long and hard about this (lol) but it’s still a work in progress for me.

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    You are not the only one. I am in my late twenties and I do not think I will ever have kids, because I still struggle to care for myself properly, let alone someone else. Also, pregnancy scares me. I once told a mother that I thought it was terrifying to carry another human being in your body for nine months, and she looked at me as if I was a monster. I hail from a day care worker’s nest, so I can handle kids, and I am the cool fairy godmother to my niece and nephew, but I am glad the moment I can return the troublemakers to my sister. My aunt is adopted, and that was explained to us pretty early without any embellishments. She is your aunt. Period. Just like that. However, it is a difficult and expensive process.

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      Pregnancy didn’t use to scare me. I just couldn’t imagine myself pregnant. In all the make-up scenarios I thought of as a kid, I just had a kid. I was never pregnant.
      Then, I got to know more about pregnancy and how the women in my family change during pregnancy. But what really scares me is giving birth. I don’t want to. I’ve had the opportunity to witness a vaginal child birth and it was… yeah, I’m not doing it. I was with 3 other students (female) when the woman gave birth. I was the only one disgusted and I voiced out my disgust and no one appreciated it. I always say, childbirth is a miracle – a very primal one.

      I’m somewhat envious of you. I’m shit with kids. I like babies cause they’re very cute but there’s not much I can do with them. I also get bored of them very easily and can’t stand actually taking care of one. I’m not good with kids. I don’t have the patience for them. I don’t know how to interact with them and I don’t want them to feel irrelevant or like they’re disturbances but I can’t help but feel very tired when I interact with them. They sense I’m trash and back away. But hopefully when my brothers have kids, I’d get along with them and they will grow to understand that their aunt is awkward even though she pretends to be cool and will buy you stuff. I really look forward to it more than I expected. Every time I thought of myself in the future (in my 40’s & 50’s), I always imagined work and then my home. My quiet home where I lived alone and didn’t have guest bedrooms and a dining room) because I just never subconsciously envisioned sharing with anyone. My core personality legit wants to be alone. Along the line, I’ve started thinking, ‘oh, I should have another bedroom.’ I’m planning for when my niece/nephew wants to visit or comes to live with me because they’re starting out college. I don’t live in the same country as my family. I have two brothers but I’m just realizing I’ve been planning for one niece/nephew. Guess they’re going to fight to be my favorite because three bedrooms is too many! 😂

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        Yeah, I guess I do not want kids because I do not want to go through the whole pregnancy and childbirth process, so I understand what you mean.

        As for getting along with kids, you might turn out all right. I do not know you and can sadly not vouch for you, but I used to be awkward around babies/kids until 4 years ago as well. When my goddaughter/niece was born, I was so scared to hold her and that I would hurt her or mess up. But nobody was having my insecurities and she was in my arms before I knew it. Everyone told me that it would change with her because she was family and in my case they were right. When her little brother/my godson/nephew was born three years later I practically snatched him from his mother’s arms!😂 I do see my sisters and her kids often, so I admit that I have another advantage there.

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      My point about the drama wasn’t really about Jang Nara’s character picking or fully exploring adoption. I understand and agree with you. There are so many complexities into having a baby irregardless of the process.
      My point was just noticing how not a single character has mentioned the possibility of adoption. It’s almost as if it is not an option or it doesn’t exist. That’s why I inferred it was probably a cultural thing. If you watch the drama (it’s a really good watch!), in Jang Nara’s desperate search for a sperm donor and the warranted and unwarranted counseling she’s received from loved ones and nosy passerbys (not even her gynecologist) mentioned ‘adoption can be option for some people!’ In the show, it almost feels like the concept doesn’t exist. That’s what I was pointing out.

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    I was like you and @mindy as well. Didn’t want to have kids and if than to adopt because there’re so many of them waiting for better life or to be loved. Until I had one when I was 34 and I wouldn’t change it. Now I have a second one and I’m enjoying it to the fullest. With first one I was suffering from severe postnatal depression ( suicidal thoughts, bad mom thoughts and giving up my son for adoption), it did pass but I know now why I was having a hard time then, but that’s another story.

    It’s really hard and expensive to adopt even in any European country, mostly you need to be married and have a great financial situation. There were lots of Korean babies, children adopted in France 20- 30 years ago and if those parents weren’t rich they have had it really rough. At some stage, mostly as a teenager, an adopted person wants to look for her/his real parents and adoptive parents need to provide a deep understanding of why it’s like that. That’s why when a child is born to poor parents he/she can’t swap them out and loves or hates them but can’t change.

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      I’ve heard so many stories of people who didn’t want kids and then got them and wouldn’t ever change it. I’m always happy to hear that. It makes me wonder what I’d do in a scenario like that given that I’m not fully opposed to having children.
      I’ve subconsciously been planning my life around being alone and most of me looks forward to it. But if there’s one thing life has taught me in my short lifetime is that, no one knows the future. 10 years ago, I wanted to have a child. Today? I don’t think so. Who knows what I would have learnt along the way that could change my mind? Life’s a journey so I’ve come to the decision to not 100% rule out things I’m unsure about. But right now, at this point in my life, I don’t see myself actively planning to have kids unless I’m in my late 40’s and it’s adoption because the career path I’ve chosen (the one that speaks to me) is one that, in the event I have a family, I’ll either have to sacrifice or let my family suffer it. Based on my personality, as of now, I’d be miserable either way.

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    It’s forbidden for single people. It’s ridiculous. They imagine everyone there already knows this so she doesn’t even think about it.

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    The point of adoption was discussed elsewhere (perhaps in the fanwall or under the recap). As a mother myself, I can totally relate to the want of becoming a biological mother going through the whole process – a unique natural ‘gift’ for woman. It’s more than about having a child although getting pregnant and have a smooth delivery is never a given.

    Coming from a Western country with adoption locally and overseas readily available, I have three colleagues choosing IVF despite the physical and emotional traumas as well as the prohibitive costs – even surrounded by the best possible family support. One succeeded in having 3 children through IVF while the other two remain childless.

    At the end of the day, it’s about informed and personal choice. No straightforward answer here, not to mention adoption is a taboo in Korea.

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    When this whole adoption discussion appeared in the comments, I tried to look for some information, and what I found (although in non official sites and only forums and comments) is that in SK it is not possible to adopt a child if you are single. So HaRi faces the same problem, and you have to think that adoption is a process that can take years (like 3 or 4).
    HaRi has given herself 6 months time to get pregnant. She needs to do that in that time, because she needs to get surgery as soon as possible. Endometriosis is a very serious illness that affects us woman and is not usually diagnosed on time, mainly because we are told that when we have our periods it’s normal it hurts and just take a pain killer. We should all pay attention to our health.

    And then there’s this other thing that I like how it’s shown: HaRi never worried before it would be too late because she feels she’s still young. And we can feel young and healthy, but the fact is that woman should better be a mother in her 20’s than in her 40’s. Very few women get a pregnancy in their 40’s the natural way, without any specific treatment, specially if it’s their first child. And we never think about it when we get older. That’s exactly what happened to HaRi, she always thought she had time and then the doctor told her about her probabilities. I know the scene was harsh and it may have seen as her doctor was being even rude, but I think it emphasized the shock of realizing her time was about to end.

    And regarding you and how you feel about kids and that you’re not good with them, just think that if you ever become a mother your child would not be a kid but YOUR kid. It’s something different. I have a friend, and she’s never liked children, in fact she was really upset when she found out she was pregnant, and she always say: I still don’t like kids, but I LOVE my beautiful daughter.

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      I am totally with you – I never like kids and still don’t like kid, with my daughter being the only exception in the whole world. It sounds terrible and is a fact.

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        It doesn’t sound terrible to me, but totally coherent.

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    I’m not familiar with SK law, but I imagine that if getting a sperm donor is a shut door, adopting as a single parent is probably also impossible!
    I live in an European country with a more progressive legislation, and here adopting as a single parent albeit legal is still almost impossible. I work in the school system, so I get to see a lot of adopted children, and they are 98% from international adoptions and adopted by a mom and a dad. International adoptions bring their own set of issues, but, for starters, they are costly and usually you need to fit a mold too: straight, married, under 40, with a steady job but free time, able-bodied, etc.
    All this to say that Hari’s outlook on adoption is probably even worst than on conceiving herself, endometriosis* and all.

    *I’m happy that this drama talks about endometriosis. It affects women’s work life and intimate relationships, and it can be truly debilitating. People don’t talk enough about it!

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Kkondae Intern…? Who has seen the first episode?

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I really like Go Joon and his character in Oh My Baby.

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    Did he redeem himself? He was such a jerk on ep 1 when he talked to her.

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      Yes, he did, he did!

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      I know this is late.
      I didn’t think he was a jerk… unprovoked. She did eagerly approach him (after he’d already turned her down) but he didn’t know that she didn’t know that. So in his head, here’s a desperate and weird woman trying to hit on him (and she was acting pretty weird) and then, she touched him without his consent, especially since there were no ‘vibes’. He must have felt justified. In the same episode, he helped her when he thought she needed help. I didn’t think he needed to redeem himself. They’ve cleared up the misunderstanding.

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        I know she was being creepy with the touching but I just thought he was having pleasure saying mean things to someone who wanted his attention. He could have used a million reasons to reject her but instead he went right for the cheap shot, telling she fell in love with him, was needy and delusional. That was a lot of insult for a simple awkward flirt, this is a jerk response so he needed some redemption for me.

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I’m only 10mins into Oh My Baby’s 3rd episode and I want to bitchslap the doctor. Why is she still seeing the same rude doctor? Also, I’m wondering if it’s true that single women can’t have an IVF in SK. Surely that can’t be true? ‘A spouse’s consent is needed to receive sperm from a donor?’ I refuse to believe that this is true.

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    Considering that you can only divorce if there’s a cause (not because you just want and no explanation needed), as much as I find this outraging, I think it may be true.
    Not that SK is in feminism vanguard… :/

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    It’s probably true, someone said they can’t adopt either. They have a long road ahead.

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    I read recently that only 2% (2! that’s not a typo) of children in SK are born out of wedlock, compared to 40% on average across the OECD. So it wouldn’t surprise me if a single woman can’t have IVF

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    She’s so annoying. I wish Ha-ri can just go to Seok-hyung at Yulje (Hospital Playlist) coz her doctor is awful.

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I need to see Kim Woo Bin in something…like now! I’ve been watching clips of him in running man and my gawd, I miss his giggle and eyebrows!! 😫😫 But for now, I’m just happy he’s healthy.

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I really liked Oh My Baby’s premier episodes and I could go on and on explaining why (JANG NA RA) but I’ll be vain today – Go Joon is f##king HOT! 🔥 🔥
That is all and thanks for coming to my Ted Talk!

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I know it’s the middle of the month already but the theme of the month changes so much. What’s this month’s theme? I wasn’t on DB for a while.

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    LOL..The first ones were 30 Day challenge and Grateful May.
    Then people started expand handle name and some questionnaire. Looks like a new theme starts every week!
    Some of us are planning to do the 30 day challenge till the end!

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      I missed it so I don’t know what exactly constitutes the 30 day challenge. I see the hashtag but with different challenges(?). How do I know what today’s challenge is?

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    If you need the prompts for each of the days of the 30-Day Challenge , feel free to visit my Fan Wall ☺️☺️

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    The theme of the month is the drama challenge. The others were just boredom busters and fillers 🤣

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    Hahaha we somehow decided to do ALL THE THINGS this month 😆

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